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Wedding ring options

Pre-diagnosis, I had to get my wedding and engagement rings cut off. I've since had them soldered together but the ring is no longer whole, leaving a gap in case my hands swell too much again.

In the winter the ring wouldn't go over my second knuckle so I couldn't wear it for weeks. Right now it's so loose I worry about it falling off.

Has anyone got any suggestions about what to do? Do I get it made into a hoop again and wear it on a chain? Has anyone had any success with ring tattoos? (I have a few tattoos already, one done post-diagnosis and on meds with no problems).

I just really want to wear my jewellery without risk, or getting it resized twice a month!

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When my rings got too small to go on my fingers i put them on a chain long enough to fit between my boobs so they are close to my heart. Hubby brought me a silver ring to wear on my wedding finger so i and others know i am happily married. I am rather funny about my marriage and i like the fact i am married and proud to be called Mrs Reynolds. I suppose i am old fashioned like that.xxx

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I like being married too Sylvi. When I married my sweet hubby, he told me that if I wanted to keep my maiden name he would be okay with that. My answer: "Are you nuts? I want the world to know I love you and am harried to you!" =)

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I love being Mrs John Reynolds Though i call him Bob because he used to go on the land with his Granddad and he was called old Bob and hubby was alled young Bob. He is also known as Debbie Due to his Army days.xxx

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How cute, huh??

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Have you thought of buying 1 or 2 very thin stacking rings in a size that will stop your precious ring falling off?

You could either get something plain, or maybe a circle of "diamonds" to wear either side of your ring.....then when your finger starts to swell whip them off.

Look on QVC at their Diamonique collection...they have a big collection of rings cheap enough not to break the bank...but they look very good.

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Oh, that's a great idea!

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Send us a pic if it works out!

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That’s exactly what I do AgedCrone! When my grandma died, my grandad gave me a beautiful old 22 carat rounded wedding ring that had been passed to her from my great grandmother. I remember saying to my husband that it was far too big and I’d never be able to wear it. How wrong I was and 4st heavier it fits me. I also have a titanium & gold slightly smaller ring that I have to keep it on when my hands really swell as my eternity ring is now too small for even my little finger. Sometimes I just don’t wear them at all. A necklace is a good idea but I find them annoying. I don’t wear a watch either because I can’t stand one on my skin!

Nic xx

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On my chain round my neck i have three generations of wedding rings on my mums side of the family,mine,my mums and my grandmas wedding rings .xxx

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Hi Chrissy almost three years on and I've never got my wedding ring on again - it used to sit, at it's worst point, just under my nail! Things are a little better it now as at a push it sits just above my knuckle but it's doubtful I'll ever wear it again, I think three years is long enough!

I put them (wedding, engagement and eternity rings) on a gold chain and hubby and I went to one of the high street discount jewellers and bought my 'fat ring'. It's a sparkly bauble and although 10 sizes bigger than my wedding band (I went from an M to a Y!), and sometimes it gets a little tight or slack...it's pretty and sparkly and makes me feel good! M x

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Well I had a piece added to mine after my wedding ring had to be cut off after a hiatus of 3 months off my meds. A bit sad really really because I now have a piece of random 22 carat gold in my ring which was made up from melting down my mum's, nan's & my h's gran's wedding rings (they made my h's ring too, I don't have a huge wedding ring!). It's tight again now so will no doubt have to be cut off again, hopefully before my finger starts turning blue again!

I don't wear my engagement ring, it only fits my little finger now anyway.

It's really down to whether it's important to you to have your ring on your finger or not, like Sylvi it is to me. I'm not a tattoo type person so wouldn't have one done but if you are I see no reason why you shouldn't, you do see more & more ring finger tattoos nowadays, just take the usual precautions for someone on the meds we take. I also think AC's idea is a good one, might snaffle that one!

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Some ladies have their husband's name tattooed around their Ringfinger-

Okay if you are married to a Fred but a bit difficult if he is called Humphrey unless you have very fat fingers !

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I found some nice abstract designs when I first thought about it a year or so ago

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Think you might have regretted it when you are my age!

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It's the upkeep that's the problem, often they fade or crack and you have to keep getting it retattooed

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Ouch!

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Tattoos aren't for me really. I do like your idea of a circle of "diamonds", mmm got me thinking, how pretty that would look. I do have a half eternity, diamonds & sapphires but the claws catch on everything. I wonder if the stones could be used to redesign a thin band. We do have a very good jobbing jeweller, the chap who sorted my wedding ring. I know he does a good job because I've used him before to made jewellery & a silver key ring. Think I'll call in this weekend. Thanks Kathy.

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Hi, NMH......I had a diamond & sapphire ring that like you say caught on everything...I had it made into a flat band with the stones inserted like in a Gypsy ring...ie flat into the gold so it doesn't catch on anything now.

I took a photo from a magazine showing the jeweller what I wanted.

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A nuisance isn't it? Yes, that was my immediate thought but I wonder if as they're baguettes they'd space & fill out on a band nicely. I'll have to see him, if I take the ring in so he can see the dimensions he'll probably draw me up a few options.

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It's a rub over setting you'll want instead of claw, my engagement ring is the same!

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Yes, that type of setting gives itself to an eternity ring doesn't it?

