My mom was recently diagnosed with said to be ovarian cancer stage 3c. She had a "better then optimal" Surgery per the oncologist, and today she visited the medical oncologist who said it could be stage 4 because it was on her liver. But the surgeon had told us it was on top of her liver and he removed it all. All visible cancer has been removed. This is very unclear, she also does not always tell the truth and exaggerates. They told her she starts chemo in 3 weeks, which is great. Knowing that there is a next step - She is just ready to lay down and die no matter what good news we give her. She has a loving husband for over 35 years, 3 kids who all need her (I being one of them). They offered her carboplatin and taxol, and mentioned avastin as well. They also offered her a clinical trial which she said absolutely not to. She is at the best hospital Sloan Kettering and was treated by world renowned surgeon who pushed ahead her surgery. The medical oncologist also is supposed to be amazing. I know that does not equal remission, but she is lucky enough to live near an amazing facility with experts all around
She said she is no way doing avastin because of side affects and that it only increases your life by 5 months. I told her "Mom, you are ridiculous. These are just numbers and who knows how it will affect you?" She is a medical professional herself, I do not understand what is wrong with her. She is only 63 years old, was always in excellent shape, has never ever had a medical issue in her life. The cards in her favor especially that she had an optimal debulking surgery. She is acting helpless and has told my sister and I to give her to May to enjoy the end of her life.
Am I missing something? I am getting married in two months and she even returned the shoes saying she will not need them. How do I encourage her to do the clinical trial, the avastin and everything possible. What do I do to convince her that this is not the end? I see many ladies on here surviving over decades. This will not and cannot be the end for her. We are rooting for her, and will push her if she cannot push herself.