I have tried stopping so many times that I am now becoming a professional. Although my problem is giving up quitting.
I now need to go down that road again but not do a u turn again. Help please!
Tried quitting too many times : I have tried... - Quit Support
Tried quitting too many times
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Hi have you tryed using the Ecig I stopped using that and still use it on a bad day
in reply to Nottobad
Believe me I have been down that road too. We are cheating ourselves that we are quitting when we are not. Just think about it. Stop smoking but get addicted e cigs. I tried to do that thinking that stopping e cigs may be easier but it was much harder. E cigs also make me feel terrible.
Nottobad in reply to
Oh well when you are ready you will stop. I don't count it as cheating x
Me neither, only use when I need it and feel anything that keeps you off the fags is good , although I do understand that some just replace one thing for another. Never felt the need
I don't use it all the time but better using that. Than a real cig x
agree totally--I could never get hooked on them--and I eventually quit them too--so everyone does their quit a little different--the main thing is get that toxic smoke out of your lungs first--and go from there--MmeT
Carissa2810 MONTH WINNER
Hi Marl!
have you set a quit date? do you plan to go cold turkey or use a NRT? have a look at the pinned posts lots of good advise there! and MadameTabacco just posted a really good link to an article about what our body's go through.
stay close to this site our quit support family will be with you every step of the way 
in reply to Carissa28
My quit day is tonight. Cold turkey
Maddyg in reply to
Good luck
you can do it!! I'm a cold turkier too!!
Gosh Carissa , your very strong. I admire people who can go cold turkey . Tried and failed straight away when I tried that 
well done you 7 weeks too proud of you xx
Thank you Maddy, I did try once years ago, and had one of the original e cigs, no flavors or anything on sale for $80.00 online...which didn't help, and I had tried the patch, and gum, but found that if I had nicotine in my blood, I was going to smoke.
so I just knew it had to be cold turkey, the NRT's I didn't even last 2 days each time I tried!
as long as we're not smoking cigs we're successful!
in reply to Carissa28
Hi Carrissa hope you're ok now I admire anyone that quit cold turkey couldn't do it myself. My dad stopped cold turkey will be about 25years ago now. We had a £20 bet that we could both stop but I failed after 3 hrs but didn't tell him for 3 months and he is a healthy 70 year old. He stopped by eating wine gums I still owe him the £20 
madametobacco49 in reply to
what are wine gums?? sound nummy
in reply to madametobacco49
Jelly sweets suppose to taste like wine but they don't more fruit flavoured but nice although they have changed were nicer when I was younger.
madametobacco49 in reply to
mmm they sound really good--I like jelleys--to bad we don't have them here- MmeT
in reply to madametobacco49
Where are you Mmet?
madametobacco49 in reply to
Im in northern plains of US--where are you??
in reply to madametobacco49
Erm in the northern east of the UK 😄 sounds better where you are 😄
madametobacco49 in reply to
why on earth would you think that?? Its awful--in many ways--Our political system is a joke--people work for peanuts and cant make ends meet--I dont kno--maybe its global these days--Besides you got better candy and that's what interests me right now--SWEETS!!!!!!!! MmeT
in reply to madametobacco49
Oh I do agree I think politically everywhere is a joke too many greedy fat cats running our Countries with not a care in the world unless they benefit from it. And yes I probably would miss the sweeties here but I'm sure there is plenty of scrumy sweeties there 😀
madametobacco49 in reply to
yours sound better--someone on lung site was talking about these little soda pop flavored things--sounded so dainty and tasty too--chocolate hogs here--I like jelleys better-yes--corruption is the name of the game and do believe it is global--Come visit--Ill show you the ropes of this fantastic land--My relatives on dads side were from around cornwall area--I know if I ever got there Id feel like I was home--This is a melting pot and getting worse--shootings every night now-stay in after dark--crazy huh??? we are close to being the minority here now which is fine if crime rate wasn't thru the roof
in reply to madametobacco49
Crazy indeed but they do allow so many to have firearms there is that right? Quite scary actually.
madametobacco49 in reply to
everybody can have them--they don't even have to be concealed--its a very paranoid society because no one knows who is packin--so for instance I don't know if you have heard of road rage--but people get angry in traffic--and holler or give the finger--you have to be careful=- you can get shot--happened last night--a teen threw a can at a passing car and the guy chased him down and shot him--
terrible and scarey--and if you cant get one legally you can buyem on street
in reply to madametobacco49
Omg not good you need a licence over here but I guess people have got them illegally as there is shooting crimes but it's not often.
madametobacco49 in reply to
every state is different--some do a background check--some you just go get a permit--piece of cake--some nothing--I live in the old west area--so they drink a lot and love their guns--hate it here--we have cops in lots of our schools now--and a lot of gangs
in reply to madametobacco49
Oh Mmet I think we need to start talking about sweeties again 😀 not sure how we went from sweets to guns 
I guess we get use to what we live with and cope with. What your saying now would really worry me but you are obviously capable of dealing with that which I find amazing 😘
Carissa how are you?? Havent seen you lately=-=you ok??? MmeT
Hi Marl - i quit cold turkey as well and the first week for me was absolute hell. You have to accept and prepare that it will be terrible and find a way to keep busy to pass time, because ultimately it is about getting enough time to pass to allow your body to adapt to the changes, if that makes sense. I was glued to this site and consumed many tictacs. I also timed my cravings which was a distraction in a weird way. But it comes down to embracing the "crazy" and getting through and to decide beforehand no matter what you will not have a cigarette.
