hello. I'm new here currently a slimming world member but out of target by about a stone during lockdown so I feel your pain. Don't be so hard on yourself, be kind to yourself, it's strange & troubling times for all of us. I'm going back to group in 2 weeks even though I feel embarrassed about my gain but I know I'm not the only one. You did it once you can do it again. Just need to focus. Good luck. X
This is a great place for information and support so get involved as much as possible to get the most out of it.
You'll find a Welcome message and all our clubs and activities by following this link healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh... to Pinned Posts. A good place to start would be joining a weekly weigh in and using the Daily Diary, where members share their meal plans.
This healthunlocked.com/?tour=true will give you a tour of the forum and. along with Pinned Posts, will help you find your way around.
PS. The app is very limited so I'd advise you to get rid of the app and use your browser to find the forum website.
That’s really hard, I’m so sorry. But I think you DO know you can do it again and you’ve come in here to get support doing it. How long did it take you to lose the weight? A year? Two? Imagine yourself in a year’s time and where you could be! Don’t hide away, that’ll make you feel sadder. The weight is just an annoying thing you want to get rid of, it doesn’t define you, people will want to see YOU whatever size you are. An Admin person will be along soon to show you where everything is - weekly weigh ins and the daily diary are full of amazingly supportive people. Good luck and see you soon!
I had 2 pregnancies 20 months apart and I got my biggest size ever. Pregnancy, maternity leave, overwhelmed with a newborn then with a newborn + toddler, on top of everything a lockdown, anxiety... It's too much!
I just joined 4 weeks ago, but I'm so glad I found this place, a lovely wisdom hive 🥰
You are on the way now, just gave your first step. I can't probably give you much advice as still learning here, but I'm sure you will find your way. Just stick to this forum! Read you around 😊
You have certainly found the right place for help and support to improve your eating habits. There’s loads of ideas, plenty of like-minded folk, people with helpful tips, sympathy and motivation. It’s all here for the discovery.
Good luck as you start your journey. We’re all here to help you attain your goal.
I can feel your distress in your post and I see that you have already had two friendly answers here.
Firstly congratulations on the birth of your baby
I am sure that you are feeling tired and emotional, the first few months of motherhood can be like that. It's hard to find time for yourself and it's so easy just to pick at the wrong food. You have lost the weight before and you can do it again. Just start with small steps. You know you are in a vicious circle, so step one, get the junk food out of the house, tell your husband how you feel and ask for support from him. Adding good fats to your meals will help to make you feel full and keep you satiated and you won't have the same desire to snack.
Join a weigh in here, preferably tomorrows and join in with the Daily Diary. Come and talk to us daily so that you feel supported.
You can do this
If you haven't already, please take the time to read the Welcome Newbie post, this will help you to navigate the forum, which is best done using the full website and not the app.
Please also take a look at all of the Challenges, Clubs and Events that we have, to help to keep you motivated and engaged with the forum.
The above link will take you to all the information you need. Participation is key to success and I would recommend that you at least join the Daily Diary and a Weigh In day of your choice.
As a peer to peer support group, we all benefit from encouragement and support from one another, so look forward to seeing you join in around the forum
If you haven’t already taken it, here is a link to a tour of the forum,
Would you consider going back to a weightloss group as you did so well before?
You have just had a baby and I don't know if you are feeding her yourself but, that does affect our weight and appetite. Pregnancy hormones and giving birth affect our weight and weight loss. I have four children and I put on 4 stone with my first which was bizarre to me as I just became ravenous near the end! I was determined to loose it and walked about 5 miles to my mums every few days and that was all I did plus I stopped having my pregnancy milk shake, cheese salad sandwich and chips which had become a habit. I was back down to pre pregnancy weight in no time and then was pregnant again and again!
It can be done, I promise you. You have identified two things here the when- in the evening and what- crisps, chocolate and fizzy drinks. So, this makes it easier to work on. The when could be easier as it is I guess when you have time on your hands. You could literally do something to distract your self, reading watching TV, gardening, having a bath with candles, doing some exercise maybe, anything that you know would take your mind off things. The what, you can also change by not getting the things that are adding to your weight and ultimately you feeling bad about yourself. Some people can just stop buying things, I myself prefer healthier swaps. So- things like skinny popcorn, yogurt, fresh fruit, dark chocolate and diet drinks or straight fizzy water . Brushing your teeth after your last meal can help so you get into the routine of that being it for the night.
You did so well with losing the 8 stones initially and having a baby, the stress of lockdown and then feeling like you daren't go to see your friends are stopping you feeling in control but, you are in control. You can do this! I did and I didn't think I could either! yet, here I am nearly 3 stones lighter since November.
Again, I am mentioning that you just had a baby and it times time to adjust to being a new mum and getting into the new routine of all that gives you. Be easy on yourself.
On the bright side, you are still 3.5 stone lighter. See if you can find a diet that is more sustainable than your previous one, it needs to be a lifestyle change and ideally you shouldn't feel too hungry while following it. There is Mediterranean, Low GI, LCHF the list is endless, just find one that you think you will be able to follow long term, in the end they are the ones that will work for you, although maybe not as quickly as you like.
