PCOS Struggle

[Anonymous29]

Does anyone else not know where to start with their PCOS? My gyno said IVF is our next step (haven't had any medication) but I just can't lose weight at the moment and I need to lose 6 stone for IVF. I am motivated but I'm an emotional eater and my emotions are all over at the moment. I feel like everyone around me is pregnant, a lot of them by accident, and it just doesn't feel fair. I'm happy for them but devastated for me and my partner. It makes me feel like a bad person and I know I'm not, but do you ever just get sick of pretending everything is ok? How do you say out loud that you are heartbroken that your sister in law is pregnant again? I love my niece's and nephews more than anything, but it breaks my heart that I don't have my own. Don't know what I expect from this post, just wanted somewhere to express my feelings.

[VEA88]

Hi Anon, these feelings are completely natural. Please don't best yourself up for feeling like this. When you do, you not only have the difficult feelings to deal with, but the guilt of feeling them too! I bet there are a lot of people on this thread who feel the same. I'm in my 30s and there are babies everywhere among friends and family! I haven't ttc yet but can imagine feeling the way you do. I lost weight via slimming world - 2 stone and I've kept it off for the last 8 months. Might be worth giving it a go - emotional eating it super normal as well. The slimming world podcast covers it a lot if you give that a listen. Good luck on your journey.

[Jaygee87]

I have PCOS and have been trying for a baby for 4 years. Nearly all my friends have had 1 and now going onto 2 children in this time. Its so bloody hard!

We did 1 round of IVF which failed and I've now ballooned to my highest weight so working on losing it. Have you had liver function checked? Mine is very high and they say it has a knock on effect with pcos. I'm not even going for round 2 until I can lose at least 4 stone.

[Anonymous29 in reply to Jaygee87]

Hey, it's been nearly 4 years for us too and it just gets harder! I haven't, my gynaecologist isn't really interested in checking anything to be honest. Now that I'm diagnosed with PCOS everything is just a waiting game.

Do you have to lose weight for IVF? I have to get to a BMI of 30 before I'm allowed it. But they've not offered anything else in the meantime... but yet I keep reading about being having metformin and other things.

Hope you're doing ok!

[Jaygee87 in reply to Anonymous29]

Yes I had to lose 2 stone for IVF but now I'm paying private it doesn't matter so much but I'd rather lose it. I would highly advise losing as much as possible. Have you not been offered clomid?

[Anonymous29 in reply to Jaygee87]

No nothing at all. I am 100% working towards getting to a healthy weight, lost 18 pounds this year so far but it's just frustrating cos the hospital just don't seem to want to help prior to IVF. Am I allowed to just ask for clomid? Just feel there's no support when overweight

[Jaygee87 in reply to Anonymous29]

You can ask your consultant for sure. I received 6 months of clomid which did work in getting me to ovulate but I still didn't get pregnant unfortunately. They also gave me metformin for the pcos. Id ask the questions about these 2 meds next time you see them.

[Anonymous29 in reply to Jaygee87]

Ah I'm sorry to hear that but thank you for the advice. Did you have a BMI of 30 or less when you were given it?

Good luck with everything!

[Jaygee87 in reply to Anonymous29]

I got my BMI to 29. I would advise trying to get it to 29 or lower as even at 30 they may reject you

[JustKnewIt]

Hi hun, I'm sorry you've found yourself here facing PCOS. It can be really frustrating. My sis has suffered it for years. The worse part is that not a single test can determine you have PCOS. This must be the chain of different analyses. Only then dr can evaluate them and put the exact dx. Moreover, PCOS symptoms differ much from woman to woman. Some face them severe. Others lead just normal life like they don't have PCOS at all. The good thing is that there are many treatment options for PCOS. These include meds, supplements, IVF etc. After meds didn't help my sis, they turned to IVF. They came to the same clinic we've been with - BTC. had luck from shot#1. Dr told her eggs were ''perfect''. They put back 2 embryos - both made home. PCOS never makes one's life easy, but as soon as you start fighting it - you are the one to win.