Weight loss difficulties

[Ineedtochange]

Hi.Recovering binge eater here. Been working on my emotional triggers and have lost 4 stone so far. My mind is now doing this odd thing where it wants to celebrate and relax my eating a bit "because I've lost 4 stone and deserve a treat" while the other half is saying "you're still a morbidly obese woman, you've nothing to celebrate".

Its a cycle I have lived in for decades and I'm working to overcome it.

Yes I am feeling better but I am no where close to being a healthy weight.

My perception of how I currently look is not meeting the reality. It's a bitter pill to swallow which increases the urge to over eat.

Sigh

[Frenchfields Restart Jan 2025]

You sound like you are doing amazingly well with your weightloss journey, and with overcoming your eating problems so give yourself a pat on the back and be proud of that. Do you mark your journey in any way -perhaps treat yourself to something you’d like, not food but perhaps a piece of jewellery or a new lipstick. With respect to what you look like -I suspect we all suffer a little from body dysmorphia after losing a lot of weight. Have you still got some of your bigger clothes, if so maybe put smething on and enjoy how loose they feel. Even go and try some new things on in your new slimmer size. Onward and downward.

[HazelP17 Healthy BMI 8st 7lbs]

Celebrate of course celebrating every little step is very important to create a long-lasting habit.

Every motivation app will tell you the same.

There are so many things you can use as reward besides food. A pamper hot bath, a massage, a new piece of clothes.

Not only the reward itself is important but also reflecting on your achievement. Maybe even more important.

You will often see me writing and celebrating when I reached a tiny-goal.

On one hand I feel bad because I don't want to be too overjoyed when others maybe struggling or had a gain.

But I need this way of celebrating my success to keep me motivated and focused on the goal.

[HazelP17 Healthy BMI 8st 7lbs]

And by the way losing 4 stones isn't just a little.

It's a huge, enormous, amazing, great archivement and you can be very proud of yourself and what you already have archived.

I always write 'I'm dancing in the rain'

I would dance in the whole flat, being funny with my dog pal and just celebrate. No food is needed to feeling good about yourself.

[BridgeGirl Administrator 2 stone]

You have a lot to celebrate, so please remind yourself of that. From what you say, you still have a way to go, but forward is the best direction for you.

[Lynne64]

Hiya from a fellow binge eater. My understanding is that recovering from this type of disorder starts with normalising your relationship with food, not dieting. I guess that's why your mind is still doing that 'funny thing'. As a binge eater, the thought of not dieting fills us with dread, doesn't it. But if we want to truly be free from this hell, it's what we need to do. All the best from a fellow traveller

[Cockneyblue Restart March 2025]

You are doing really well, you should be so proud of yourself. Well done 👍

[lowT163]

for me it’s the sugar. If you can just eliminate that when you do eat you will still be moving forward.