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My best friend and soulmate has gone.

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After battling this evil illness for so long, my best friend and soulmate of 50+ years has gone. He died at 8.30 yesterday morning. We have had lots of laughs over the past days remembering all the mad, happy things we all did together as a family and with many friends and although he showed no signs of hearing it all, we just hoped he would go with lots of happy memories.

He went without food or liquid for 9 days and it was awful for us to see but he was in no pain. We made sure we stayed with him 24/7 for the last days so he was never alone.

Thank you to the so many friends on this list for your messages of support.

xx

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Heady profile image
Heady

Oh NanBabs, I am so sorry that your husband has passed away. May he rest in peace, finally free from this evil disease.

You have been on this site a long time now NanBabs, given loads of advice, now it's your turn to listen. Take very good care of yourself, use your hard learnt caring skills on you. This side of PSP, is just as hard, plus you first have to recover from the last few years. Grieve in your own way and at your pace. Let others look after you for a while.

We are all still here for you, arms around you, holding you tight.

Sending big hug and much love

Lots of love

Anne

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NanBabs in reply toHeady

Thank you Anne, I truly feel among friends here.

xx

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Yvonneandgeorge in reply toNanBabs

Oh felt so sad reading that your best friend had passed away, feels like so many are dying, at least he is away from this evil illness, thinking about you, sending you lots of love, do as Anne says time to think about yourself it’s been a tough journey. Sending you a big hug. Yvonne xxxxx

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NanBabs in reply toYvonneandgeorge

Thank you Yvonne,

It feels like I`ve known you all for ages and shared with you all the difficult challenges we`ve faced. I hope we have helped each other.

xx

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Yvonneandgeorge in reply toNanBabs

Lovely lady you have been amazing, so many tough times, but you have gotten through it, now you take time to think about you. So sad when news that someone has passed away feels like it’s one of our family xxxxx

You have my deepest condolences. He was with his family at the end and not in pain.

Ron

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NanBabs in reply to

Thank you Ron.

xx

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Marie_14

Oh Nanbabs, what do I say to you? He is safe and free from all the horrors of this disease now. I love that you had your family there with you and you spoke about happy times. I am sure he heard you and inside had a little thank you for being such a great wife and family.

You have been a great carer and always did your best. Sleep when you can and be kind to yourself now. Big hugs to you and family.

Love to you Nanbabs and may your best friend rest in peace.

Marie x x

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NanBabs in reply toMarie_14

Thank you Marie xx

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Kevin_1

Oh, NanBabs

I am so sorry. What a lovely thing to do, talking about good times and silly times. Like packing his bag for a journey so that he doesn't go without. That thought brought tears to my eyes.

You have given us all so much here. Thank you and we are here for you too.

There is a candle burning for you both, in my hearth as I type.

Hugs

Kevin

xx

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NanBabs in reply toKevin_1

Thanks Kevin,

You and others here will never know how much your wit, advice and love has helped me through all this.

xx

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Mikey12345

Nanbabs,

I am so sorry to read that you have lost your soulmate. This is such a difficult time and seems an impossible feat to go on and take care of ourselves, but I'm sure we'll all go on.

I, too, lost my love on Thurs. and am trying to get through it. With memorial day holiday, our funeral is on Thurs AM. Such a long time.

I hope you will take others advice and take care of yourself and try to recuperate from all of the stress you've no doubt endured, although glad to do so.

I'll be watching for all the responses so that I too can benefit from the help.

Prayers are with you.

Hugs, Liz

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NanBabs in reply toMikey12345

So sorry Liz, even though expected, it hits you like a train when it happens. My thoughts are with you too.

xx

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Satt2015

Darling nanbabs I’m so very sorry and my heart goes out to you!

May your darling now rest in peace and you my love, please just take time now for yourself!

❤️ X

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NanBabs in reply toSatt2015

Thanks Amanda,

You have given me many smiles. The love and fellowship on this list is amazing.

xx

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Helen119

Love and hugs Nanbabs xxx

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NanBabs in reply toHelen119

Thank you, hugs are very welcome right now.

xx

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Brenive

My condolences, sorry to hear your news, think about the good times...Brenda. ..

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NanBabs in reply toBrenive

Thank you, I know you understand, having recently been through this.

xx

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Martha_k_uk

Oh NanBabs, I am truly sorry to hear this. My dad passed 6 weeks ago and I wish you much love and strength and comfort from the fact that there is no more suffering xx

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NanBabs in reply toMartha_k_uk

Thank you Martha, everyone on here is such a comfort.

xx

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raincitygirl

Dear Nanbabs,

My most sincere condolences in the loss of your soulmate. We so want them to be free of the evil trap of this disease, but what a price we pay 😢

I hope you have good support close by - sounds like you do - and you know you have our support and love in this "online home".

Hugs to you XXX - Please keep in touch when you are ready.

Anne G.

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NanBabs in reply toraincitygirl

Thank you Anne, the love and support on this list is great and my sons have been enormous comfort but they are suffering too now.

xx

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Ratcliffe

Oh Nanbabs, I feel so much for you. you were here when I started posting on here, it has been such a long journey for you, but you have done so well looking after your husband.

You need to try and look after yourself now, I know you feel awful, and there is so much to do, but you really need to look after yourself right now. You have done everything for so long.

I never know what to say, but please look after yourself 🙂

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NanBabs in reply toRatcliffe

Thank you Ratcliffe, it has been a long journey for us all and it hasn`t got any easier.

xx

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doglington

Oh, nanbabs, we have been through a lot together. It sounds as if you did another good job at the end.

Its so exhausting and empty. Make sure you look after yourself and remember you have us all who know how it is.

