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Please no one judge me (trigger warning)

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I’m sorry if this offends others but this is my body and I have made this choice as I am quite young and have no support over this. Trust me I already feel guilty about this so please don’t make me feel worst or make me change my mind. Thank you

I am sub clinical hypothyroid and have been told by my endo I do not need medication as of yet. I found out today I am 2 weeks pregnant and I am looking to have an abortion in the next week or so. Is this going to effect my levels and make them worse?

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cwill profile image
cwill

Sorry that you are having to face this. Will leave the advice to someone with more experience but sending hugs.

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Lulu_65

I have no idea if it will affect your levels but please don’t worry about being judged.... it’s your body and your choice.

One thing I will say is, if you end up with the surgical option (which is probably unlikely these days and how early you are in the pregnancy) ... the gasses used in general anaesthetic tend to strip the body of vitamin b12. Just something to be aware of

Xx

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Gambit62 in reply to Lulu_65

the only anaesthetic that affects B12 is nitrous oxide - it combines with the B12 in your body meaning that your body can't actually use it. Most people are able to replace this B12 quite quickly but if you have a problem absorbing B12 this may not be effective.

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Clutter

Welcome to the forum, Butterflyz01.

Pregnancy is probably already making your thyroid levels worse. The foetus is dependent on maternal hormone until 12-14 weeks so will be taking the thyroid hormone it needs from you and this will cause your FT4 and FT3 to drop and your TSH to rise. Ask for a follow up thyroid test 2-3 months after your termination as your thyroid levels may have changed and you may need medication.

Please be aware that when pregnancy is confirmed in subclinically hypothyroid women it is usual to prescribe Levothyroxine to ensure TSH remains in the low-normal range 0.4 - 2.5 to ensure good foetal development. If there is any chance you might change your mind and decide to progress with the pregnancy you should contact your endo or GP ASAP as it is likely you will need Levothyroxine prescribed.

No one has any right to judge you . You are doing what is right for you at this moment. Lots of love xx

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Rmichelle

Butterfly you have to do what is right for you alone-nobody here knows your circumstances and your worries.🌟🌟🌞

Hi butterfly. First of all-hugs and don't feel at all badly about making hard choices. I believe if we were able to get an honest showof hands from ladies on this forum re having to make similar choices at sometime in our lives you would find you have lots in common with many wonderful people. I am 74 next week and can remember a time when this was not an option for us-at least not legally and safely. When laws changed I was very happy that personal choices about our bodies were taken out of the hands of government -mostly men- (sorry fellas) and given to the people who should have the right to make these decisions-us!. So thanks for sharing and if anyone anywhere judges you, it's their issue. Old Indian saying! 'Don't judge anyone until you have walked a mile in their shoes." I do know, from a health and nutritional standpoint, receiving general anesthesia, for any surgery, can deplete the body of various vitamins and minerals so post-op it is important to pay extra attention to nutrition. The type of surgery has no bearing on anesthetic effects. Good luck and health with all your health journeys. Take care. irina1975 (retired nurse-USA)

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hypercat54

No one is going to judge you on here. Your life, your body. End of. x

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butterflyz01

Thank you all for all your kind words I’m in tears right now. I feel so guilty and sad even though I know I made the right decision and I’m hoping to get help for this. I know how hard it is having a thyroid issue to get pregnant and there are lots of miscarriages that happen I feel so ungrateful having an abortion but I’m so glad you all understand and have not judged me and given me encouraging words and advice. At this time in my life it’s the little things like this that matter and I’m thankful for you all ❤️

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Hi Butterfly. Give yourself a BIG pat on the back for doing the best you can right now . You deserve it. Cry and feel bad for a little while. It's normal and you will feel better as time goes by. I bet the day will come when you realize you handled your problem very well and will feel good about your decisions. Take care. irina xxx

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You’re right @irina1975 I will have to read your messages over and over again these couple months. Thank you for your kind words I really do appreciate it xx

in reply to butterflyz01

You're very welcome. I do that sometimes- carry short messages with me in my purse or on my phone. I re-read them when I'm out and about and need to remind myself with helpful words not to feel bad.When I'm home I can find ways to get calm or just feel bad and cry. When I'm out and have to function well I'll find a ladies room and read something I brought with me to help me get through. Take care. irina xxx P.S. Feel free to PM if you want.

in reply to butterflyz01

Good morning from Atlanta. Woke up thinking about you and just wanted to say I hope you're doing well and wishing you a good day. Take care. irina1975

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carnation

No judgement here, just make sure you look after yourself.

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butterflyz01 in reply to carnation

Thank you so much for your kind words

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Rapunzel

You and you alone know what is right for your circumstances and good health in the moment. It's quite clear that this isn't a decision you're taking lightly and the thing that shines through is the additional stress coming to this decision has likely caused you.

It's this stress that will cause any thyroid issue to kick off, together with the giddy cocktail of hormonal imbalances some suffer in the early days of pregnancy (eugh).

Don't beat yourself up. Do look after you. Acknowledge that this is going to be a stressful time and do what you can: eat well, rest well, relax into your decision. No-one here will judge you - like anyone has the right xx 💖

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butterflyz01

Hello ladies, I just wanted to update you. I initially found out I was pregnant due to doing a pregnancy test because I had spotting and cramps 10 days after my last period.

I been under so much stress lately. As I’ve said I’m only quite young (22) I live with my parents and I look after the family business while going to uni full time. I’ve recently booked for the termination to take place, my only day off is Wednesday since I work for my parents I REALLY did not want to make it obvious so I was thinking to do the termination then go straight to work, but looking at experiences online the pain seemed quite severe and also I needed time to grieve. This is odd but even though I know I didn’t want to keep this baby I been looking after myself more it’s like I grew an attachment to it.... back to the story, I booked with another company that could do Wednesday and was suppose to see them on Tuesday for a consultation.

it’s four days till my period, I usually get them between 26th-30th. I had light spotting again and after a while I had my usual bleeding (I bleed quite heavy) my urine was even red and I thought it was odd as pregnancy does not cause periods, and spotting is not so heavy. I decided to do another pregnancy test and guess what? Negative.

Been doing my research it seems like I’ve experienced a chemical pregnancy I have so many mixed emotions. I will see a doctor this week to see for sure what the diagnosis is, but I really don’t know how to feel. I wish I could speak to my friends about it but I’m paranoid that they will gossip about me. Perhaps I will look at counselling.

Thank you to all the ladies that have been supportive and showed me love during this hardship

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EbonyEvans in reply to butterflyz01

Hello Butterflyz01,

I just wanted to send you a bucket load of hugs. It’s a shame you do not feel able to talk to your friends at your age.

I also wanted to mention that as it’s so early in the morning, you may not get many replies as the HU system pushes down a lot of early morning messages.

I think you need to tell someone or be able to check in with someone until you are checked. In case you have not had full detachment. You know your body but it is better to be safe than sorry.

Do you have a family planning centre near you? Mine does morning appointments only for under 25 year olds - if you have a free hour or so between Uni etc.

Inbox me if you need a chat or anything. I’m a night owl!

Ebony xox

in reply to butterflyz01

Hi Butterfly, I'm very happy for you. But please do follow up with your doc. There is no such thing as a routine journey re pregnancy. So let your doc give you a clean bill of health. Take care. And stay with us on this forum. A good place to share and no gossip! irina

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nancarolyn

yea!

Keep safe xx

How are you getting on honey xx

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