Slipped again

I'm feeling rather discouraged at the moment,after over week of not smoking,even though it had been a stressful week to say the least,last night I gave in & brought some tobacco & smoked a roll up,I feel so disappointed in myself & that I let everyone down who had faith in me this time round. Not at a happy place right now as I'm feeling such a failure :(

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  • Hi lizzie probably everyone here has had previous attempts that didn't go to plan, I've had plenty and I think maybe I wasn't fully ready then. Maybe this one was a wobble for you if so then get back on track asap, if more than a wobble have a think about all the reasons you want to quit and be honest with y yourself about how committed you are.

    If your cold turkey the other option is to get help from nrt or speak to gp about available help.

    Worst thing though is to get overly stressed by a slip up beause you have to remember your giving it a go and even if it takes a lot of wobble s you will get there in the end...so back to the quit ehπŸ˜‰πŸ˜ƒ

  • Hi Lizzie,

    I know exactly how you feel I have done that loads of times and sneaked off to the shop to buy some tobacco. Iv tried to give up loads of times.

    Why don't you sign up to a smoking cessation service and get some free NRT I've got patches and gum and inhalers. Plus you know you can meet up with them weekly and get support and advice.

    I couldn't give up without NRT. Yesterday I was having bad cravings all day, not short 5 minute ones that you can hold your breath and they're gone but really missing smoking and wanting one all day and all night. I know I would have been down the shops if I didn't have NRT. It's like it gives you something to lean on when ur a bit down with it all.

    I also think that reading the Allen Carr book helped prepare me as I'm thinking in my mind you won't feel any better if you smoke you'll just want another one and will have to start quitting again. It helps get your thoughts straight about it.

    Also have got a couple of things from the Jason vale app: nicotine is like a mini terrorist inside you demanding nicotine and trying to make deals with you like just one, just one more and then you can stop. But "we don't negotiate with terrorists!" That's quite powerful and iv used it and surprisingly when you get these thoughts like just one or just one more then stop it does actually shut that down effectively.

    I don't think one roll up after a week is the end of the world even if you smoked the whole pack (12.5g? Lol) but you need to decide what to do today it's not too late to get back on it. It can just be a blip. And sign up to NOPE or "We don't negotiate with terrorists!"

    Def try NRT, review ur quit plan, read Allen Carr and don't be too hard on ur self be angry with the nicotine terrorist for conning u again. And throw any left over tobacco away.

    Hope ur ok πŸŽ„πŸŽ„πŸŽ„πŸ˜¬πŸ˜€πŸ€“πŸ˜ƒπŸŽ„πŸŽ„πŸŽ„

  • Hi Lizzie! 'Been there and done that, myself -- don't be too hard on yourself! Think of it as a trial run or an "educational" experience! Shirley & Andrew have given excellent advice -- so I won't say too much -- except: 'Why not plan ahead and give it another try (and by all means consult a GP or other professional) -- and just know you are always WELCOME here -- so keep in touch!

  • Thanks you,asked my better half to dispose of all tobacco products for me when he gets home from work as I don't trust myself to do it. I really want to give up & I know I can do it. I think it was just such a stressful week last week that nicotine won that round. I think I was a bit naive in my thinking I could do this without help & support,lesson learnt now,I'm so glad I found this site as it wonderful to speak to others who know what your going through & understands how bad it can be :)

  • Please don't feel so bad Lizzie, we are human and we make mistakes. Perhaps have a plan on what to do next time you feel the urge to smoke. Have a list written down and look at what's on the list. Jump on here and shout for help and someone will be around to help you. The craving will pass whether you light up or not, so if you can distract yourself for a little while, it'll help. I know that sometimes it can be so very difficult but remind yourself how well you're doing and look at your list for all the reasons you want to stay smokefree. i see you've got some good advice already and we're all here rooting for you. sending hugs to help😊x

  • Okay Lizzie, it's okay, most, if not all of us have been through this, I know you can do this. If you can go a day, 3 days, a week, whatever, you CAN keep on going. You just keep taking little steps, one minute, one hour, on day at a time.

    I don't think you need to change anything apart from your mindset.

    Think carefully about each time you give in to the craving, how does it make you feel?

    Like crap!

    .......So get back to your plan, don't be hard on yourself, but when you get that overwhelming urge to smoke, before you do, ask yourself how you've felt by giving in to temptation in the past....... Will you feel better or worse? Only you will be able to answer the question. I recon this is all part of learning to quit, you think a quick sneaky fag will make you feel better, but you end up feeling bad.... All part of the practice and learning cycle. Next time could well be the quit where you don't slip!, because you learned how having a cigarette made you feel.

    Also, remember not to kid yourself. Smoking never solves anything, stressful events don't become less stressful after a fag.

    As Andrew said, Alen Carr's book is well worth a read.

    You're going to win this battle Lizzie, and we're all with you x

  • Don't give up Lizzie, you're doing great its just a relapse try and get back on track ASAP Amanda ☺ ☺ ☺ ☺

  • Thanks for all for all the encouragement on a plus side I only smoked 2 very thin badly made roll ups last night & resisted temptation since,thanks for putting things in perspective. Now on day 1 again but you live & learn each time you fall you just have to brush yourself off & start again. Anything is possible if you want it bad enough :)

  • Aup Lizzie, I'm so sorry you've had a little blip :o BUT, cos you only had 2 Rollies, ermmmm, very badly thinly rolled rollies at that, may I hasten to add :o :D :D then, if nobody has any complaints about it, I would like you to keep your Winners badge and carry on your quit journey as before :) :)

    But, please, please try to think of a way to get through this stressful time :) If you think we can help you with it, then please just ask :)

    Lizzie, am so so PROUD of ya gal, cos you came on here and admitted you had had a blip and I thank you soooo much for that :) :) Ok, you lost a battle, BUT, I know your going to win the flippin WAR and be FREEEEEEEE :) :)

  • I concur. (errr, Did I spell that right? c-o-n-c.....?)

    Why, A couple of teeny rollies?

    I mean we let ecigs with mega doses of nic slide by...

  • Thank you so much for that I really needed to hear it,struggling a bit today but gonna keep strong & resist 😊

  • Thank you for that,I am in a much better mind state now & haven't been tempted again. I have been listening to relaxation music & it has really helped with the stress & so has dancing round doing the housework lol :)

  • Goodmorning Lizzieβ˜•οΈ It's okay.... Don't worry that you lit up..... You're in the hardest time.... The first 2 months were hard for me..... The reason I wanted to stop smoking was because women in my family who smoke have strokes.... And that scares the hell out of me..... Scared me into quitting....... Keep your reason close why you chose to give up the cigarettes

    Merry Christmas πŸŽ„ xx

  • dont beat yourself up about it..like others have said..another practice run for the real thing :) :)

  • Just ACE Linda :) :)

  • I totally slipped up to in the beginning...got back on my quitcycle and road into the sunset.

    It's hard enough. Don't be so hard on yourself gal. You really have to take it one minute, one hour, one day, one week and so on... YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

    Keep up your quit until you succeed. Never stop trying to QUIT!

    NOPE NOPE NOPE

    Coco :)

  • How's it going today? Did u get rid of the tobacco? Hope uv had a good day πŸŒ²πŸ·πŸΈπŸŽ„πŸΎπŸ†’πŸ˜€πŸ˜ŽπŸš­

  • I did get rid of anything & everything to do with smoking & it was a major relief,no temptation & feeling better in myself & my journey x

  • Good to hear you're feeling better in yourself today Lizzie, onwards and upwards and well done😊x

  • Thanks the only way is forward as I refuse to go back x

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