Scared and nervous

[mrshill2015]

Hi everyone. I've put on so much weight since my daughter passed away 2 years ago. Has anyone got any tips? I always put pressure on myself and end up failing. Where can I find recipes for this diet as I have no idea where to look. Many thanks xx

[SlimmerSue62]

Hi mrshill2015 this is a friendly forum where there is lots of use full advise tips etc. Challenges weigh ins etc. Some one from admin will welcome you shortly, I am sorry for the loss of your daughter. x

[Tiggerr]

Hi mrshill2015 and welcome. Really sorry to hear about your daughter.

Like Fatsalarde has already mentioned, an admin will reply to your post and provide you with a road map to help you get started.

May I suggest that you look upon this next part of your life as a 'lifestyle change'. Diets tend to be temporary affairs that leave people without the required tools to manage their life afterwards. Creating natural, sensible habits now are more likely to leave you in a stronger position once you reach the level of health that you're after.

Wishing you all the best!

[lucigret]

Hi mrshill2015 , I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You have had a tough time.

This is a lovely forum full of support. Whilst you are waiting for admin to welcome you, why not take a look at the NHS 12 week plan. Also if you look in the Topic section you will find some ideas and recipes under recipes/meals/snacks. Keep posting as often as you like to ask questions or advice or to offer support to others. The more you get involved the more support you will receive. Good luck.

[moreless Administrator 7 stone]

Hi and welcome, mrshill

There's no need to be scared, or nervous any more, we're a very friendly bunch and will do everything we can to help you get over the tragic and deeply saddening loss of your daughter and get you on the path to health and happiness

Take a look at the Pinned posts section to the right of your screen (bottom if you're using a mobile), read the Welcome Newbie thread, then move through to the challenges, where we hope you'll find at least one that will appeal to you.

Move down to the Topics, to find a variety of threads, collated into specific topics for ease of access and we ask that you also 'file' your own threads, so that others won't miss your important news.

Take a look at the NHS 12 week plan, as a lot of people have been successful with it, making sure to enter your details into the BMI calculator, to get a calorie allowance tailored to your personal requirements. Don't forget to take your starting measurements and a 'before' picture, as they can be very motivating on days that the scales refuse to co-operate.

We run daily weigh-in's and you'd be very welcome to join us. The threads can always be found in the Events section, to the right of the home page, bottom on a mobile.

Be advised, that the HU app doesn't give you access to all of our important features, so we advise that you use the full website page.

We've found that to get the best out of this community, we need to be active on the forum, as it's where we exchange information, get motivation and inspiration and make friends. We hope that you'll join us here, regularly, too.

It's only left for me to wish you well on your journey

[RG07 Maintainer]

Hi I am on the NHS 12 week weight loss and I have found it effective- I eat the same food as before- cutting down on crisps and getting low fat versions of the food I like. Its calorie counting- I am lucky and my employer has a heath & wellbeing dept and I was able to download a programme to chart my calorific intake but a lot of people use MyFitness Pal app to keep a record of their calories. What I would suggest which works for me is plan ahead your meals for a week, if you have any vices (mine is crisps!) then if possible keep them out of the house so when you get cravings it means you have to actively get them and go to the shop. I live alone so it is easier to do this, if you have any other children or a partner it is a bit more problematic. If you have a favourite meal or eat certain meals regularly work out the calories for it and make a note of the calories so you can just note the total rather than the calories for each ingredient. NHS Choices living well has a link to a free calorie counter which you can download. Even if you decide not to use the 12 week plan it does have a lot pof helpful information on portions, alcohol, healthy snacks and eating out etc.

Good luck with your weight loss and I'm sorry to here about the death of your daughter

[battlethebulge Maintainer]

Hello Mrshill, As already has been suggested, you are in the right place here for support, in all aspects of your life, not just for weight loss! What a very difficult time you have had to go through, I can't imagine how awful it must be to lose a child, of any age. Although obviously you will never forget her that pain of loss will diminish in time. Just be kind to yourself, though many of us tend to do that using food for comfort. On this forum I'm sure you will find ways of relaxing and engaging in a new, positive mindset that will aid your weight loss and help you to heal after your painful loss.

Good luck on your journey my lovely, we're all behind you!

[Ruby8]

Hello there.

I am so sorry to read about your loss, you have been through a very tough time.

However you have certainly come to the right place for help and support. I am just getting back into the swing of things having been drifting for months now, but I managed to lose a stone and a half since I joined here last summer.

I hope together we can ease your worries and anxiety. Take things slow, looking at your daily eating habits and see what changes you can make. Take time to look around this site, look at other peoples posts and feel free to post yourself. You can say anything you need to on here, there will always be someone to listen and support you. It's brilliant!

Here is a link that has lot's of healthy meal ideas:

nhs.uk/change4life-beta/rec...

Wishing you all the best. Maybe see you around on the forum.

x

[Celina93]

Hey, I'm losing weight at the moment. I got the forever living clean9. I lost 10lbs in 9 days. Then I kept up with the programme and continued to lose weight. I lost two stone in 6 weeks. It was definitely a good way to begin my healthier life style.

Xx

[Jules_T]

Morning mrshill2015

Sounds like you have been to hell and back (maybe not quite back yet?). I am so very sorry to hear about your daughters death.

In no way should you beat yourself up about struggling to lose weight - obviously we all struggle too and certainly in a lot of cases we have not suffered such a tragic event. You are still grieving and it's really good that you feel ready to start taking care of yourself.

As for recipes I downloaded the smart meals app as a starting point, but I am sure there are lots of sites that give low cal recipes. The 'Hairy biker' diet books look good - I bought one for my dad and have used a few recipes from them in the past.

I hope the weight loss goes well - I joined yesterday and people here seem lovely.

[NannyEJ]

Welcome mrshill, you have certainly come to the right place for help and support with your weight loss aims. It sounds like you have had a tough time with the loss of your daughter but hopefully the next 2 years will be a better more optimistic time for you.

As someone already mentioned, don't think of this as dieting but as a complete overhaul of your lifestyle. You will start to eat smaller portions of healthy food and you will increase your exercise - all of which will increase your confidence and help you feel better about yourself and more in control.

Keep posting on the forum to share both your disappointments and your triumphs. We are all here for you. Best wishes EJ

[Cat33 Restart Dec 2023]

Hello and welcome to the forum Now we don't​ do scared and nervous on here we do calm and positive 😊

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter every mother's worst nightmare and my heart goes out to you

Don't pressurise yourself just set yourself little goals a few lbs at a time and treat yourself to a little something when you reach it like a bunch of flowers nail polish etc

You will get all our support and tips on this forum

Good luck x

[Trierisme 1st 7lbs]

Hello there ........ firstly can I offer my deepest sympathy on your loss. 2 years is not a long time in terms of grief, it doesn't have a time limit does it ? I lost my adored mam 3 years ago, and I've realised I'll never stop grieving as I'll never stop missing her or loving her, BUT with a sister to share my grief with, I'm learning to live with it.... I carry the saucy, unique, strong little bugger around in my heart all day every day ....... With your precious daughters memory tucked safely away in your heart, try and look outward firstly. There are lots and lots of tips/recepies/genuine support and kindness on this forum, you only need to dip your toe in and you'll find out for yourself....... sending you love & a very big squashy hug 😘

[missussim]

hello Mrshill I'm sure having made the first step of joining up to this forum, you will be reading all the success stories of everyone and thinking to yourself 'sure I can do it too' with a big smile on your face....and i hope you succeed....dont be afraid...keep positive..even though you are still sad about the loss of your daughter,..big hug to you

[Saima123]

So sorry to hear about your loss 😥😥😥