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l had UTI's all my life l'd been in and out of doctors surgerys so many different hospitals l my 1st child complained about the pain in my back l kept telling tge doctors that l was hurting so much not one doctor took me or my mum seriously when l said there must be something wrong "Apparently since birth this has been going on" l then gave birth to my 2nd child who was huge 8lb 12 Onces lm 5ft .2 in he was like giving birth to an elephant anyway during my labour l kept saying something is wrong that l didn't feel right No doctors or nurses were listening to me l told my mum that l didn't feel right she also spoke to them l was crying in pain trying to push my son out l kept passing out l gave birth to my son roughly 1hr later l told mum l needed to pee so l walked ove to the bathroom as the door shut behind me l felt really weird the next thing l knew l woke up in a hospital bed with loads of drips on me apparently l'd gone into Kidney failure pumped full of the antibiotics sent home with my boy a few days later then booked in to have my "Bad kidney removed" apparently it was deformed since l was born & causing my other kidney to over work and passing bad bacteria from the deformed kidney to my good kidney my mum told them many times that my little brother died of Hydronephrosis kidney failure as the kidney was deformed but they still didnt listen so l and my Son are very lucky to be here no thanks to the bloody doctors who kept telling me and my mum that there was " NOTHING WRONG WITH ME THAT I WAS LOOKING FOR ATTENTION" I now live on my left kidney which is quite badly scared from all of the infections thoughout my life and a lovely 8 inch scar to remind me of my torture throughout my life. Lucky myself and 2 beautiful children are still here together.

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Your story is quite amazing. Good luck to you and your family.

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Good luck you have been through such a lot darling. xxxx

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That angers me that doctors told you, you were looking for "attention"! GEEZ, isn't it a physician's job to hear what is wrong and "fix" it or try to anyway? I am glad you are "ok"! God bless you and those beautiful children as they really make it ALL worth any struggles!

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Shellymay21 in reply topatrickd

I had my right kidney removed in May 1995 my son was born March 1995 and he's so lucky to be alive my son was in so much distress during my labour my mum was screaming at the Doctors, Nurses telling them that l was collapsing and becoming unconscious when mum found me on the hospital floor unconscious they all listened to my mum then by that time it was to late as my kidney was failing and rapidly they pumped so much medication into me pushed my mum out of the way told her l need to go into the intensive care unit once all the antibiotics done the job had to go back to have my kidney removed 3 months later they told me No heavy lifting for 6 months " (Really l'd just given birth to my 8lb 12oz baby boy who was almost (58cm) 2ft in length🙄 mum/partner was working l also had my 5yr daughter to look after they said l would be in hospital for 10-14 days Nope not me 4hrs after major surgery when the anesthetic wore off myself and my 18 Metal Staples in my side that were holding me together and my Morphine on a trolley went for a walk around the hospital ward, the nurses and doctor were screaming at me to go back to bed l told them l cannot lay in bed feeling sorry for myself that l wanted to go home to my children they couldn't believe me on day 5 when l packed my bags and said lm fine l'm going home they had done all the vital checks that morning and said l had made an amazing recovery so quickly l said l told you so lm a mum with 2 children waiting for me to come home, my left kidney plays up now and again but l always have antibiotics on stand by just in case of and kidney infections (which is weird as if l do get one its always seems to be on a Friday night early Sat morning ) but my children have grown up and they are very loving caring adults now my daughter Kayleigh is now 32 and my miracle son Blake is 27 l can't believe where the years gone? it still fine like a nightmare that happened yesterday 😔 Please if you notice any difference in your urine thats not as usual get it checked and don't take No for answer. Stay safe take good care of yourself and your loved ones

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Shelly xx

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patrickd in reply toShellymay21

All I can say is YOU are an AMAZING woman/mom! I wish I could give you a big hug and an award for being such a great, strong mom! I swear we true "moms" have this special superpower that kicks in when it comes to our children. I don't know where it comes from it just shows up. We "moms" never think of ourselves..we put everything into our babies and that strong love and bond (no man could ever understand) we have for them (well most of us anyway, there are a few unfortunate ones who do not get that power for some reason). Thank you for sharing your story and your advice!

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Shellymay21 in reply topatrickd

Thank you for your lovely words ❤ "Yes we have to be strong mums" Because if it wasn't for my wonderful mothers support in guiding me l think l would have crumbled but my loving mum taught me to always be strong for my children my mum was my " Mum & Dad" as my so called Dad walked out on us when l was 9mths old so my mum had to be a strong woman and l certainly had to follow in my mums footsteps, my mum was an Amazing single mum she did absolutely everything to support and love All 5 of us l was the youngest🙄 Believe me l could write a book on my life it would make everybody cry in disbelief they would want to make a movie, when l look back at all the things that l have been through and that l'm still here"God only knows why?" But saying that it's all down to my late mum for always being there when l needed her hand, l miss mum so very much l lost her to Non Hodgkins lymphoma "blood & bone cancer" 30th July 2019 that month nearly killed me off as not only did l lose mum l also lost my beautiful little girl Cookie"my rescue dog for 14yrs" also to cancer but on the 1st July 2019 that month/year was so very very testing but l was having to cope & pull myself together because my children needed their mum.

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patrickd in reply toShellymay21

I am so, so sorry for your loss! With ALL my heart, I believe she is with you always, supporting you and giving you the strength you need during difficult times. Obviously, no one ever enjoys or appreciates the hurt and pain we get from others (always the ones we love and need the most) BUT at the same time, like it or not, it molds us into what we become. Looks to me like you took the pain and learned from it and use it in a positive way. You sound like a wonderful, strong, kind and loving person! Maybe write that book if not for the public, for yourself and your family! God Bless you and happy Mother's day

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