When you say a weight loss group I assume it was a low fat, calorie controlled diet. This doesn't suit everyone and even if you summon the willpower to see it through (most don't) you will often find people put it all back on.
Having 2 babies didn't affect me (but I am male) but it's often said that good sleep is essential as part of your weight loss programme and I suspect that isn't working so well.
I'm sorry you're feeling so bad about yourself! I can relate tho: in 2016/7 I lost over 7st and ended up regaining 5st. The difference is I can't blame any of it on pregnancy and childbirth! Mine was just me being crap 🤣
Try to remember that you have everything you need to succeed inside you. You've done it once: you can do it again! Please don't waste anymore time beating yourself up! Everyone here is rooting for you. Just take one day at a time 💛
Were you ever diagnosed with gestational diabetes? What you describe sounds like classic T2D.
There are two established methods for fixing the predicament you're in. "Eating less" will not work - you'll just feel ravenously hungry and binge even more. Since this is a biological malfunction, willpower isn't really relevant.
1) Very-low-calorie diets, as exemplified by the Michael Mosley approach.
2) A very-low-carbohydrate diet.
I personally wouldn't recommend (1) because it's pointlessly unpleasant, but it does work and many people swear by it. (2) is a lot easier to cope with; in fact most people find it reasonably enjoyable because you're allowed to eat to appetite, albeit with a restricted range of foods.
In either case, you only have to stick with it for a couple of weeks; at the end of that period, you'll find your appetite is drastically altered and you will not need to exercise much willpower at all to avoid crisps etc. This is not a "diet". It's a targeted procedure with a specific aim (ie., to recalibrate the way your body handles fat- and carb-based energy).
After those first two weeks you reintroduce starchy foods slowly until you're basically eating "normal" meals minus the white carbs, which will keep you both healthy and slim.
Hello there, congratulations for posting, it’s a really brave and important first step. lots of lovely advice off the forum users. We have all been there and done that and starting over. You clearly know what to do and some of it you are already doing by having some healthy meals. I think it’s quite common to eat in the evening after meals then it becomes an habit and we get out of control. I was like you eating chocolate or crisps guzzling fizzy drinks. As others have said ditch these foods, if there not there you can’t eat them. Stock your cupboards with healthy options. I went cold turkey on the fizzy drinks and just drink plain water, like many I didn’t even like water at first however after a week or two I was finding drinking it filled me up. I do think it could be the fizzy drink making you snack as that’s exactly what I use to do. Another tip could you go to bed earlier in the evening as you have a little one, it’s harder to snack if you are upstairs in bed, I imagine you aren’t getting too much sleep. I started of calorie counting as that was all I really knew, then I started dropping out carbs, not sure why I think I just read so much that I thought this might be worth a try. I think it’s helping me, I lost 1 stone in five weeks, I’m going to weigh myself again at the end of the month, if I’ve lost a few more pounds that would be good. ( I’m scared of what the scales say so I’m just avoiding them for now and trying to eat as healthily as I can, but I’m no saint just the bulk of foods are healthy) Most people are probably better off weighing themselves, I’m just a bit odd! I think it’s easier if you set yourself small achievable targets to start, rather then thinking I have 5 stone to loose, that’s too daunting or it is for me. You can do it , just read the boards and take that first step. In the process you can enjoy taking baby for a walk a little bit of fresh air will do you both good. Don’t look back, you can’t change what went before but you can change today and make your future brighter! just keep moving forward with baby steps and you will reach your goal again ! GOOD LUCK 😊
Hi, I’ve certainly been where you are and I would guess many others have too. You’ve just had a baby - congratulations - and the world has changed so much these past few months. Please don’t be so hard on yourself. Enjoy your baby and take care of yourself. Take small steps and you’ll get there. Sending love and hugs to you. Xx
You poor lady. You must feel awful, having achieved so much but now watching your hard won gains being frittered away.
However, please don't despair. In the midst of this misery there truly are at least two very bright rays of sunshine.
One, you've done it before. So you know, you absolutely KNOW, that deep in yourself you've got what it takes to achieve your target weight. If you could do it once then there's no reason why you can't do it again!
And two, you're here on this forum. Which is evidence that you're recognising the problem. You'd be shocked at how many people in your position will spin themselves some self-deceiving story to hide from the truth. But you're made of sterner stuff, and are looking reality square in the eye. Good for you!
Only you can figure out your own personal path to sustained weight loss. But with your honesty and your proven capacity to shed the pounds, I've no doubt that you'll find a route that will work for you in the context of your life.
How I empathise with your feelings. It gets much harder as you get older but you did it before and you know what does not work (crisps, chocolate and fizzy drinks for a start alcoholic drinks?????). Remember what worked for you at WW?
Health unlocked offers a sort of buddy system with daily prods. weekly weighins if you wish and loads of support. Give it a go .
I'm losing weight ever so slowly but at least its (usually) in the right direction. Good luck and keep in touch!
Oh I’m so sorry you’re feeling like that. A lot of us have been there! Yes, you will do it again. It might take a different approach this time but you’ll find a way. Covid has been tough and I think you can forgive yourself for weight gain with everything you’ve bern through. You’ll find lots of support here through thick and thin, so keep with us. Do get out with your friends... when you are enjoying life weight loss is easier (not the other way around ). Take care!
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