Big hug from Jean xxx

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NanBabs in reply todoglington

Thank you Jean,

I feel amongst friends here - friends who understand like others can`t who haven`t trodden the same path.

I feel empty at the moment and slightly stunned but all your support and hugs help enormously.

xx

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Nanny857

So sorry NanBabs that your dear friend and soulmate has passed on but thankfully he was in no pain and he had his family with him. You have been so supportive and encouraging in your posts to us all and I sincerely thank you. Now please rest and take care of yourself. Sending you a big hug and lots of love Nanny857xx

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NanBabs

Thank you so much. It is the end of an era for us. Your hugs and wishes help a lot.

xx

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Zeberdee

Nanbabs I am so sorry that your loved one has passed but a pain free end is something we all hope for. Like many of us on this site we now tread another path with all its challenges. Take care of yourself and accept support that is given to you. A bear hug for you. Love Jxx

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NanBabs in reply toZeberdee

Thank you Zeberdee,

I feel a little lost at the moment but my family have been terrific even though they are grieving too. I am accepting all the help offered and sleeping so much more than I have been.

xx

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Spiralsparkle

Massive hugs to you and a sprinkling of strength to carry through this next part of the trauma that these illnesses deal .

Thinking of you xx

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NanBabs in reply toSpiralsparkle

Thank you, a sprinkling of strength and hugs are just what I need.

xx

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Katiebow

So sorry to hear your sad news NanBabs you have been posting on this site a good while now and now you find yourself having to tell us that your soulmate has left this world and you are left to grieve. It seems it was a good death for him surrounded by those he loves, so important in my mind. It's hard isn't it, I lost Ben just over two weeks ago and I still can't get used to the fact he's not here any longer. I wander about the house having to force myself to do the tasks that have to be done when you loose someone, many I should have done already but I just can't find the energy to do them. I spend much of my time staring into space waiting for tears to flow but they just won't come. I think we all react differently when we loose the person closest to us. I'm sending you a big hug and know that we are all here to support you.

Love Kate xxx

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NanBabs in reply toKatiebow

Thank you Kate,

I am so sorry you have lost Ben. I cried so many tears over the last 3 years that I didn`t think I had any left - until I heard "Love is all around" on the radio earlier this evening and after listening to the words that felt so appropriate, I cried some more as I was driving.

Your hug and support have been received safely.

xx

So sorry for your loss Nan Babs. Such a difficult time. My thoughts are with you.xxx

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NanBabs in reply to

Thank you so much.

xx

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Julieandrog

Hugs to you all, like you we had the best week possible with rog, much laughter , many tears. New journey now, difficult but different.

Julie xx

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NanBabs in reply toJulieandrog

Thank you Julie,

Like you, we did our best - which is all you can do.

xx

I'm so sorry for your loss but he is free now and rest assured he is by your side helping you through your grief, as you helped him through his illness.

Thinking of you.

Big hugs.

Sue xx

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NanBabs in reply to

Thank you Sue, that is a lovely thought.

xx

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LindaK12

So sorry! A big hug from me and look after yourself x

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NanBabs in reply toLindaK12

Thank you. I feel in a daze at the moment, but I will be OK.

xx

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Megabrew88

Dear NanB,

So sorry to hear of Your P’s passing.

Sending you love in this difficult time.

Mx

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NanBabs in reply toMegabrew88

Thank you, your love and support are helping very much.

xx

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Allan924

My love and thoughts to you and your family in this sad time. Hang on to those beautiful memories...love Bax and Kim Allan xxx

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NanBabs in reply toAllan924

Thank you. I`m so glad we have those happy memories to hang on to.

xx

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Beads0122

NanBabs,

I realize that I am the 40th person to tell you this, but my heart does go out to you with the loss of your best friend. I wish you strength and comfort as you go through this final stage of this ugly disease.

We often reminisce over the good times also. It helps us to realize why we go through this

Blessings,

Bobby

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NanBabs in reply toBeads0122

Dear Bobby,

It doesn`t matter if you`re the 1st or 40th person, your blessings and kind thoughts are a great support. Thank you.

xx

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Dickwin

NanBabs

I am so sorry to hear that you have had to say goodbye to your soulmate, but I can only guess he is in a better place now, free from this horrible disease. It is now you that needs to heal. Take care of yourself and know that you did a great job as a carer. That is abundantly clear from your wonderful and empathic correspondence here. Sending my love and prayers.

Dick

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NanBabs in reply toDickwin

Thank you Dick,

PSP has been a long and terrible road for all of us but the love and friendship here has been a huge comfort.

xx

Dear NanBabs,

Reading your lines I reaffirm that when society improves, it does so thanks to beautiful human relationships, fine rain and intense rain of solidarity, the quiet and conscientious work of anonymous professionals, the good actions of many good people.

I can not think of a better way to dismiss a "friend of the soul" than you have shared with this group of anonymous heroes.

Big hug.

Luis

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NanBabs in reply toLuisRodicioRodicio

Thank you Luis.

xx

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connc

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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NanBabs in reply toconnc

Thank you, it is so kind of you to think of us.

xx

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daddyt

So very sorry for your loss xx

Tim

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NanBabs in reply todaddyt

Thank you Tim.

xx

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bryval

Dear Barbara. Just got back from a few days away and saw your sad news. So sorry to hear this and send you my love.

We spoke a while back before Valerie passed away and it was helpful to talk. When you feel up to it give me a call and we can talk or meet for a coffee and share our thoughts.

God bless you and try to remember the good times.

Bryan

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NanBabs in reply tobryval

Thank you Bryan,

I will do that (remember the good times and ring you). Glad you`ve been away for a while, I hope it has helped you a bit.

xx

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