So I bought a new car last week no big deal but changing all ANPR registrations took hours, then the country parks and then today a person ( loose description )in a transit carrying disabled people, in the car park jumped me, scratched it then got out screaming I didn’t need a badge if I could afford a new car! I was going to do the tramper training to use the quad on the really rough track at a local park. I walk two/three of the tracks but the five mile and seven mile one are beyond me but they have these off road quads to borrow. I got really shook up, it was so unexpected and he was really abusive. I said I’ve got a badge too and you’ve just jumped me and you’ve put a scratch on my wheel arch. I got out as felt the bump and it’s still clean as new. I said look at it it’s only a week old! I asked for his insurance details and he said look at the logo on the van. So I photographed it to come home and look it up to discover the company has been dissolved but it’s still trading. I know obviously I’m full comp insurance but sometimes it’s easy to see why people can get annoyed by Blue Badge users. I was livid and reported him to the park management and they said it’ll be on there CCTV too and they can’t move him but can ban the company for abusive behaviour and get the number plate recorded. But what should have been a bit of an adventure turned sour and I’ll rebook. I’m no shrinking violet but was actually frightened and a bit shook up. But a cup of tea and slice of free cake was very welcome from the park manager. He did say they had had another incident of abusive behaviour recently so it’ll be sorted. He was going to look at the CCTV and I sent him my dash cam footage. What is it these days, aggressive behaviour seems to be so much more common and at the end of the day was that man so big bullying and screaming at a grey haired old woman.? Two other drivers said they saw and heard the commotion and also had him on camera. So now for a glass of wine, box of fudge and maybe watch some TV as I need to chill.
Blue Badge trauma off topic: So I bought a new car last... - NRAS
Blue Badge trauma off topic
I’m so sorry you had such an awful experience with that horrible man. How can a disabled organisation employ such an appallingly behaved person to drive disabled people?You could report him for his abusive and intimidating behaviour, to his employer and possibly to the police. Is it a hate crime I wonder? Hopefully your dash cam and the CCTV will have recorded the encounter and the park manager would probably confirm how badly you were affected by the experience.
Sadly it seems there is growing evidence of more frequent and increasingly aggressive behavioural incidents being experienced, especially directed at disabled and Covid conscious individuals. There is medical evidence that repeated Covid infections can cause damage to the frontal temporal lobe of the brain, which is the area that controls impulses and behaviour.
Hope you have managed to restore your equilibrium with a bottle of wine and the whole box of fudge! X
Sorry you had such a horrid experience -no wonder you were so shook up! I don’t know why people can be so aggressive -especially someone in a responsible position! I hope you’re feeling more relaxed now and the wine & fudge helped xxx
Good heavens that is shocking. You have to wonder how he can still be driving disabled people around if the company has been dissolved but is still trading.
One way or another it sounds very much like it could almost be a police matter - as for attacking you, that’s just not on. I’m glad the park staff were sympathetic and sound helpful. As for saying you didn’t need a blue badge - it’s none of his business.
It is a different world today. I was taught 'Manners maketh Man ( and woman! ). Some people are lovely but there are more aggressive people around, who are dangerous to challenge. I have also seen blue badges/ parking time badge, on cars recently with something added saying 'I have a hidden disability'. My badge is for poor mobility and I find it so very useful.
I am so sorry you experienced this, I’d be almost tempted to contact the police, as this is harassment and intimidation. I’ve only been challenged once in a local supermarket car park. Despite struggling out of the car, and having my walking sticks, I’d an elderly gentleman who was ranting, and saying “you don’t look disabled”, which I had no intention of justifying him. Do I just said “you don’t look stupid, but cowardly are.”, then went on my way. He seemed confused, and didn’t seem to get my point 😂.
