Need help with staying motivated and staying on track

[Busy-Rice]

Hello,

Just wondering if you guys could share tips on staying on track and keeping motivated.

So a little about me is I've always been over weight and in 2017 I managed to get from a size 20 down to a size 12. Most of which I lost in 3 months by working out everyday and even though I dropped dress sizes I still stayed the same weight.

I'm now 14 and a half stone, 5ft 1 inches tall and feeling really really bad about myself and my size. I cant seem to stay motivated and I've always been a comfort eater so when I've had a bad day I always reach of the chocolate (despite being lactose intolerant).

Any advice welcome! I really want to nip this in the bud as soon as I can

[BridgeGirl Administrator 2 stone]

Hello and welcome, Busy-Rice 😊

As you mention, in your profile, your concern about diabetes, I suggest you have a look at this option dietdoctor.com/low-carb There is plenty of evidence of this approach reversing Type 2 diabetes, and it's an approach many of us without diabetes follow and enjoy.

You'll find all the information you need about the forum in our Pinned Posts healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh... including a Welcome message, the Daily Diary and the current weigh in. You'll find lots of encouragement wherever you go and a good place to start is by joining a weekly weigh in on the day of your choice (why not tomorrow morning?) and using the Daily Diary, where members share their meal plans.

Take your time exploring. This gives you a tour of the forum healthunlocked.com/?tour=true and, along with Pinned Posts, will show you how things work. I hope you'll become an active member and we will see you joining in around the forum 😊

[Lytham 3 stone]

Hi, taking part in our weigh in every week helps keep me motivated, would you like to join us? Here's the link, I hope to see you there! x

healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh...

[zinza]

As a comfort eater myself, I think you should focus on the root causes of your compulsion, not the effect (weight gain).

For instance, I have 30kg to drop but ONLY NOW, after years of therapy, I understand WHY my entire life I needed to eat all the time to feel happy. Only to feel like trash 30 minutes later.

Answering your question, I`ve been using this website since last week to keep focus on my weight loss. Posting my meals every day, replying to other users, reading their kind comments. For now, I can assure you this is keeping me on track.

Let`s do this together. Have a nice Thursday.

[Busy-Rice in reply to zinza]

I started comfort eating at the age of 10 when all my friends moved away and I was alone. My sister is also a massive issue, her constant negativity towards me always makes me feel like there's no point cause as she says "you'll never stick at it anyway" 😩

[zinza in reply to Busy-Rice]

You have been dealing with a lot of negativity on a daily basis, mate. It's specially devastating when we need to deal with it at home, coming from a family member who should be our main strength and support in this life. I have a similar situation with my mother. My entire life she would feel better by telling me that I would never ever conquer anything in my life.

Don't fight this alone, ok? Sometimes it`s just too much. It can drain all of your energy.

Look for help from therapists and stay here chatting with us as much as you find comfortable. Let`s do this together.

Cheers.

[HealthySS]

Wow we are so similar! I'm 5 2 and recently up to 14 and half stone. I've managed to lose half a stone just by stopping my snacking. I've always been a huge emotional eater but I'm doing an MSc in behaviour analysis and learned about self management. I set myself the goal to not snack between meals and used reinforcers (reward) or a punisher. You need to choose something that really matters to you so I chose animal rights. At the end of the month I get to donate 50p for every day I stick to it to a charity of my choice (so far £15 for last month but I loved doing it!!). Each day I fail I have to pay 50p to a fundraiser I oppose! It's a huge motivator for me (and I honestly have zero willpower). You can obviously modify the idea to suit you - use your imagination! Remember the goal has to be clearly defined and achievable and the reinforcer/punisher has to matter to you 👍

[Busy-Rice in reply to HealthySS]

I once tired putting money in to a pot of what I wanted to buy/ the same amount of the naughty food I brought over 4 months and then treat myself to something worth while like some new clothes or a concert ticket but I haven't really done that recently

[HealthySS]

I agree re: weigh ins too and recording what you eat (I use "ate" - a fab app as focuses on your feelings about what you've eaten rather than calories) I need to also start changing my meals and cut down on drinking. I weighed in for first time on here yesterday and hoping some support will help me too 😊