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It's funny - My brother in law didn't want to wear a ring, and my sister said okay. Then she took him to a tattoo parlor =)

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My h always did but with the fluid retention he has he can no longer wear it. So did your brother n law get the tattoo?

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Yep - he wanted to stay married - ha ha

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Haha wise man!

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My hubby doesn't wear a ring,but you can be in no doubt he is married he has that look of a married man.xxx

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Now, that could be taken two ways, & I'm not getting into trouble.😬 So which is it?!

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He just doesn't shop around he is happy with what he brought 35yrs ago. PMSL.xxx

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Haha, love it!

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It pretty much depends on how much you wanted to spend. AC's suggestion is wonderful and I'll bear it in mind should the need arise. At the moment I have skinny witchy fingers. If you're feeling flush a good jewellery designer can use a special hinged shank so the ring could open up for removal instead of getting it cut off.

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I had a look at the hinged option but they're pretty clunky

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You can also,of course get expandable rings on elastic.....some look very good but most are a bit glittery!

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I had some! Unfortunately they were a bit itchy, but I wore them while my broken rings were being soldered together and altered. I wouldn't like it as a permanent solution though

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Plus they turn your finger green!

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I haven't worn my wedding ring ever since it was cut off when I started with all this. I think it depends what it represents to you whether you feel the need to do something with it!

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I do and did miss it when I can't wear it, unfortunately. I even get weepy at other people's weddings when they talk about the symbolism of a whole uninterrupted circle representing everlasting love

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Don't think like that Chrissy...I know gals who are on their third diamond encrusted platinum wedding ring (+3rd husband) who would swap in a heartbeat with those with no ring who are blissfully happy with hubby No1! Count your blessing instead!

Gosh .... I'm getting maudlin' in my old age!!!

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Here here. I know one or two of those!

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Sadly I can’t wear my wedding ring anymore, there are days when I think I can but regret it when I’ve found it hard to get back off so I now have it on a chain with my husbands. Don’t wear it as much round the house, I’ve become such a clutz, scared I’ll break the chain, always have it on when I am out tho. I’ve got used to it now, it’s become part of an automatic routine. I also have an ashes ring that I also can’t wear but I have that on my Pandora bracket to wear when I can do the clasp that is 😂 the joys of RD, like other things with this Disease, you find ways to get round the obstacles x

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Hubby brought me a stronger chain and it holds my mums,grandmas my wedding ring,engagement one and my eternity ring as well. I only take them off if i have to have surgery.xxx

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Hello, I have had the same problem for a long time. After having my ring sized several times I decided to have my engagement ring, wedding ring made into a ring. This has worked out well although on occasions but not too often my finger swells to the point I can’t wear it. My husband bought me just a very plain gold band slightly bigger than the one I use mostly. It’s a tricky thing. I feel bare if I don’t wear my ring. I hope you get something sorted. It’s really your personal choice.

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I have an expanding metal gold coloured ring. I do at least look married with it on. My own wedding ring was taken into a jewellers to be enlarged many years ago and the jeweller lost it in the post. It was traced as a melted down bit of gold. That is a lesson to everyone. Don't assume as I did he was going to do it on the premises.

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Oh no! We had a similar thing happen though we knew it was being sent away though foolishly thought securely. The jeweller sent my h's clear quartz ring away to be sized for a sapphire for our 10th wedding anniversary (at the same time he had he had my half eternity made if you've read my reply above) so we not only lost the ring & setting to be used but also the stone. Never used that jewellers again!

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The jeweller did offer me any ring I liked in return. I decided on an eternity ring as felt I couldn't replace my wedding ring. The problem was that it just reminded me that I hadn't got my own ring all the time and I grew to hate it so sold it. I did buy a replacement but then the trouble started with my joints and I was going between wedding rings I had inherited from two Aunts and my mother. I then out grew all so decided on the expanding one. Did they offer you compensation? Not that it can replace the lost ones.

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Nothing could ever replace your wedding ring can it? Fortunately we had a pic of the lost ring, we'd to have all our jewellery done for insurance, so for they were able to make a new ring from that. They charged for the sapphire of course, that was a feat as we wanted the same colour as the ones in my eternity ring & it was a reasonable size so we had quite a wait but we were prepared to. No charge for making the ring & a reduction off the cost of the sapphire relative to the weight of the lost stone, though of course we had to trust that they were giving an honest valuation.

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They should have given you the sapphire too. I had no picture but looked all over the place for a similar ring. I didn't know how individual it must have been.

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That would have been a little cheeky, it's a sizeable sapphire. That's a shame you didn't have a pic, makes the job easier.

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I’m jealous. I have no wedding ring😳

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I have never been able to wear my wedding engagement eternity rings for at least 15 years as my knuckles on all my fingers are so thick and boney not a nice look.My daughter wears my eternity and we bought cheaper rings that look okay because i might have to change them again.

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Hi lovely

Sorry to hear this but I know a bit about jewellery, you could get it melted down n 're made into a sliding ring best way to describe it you know the baby bangles you could buy that you could adjust you could hopefully get it made into one of those. So you can open it up and then close it again once over the knuckle .

You may have to find a jewellery shop that designs and re models jewellery . There are a few about.

Hope that helps xxx

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