There is a post by Iris8 called "Raw" which i think is a good read, but also the replies. One of the replies by Polly-PV was especially helpful to me - and about re-inventing myself as a non-smoker.
Lost of helpful pinned posts as well to help.
Hang in there, it is the best decision you could ever make!!
Hi marl, I don't know how many times I have quit , people just use to ignore me and laugh when I said I was quitting. I only ever lasted 3 weeks. So what's different. I got support from nhs and got all sorts of things one a quit calendar. I set a date and choose what NRT I would use. I use an e cig , as tried all things. I then took one day at a time. I got to 3 weeks and was about to crack and I found this site. I have had some wonderful support on my bad days. I am still going strong and put it down to the people on here and of course determination. So plan, stick close to this site, we will help you on your quit journey, read some if the pinned post helpful and shout out if you need help. You can do this have you quit yet. I promise best thing I have done a smoker for 30 years. Stay strong - and take one day at a time x
LilyMay73LONG TERM WINNER
Hi Marl, huge welcome to quit support 😊 as you've tried before do you always have the same trigger points which get you smoking again? It's really important to understand your triggers and come up with ways prior to your quit to combat them when they do rear their heads.
If you list those triggers I can guarantee that every member on here will be able to give hints and tips on how to manage and get through them.
Really good luck with your quit 😊
in reply to LilyMay73
That's a difficult question... I suffer from mild depression and In the past I have blamed life changing events for starting again, loss of family member etc. Although It may be that my mind is waiting for an excuse to start again and acceptance from everyone that it was good enough reason to not blame me as weak willed. I have no idea. I have quit 5 times each lasting a month and I find the first 4 days the easiest and after that is a struggle with the mind.
You sound very similar to me. Each quit attempt I made I was almost waiting for an excuse to restart. I think at those times I wasn't emotionally ready to let go of something I thought of as a crutch. Reading Allen Carr's the easy way to quit is helpful as it helps you to understand that the thing you think of as a crutch is actually adding to your anxiety and depression. It's quite a good read (although it didn't make me quit at the time but did help later on when I was ready). I do think that because you can identify reasons for giving up quitting you will be aware of it and awareness is great as you can really make a choice and think about whether having that cigarette will improve the stressful situation you are in or in fact add to it. I'm pretty confident you will be fine this time round 😊
hi Marl, I suffer from Severe Depression, and not sure if you've been around the posts but on Saturday, my post you may be able to relate to.
are you currently on any anti depressants? I'm not trying to pry and if my question makes you uncomfortable just let me know-I apologize-the reason I ask; is right now, I'm working with my doc to reformulate the tablets and dosages as quitting cold turkey has thrown the chemical production in my brain into a tailspin-if you do take any I would recommend speaking with your doc as well to help keep you healthy and on track.
I still feel regular urges, but I can honestly say they have gotten better in the 7 weeks...my first 3 weeks were brutal, but I kept this site close, tried many of the pinned posts, especially the deep breathing practices which I still do coz they help a lot. and I kept my parents close as they have been learning since I was 14 (I was diagnosed at 8 and @ 14 started medication) certain habits, or mood changes if you will that I don't always notice right away when I'm slipping into the negatives and they lifted me up as well. I pray that you also have a good support system besides this site as an extra safety net to help you through your quit journey.
Sending good thoughts and prayers of comfort your way.
beautiful post carissa
madametobacco49 in reply to
The things that you feel caused you to smoke are real triggers--and can send you reeling---Cigarettes have a stimulant effect as well as a depressant effect--you craved what you knew--Nicotine is a real drug--as much as heroin is--and your addiction is real--Thats not to say when bad things happen go smoke--but it just means be aware of triggers--and get sum gum ,lozenges,an e cig-or be prepared to gut it out--The other thing is(and this is important) Falling off the wagon is not an end to your quit--so don't let nicotine tell you "what the hell may as well just smoke--your a failure"--Just get back up=--dust yourself off and get on with it--Eventually you will get it done--Never stop trying--Freedom is just a breath away at some point--Good luck--MmeT
Hi marl and welcome 😊
Most of us have tried more than once to give up. As long as you never stop trying to stop 😊
We have all given up in our own way, whether it's patches, ecigs, gum, champix or cold turkey. We are here to support each other through what is one of the most difficult addictions to kick. We don't judge, we support as best we can.
