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Hi I am a little nervous writing this. I am about 8 stone overweight and terrified of what will happen if I don't lose weight. I suffer quite badly with depression & anxiety and can't seem to stick with any diet for long enough to make a real dent in the pounds. If i feel down I binge, I lie about how much I'm eating and then when I can't breath walking up the stairs or I feel my heart beating so hard when I lay on my back I realise I'm slowly killing myself. I don't really know where to start. my doctors just gave me a slimming world membership but it doesn't work for me! the guilt of weighing makes me binge or starve myself, ive joined and quit sw about 10 times over the years, I have 5 beautiful children and I'm scared they're gonna grow up without a mum if I don't change!

Thanks for reading sorry it was a bit long.

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Thermopod85 profile image
Thermopod853lbs

My heart goes out to you. Advice I’ve read on here before is that we could try and break down our goals, just aim to lose half a stone and then set the next target. I think that makes the whole endeavour more manageable.

I want to wish you luck. At present I feel like I’m taking one step forward and two steps back but I’m trying and I’m proud of that.

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Tiggerr in reply toThermopod85

You can do it Thermopod85 Like you say, you're trying and with that determination you WILL eventually reach your goals.

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morelessAdministrator7 stone

Hi and welcome, Kelly :)

You sound a lot like me, when I first found this community and that was 7 stone ago, so it is possible. You've taken the first most important step and now the best thing you could do, is not to think of this as another diet, but as the first day of your new and healthy lifestyle :)

I'd like to invite you to join our Newbie Club, which we hope will be a good place for you to connect with members, who are also just starting out. If you just post a few words to introduce yourself and respond to others there, you'll soon break the ice. Here's the link

healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh...

You'll find all the information you need to navigate the forum in the header, so please take the time to read it carefully.

Wishing you all the best :)

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kiwikyd-nz

Hi Kellyosb85 :)

Don't feel embarrassed. We've all been there. That's why we're here :)

When I was pregnant with my daughter I put on a lot of weight. People didn't actually realise I was pregnant. They just thought I was fat. That was 28 years ago and I've got bigger every year since then (don't know what they'd think now). I've half heartedly tried the usual weight loss clubs and plans (and wasted a lot of money) over those years. Obviously they backfired :)

So in July I decided I was just over it all. I was fed up with being the fat middle aged Grandma. I went on line and read a blog about a guy who lost a lot of weight through the NHS 12 week plan. So I checked it out. I read a lot. And I started posting in the Community. And finally I felt I was in the right place, mentally and figuratively.

I tried the 12 week plan, and although I couldn't get into it I never gave up completely. There are people using other plans on here as well. It's all about finding what works for you. And the support and information that is shared amongst everyone is amazing.

You can do this. A bit at a time. Don't go into anything all guns blazing. It's setting yourself up for a fall. Read everything. Make small changes and reachable targets/goals. And you will find that slowly, as things fall into place, those changes will grow. Along with your confidence in yourself and the results of your efforts :D

And no your post is not too long :D

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Tiggerr in reply tokiwikyd-nz

Great post... well said.

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Minniewinny5 stoneMaintainer in reply tokiwikyd-nz

Beautifully expressed x

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Beechnuts

Hi kellyosb85 I’ve only been here a week but I think we have come to the right place, I’ve spent a lot on slimming clubs over the years I find then very stressful and not very helpful . Keep joining in with the post it’s good to know we are not alone in this good luck

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Kellyosb852lbs

Thank you everyone! it was lovely to wake up to people having replied. I will definitely plan to have small goals. 8 stone in one go is way too much and may well be the reason I've struggled before! I am just planning to be mindful about what I eat and calorie count so hopefully with this group I can finally succeed :) x

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Tiggerr in reply toKellyosb85

It makes sense to be cautious, though we know you can do it :)

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Minniewinny5 stoneMaintainer in reply toKellyosb85

We are all with you...

And Cheering you on to succeed 🎉🎉🎉

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xvanillaskyx

Hi Kelly this is the place to be, everyone here is on a journey to a healthier lifestyle - just at different points along the route 🤗 whilst I’m sure you appreciate there is no quick fix I personally couldn’t think of a better place to share my experience. You can put as much time into this forum that suits you. I find it helps to come on here whenever I need inspiration to stay on track, the people here are full of it ☺️

It sounds like starting this journey could be just the boost you need right now. I wish you lots of luck along the way 🍀🍀👍

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Gaynor123

hi welcome , this is the best place to be, I can honestly say I would never have stuck to my diet if it wasn't for the support of this lovely forum, we are all in the same bolt and understand what you are going through. Like the others have said make small goals instead of looking at the bigger picture. I never thought I could lose weight without joined a club, but I came across the nhs 12 week plan and never looked back. take one week at a time, I made a jar and each pound I lose I put a pound in , it adds up and gives you something to look forward to. I wish you all the best, keep being active on here and you will do it, if I can lose weight I never stopped snacking all the time, you certainly can, the only exercise I done to start was walking. Well done for making the first step, and good luck.

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Seuzan

Take it slow & steady, you can definitely do this!!!! 👍

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Kellyosb852lbs

Thank you everyone. I am truly surprised by the support already! haha. Not used to it!!

Have a fab day tomorrow everyone! x

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