Take a look at the pinned posts as you may find them useful😊 There are a lot of quitters who have gone cold turkey so they should be on here to offer advice should you want it😊
We say NOPE.... Not One Puff Ever 😊
Good luck with your quit 🚭🚭🚭🚭🚭🍀🍀🍀
Hi marl1 you have made the right decision to quit and I am sure everyone has tried and failed at some point so don't beat yourself up and try not to think that you cannot do this because you can and you will. Finding this site is the best thing I did and although I have not struggled to stop yet I am 100% sure that Without this support group which has completely taken over my life by the way I probably would have struggled. I am still in the early days but still very motivated so get on board and make this the last time you have to start the quit journey. Good luck
madametobacco49 in reply to
very nice Ciggy Mmet
BriarwoodAdministratorLONG TERM WINNER
Hi Marl and welcome to quit support😊
With the help and support of this quit family, you'll find it makes a huge difference to staying quit. We are always here for you, good luck and remember NOPE🚭 not one puff ever🚭🚭😊
Was it Hemingway who said - Quitting smoking is the easiest thing in the world. I did it hundreds of times"."
I would like to share my opinion on this. First off don't approach it as "another try." If it's just "another try" you'll have "another failure." Conduct preparation work before you actually put down your last cigarette.
You need to truly understand that smoking has no positive effect for you. It is just a self sustaining circle of misery. List what you think you are getting from smoking. Next to it write down why it's not true.
Work on your attitude towards smoking, on your motivation and you won't have to "quit" - you will just stop smoking. I have written more on this in my blog
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Thank you, Pete.
Most important - don't dread. Enjoy the process and feelings you get on first days of being smoke free. It is an amazing time and something I remember fondly.
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in reply to monky
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BestWayIsColdTurkey9 MONTH WINNER
Hi Marl
Tomorrow it will have been one month since I quit my 20 - 25 a day, 30-year habit. Having read quite a bit about nicotine addiction I decided to go cold turkey.
For me, the first three days were brutal, and a constant reminder what a vicious grip nicotine had over me - I was struggling to concentrate, I was short tempered, angry, just all over the place. And the next few days were not that much easier. But after I had clocked up a week, l started to see light at the end of the tunnel and life started to get better - and is continuing to get better - each day that passes.
Despite my (rather hastily chosen) profile name, I think NRT does have an important role to play in helping people to quit smoking. And using NRT is of course vastly less damaging to health than smoking tobacco. But equally I think it's important that prospective NRT quitters understand that the nicotine in the NRT product will prolong the quitting process significantly, and that the NRT quitter may find themselves still being addicted to nicotine weeks or even months after their quit date.
If you carry on down the cold turkey path, then I wish you all success. Do not underestimate how difficult the next week will be. But also, do not underestimate the joy and pride you will feel in only a week's time, when you will have proved to yourself and to others that you are able to deal with one of the most pernicious addictions in the world through sheer strength of character.
Good luck!
in reply to BestWayIsColdTurkey
One month👏👏👏👏👏👏 way to go🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😂😂. I went cold turkey too.... I believe in NRT as well though...... We all just have to do what works💃🏿M🎹🎷🎻🎺🎸🎧
Mazzie145 MONTH WINNER
Hi Marl and a big welcome to the site, I can see you've had loads of inspiring replys from the other members so only thing I can add is I've used Champix this time round and for me it has really worked. I've tried NRT patches, gums etc so this time I didn't want to use nicotine as part of my quit process. I admire people who've been able to do it cold turkey but personally I couldn't go more than a day so need to find something else.
Champix works by blocking your nicotine receptors rathering than feeding them, with the thinking going that after 12 weeks your nicotine receptors should have pretty much died off. It's not for everyone as can have side effects, I found so long as I eat when I took the tablets, I was ok. I used a nicotine free e ciggy when I got to five weeks (a trigger point in the past) as I know for me it's not just the nicotine but the habits, routines, associations etc. that have in the past been my trigger points. I don't use it on daily basis and don't plan to. Weekends tends to be my trigger times.
But as already been said in other's posts, do have a good look at what your trigger points are and see what you can do to address them, and remember, nicotine really does do nothing for you and there is a whole lot of support on this site.
And yea! just spotted I have my 3 month badge! so counting in months now rather than weeks and I know so many of us on here will say this, but if we can find a way to quit - so can all smokers
Whoop whoop whoooo mazzie😊 3 fantastic smoke free months am sooooo DELIGHTED for ya, what a great quit 😊😊🚭🚭🚭🚭🚭
koutsoun4 YEARS WINNER
Hi Marl! I quit cold turkey after about 35 years of smoking and numerous attempts. I timed my quit so I had a 3 day weekend ahead of me, where I could just lounge around and not do anything. The first 4 days or so you feel dazed...like your brain is all fogged up, and your doing things in slow motion. (BTW I had also quit caffeine at the same time, so maybe that is why I felt I was doing things s l o w l y.) After the four days rest period I gave myself, I forced my self to go on long walks (helps that I have a dog) and generally kept myself busy. After my first week I started going to the gym daily and everyday I would read on how my body was healing and benefiting....that is what really made me stay focused and still does.
If I can quit...so can you!!!
Hey😊 I remind myself everyday why I can never smoke again.... Smoking scares me... Period.... I always worried about what the 4000+ chemicals were doing to my insides.... You can beat Mr. Nic 😡Grrrrr Keep this awesome site close xx
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