I think I’d be having more that one glass of vino. Don’t eat to much off the fudge, you don’t want a flare, from all that sugar. Don’t let him get to you, sleep well 🤗
I would now contact the police for any car/motoring incident.,….a few years ago someone hit me from behind …”.seemed” a decent type,gave me his insurance details. I told my insco & they said as there were no injuries there was no need to report the incident to the police….Right…NO NEED but when I spoke to the Police they told me they have to investigate if ANYONE reports an incident……in my particular case the guy who hit me reported the incident ……telling a lot of lies …it took forever to sort out…& the Police were very helpful,….but long story short - my little car was not badly damaged…..just scratched paintwork…but the other driver had apparently produced a photo of his huge car with a big dent & lots of scratches which were going to cost thousands to repair. I sent a photo of my few scratches proving his damage could not possibly have been caused when he hit me…,which was confirmed by the garage fixing my paintwork.
My insco were useless …they just caved in & accepted responsibility…resulting in my car insurance trebling on renewal. So report anything however minor straight away….there are some very devious people around..
I had an incident many years ago, when I was in my early 20s. The guy was at fault, but got his passenger to jump out of the car, and act as an independent witness, fabricating a story, where he claimed I’d come out of a junction, I was on a dual carriageway, that was merging into one. He decided to be a smart ass and try to certain at the last minute. I was therefore initially arrested, till the police, verified my account about the “independent” witness. The laugh is, when I took my car into a garage in the town where I lived, the guy who hit me was working there 😂. The accident was in a neighbouring town. Needless to say, I went elsewhere for my repair. So I do report all incidents, the one above, is just an entitled old man, questioning me having a blue badge. I’d happily give someone all my ailments, and blue badge, in exchange to get my health back 🤗
oh chicks that’s awful. Big hug.
Eww another mean angry person. Sorry you came across him. 🩷 I’d also want to report him to the police as F&N and Runrig said. I hope your dash cam and the CCTV show what happened. Don’t let one nasty low life affect you, Medway. Sounds like he shouldn’t be driving people around with his bad temper and attitude. 😣 xx
Miserable pig. I hoe you reported it to the police darling/xxx
My goodness that’s awful. What is wrong with people. As others have said, this could be a police matter as he was so aggressive and he definitely should lose his job at the very least.
I think you’re right about people becoming more unpleasant. They’re taking their online manner offline and in person. My team see it daily as part of my company is a call answering service for clinics and we get a fair bit of abuse when someone can’t get the appointment they want (osteos, physios, pods).
I hope you’re ok now as it can be very disconcerting and I bet you were pretty shaken.
Oh my goodness!! That was an awful experience for you 😮😮😮. You must have been really shaken up afterwards but I’m glad the park people were able to help you. It should not have happened and agree what others have said, get the cctv and report him to the police. That behaviour is not acceptable. I don’t know why people have become so angry and abusive these days, seems to be happening more and more 😔😔
Hope the wine managed to calm you a bit and you got some sleep.
Kati xx
what a nasty horrible man no wonder you were shaken up, I agree with what everyone else has said some people just have no manners and aggression in people just seems to have gotten really bad these days. I see people look at me sometimes when I park in a disability spot and in my head I’m like go on just say something because I certainly would not justify myself to any ignorant person. Just enjoy your treats and put your feet up you don’t owe anyone an explanation and he certainly shouldn’t be driving disabled people around with an attitude like that ❤️
Horrible experience from a miserable bully 😪 hope the fudge and wine helped and you get to enjoy the rebooted day on the quads
So sorry you’ve had to suffer this upset but don’t let it stop you x
I just do not understand the mentality of people these days! No respect whatsoever it seems. Everyone is in too much of a rush with disregard for any other human. I honestly thought after the COVID saga folks would be nicer to each other but it seems to have gone the other way! I'm glad a cake and cuppa helped calm you and hope you get to make the horrid person pay! X
Outrageous behaviour, as others have said report his behaviour to the police. Most likely find that he has a record. It'll help them build a case against him. (That is if they are bothered)
He hit you so claim on his insurance, don't blow your no claims.
There are good and bad in every part of society. This is why it's so important to stand together again the bad.
You know - I’ve just been looking at your post again - thinking it just can’t be right or legal that when you asked for his insurance details he basically refused to give you them and told you to look at the logo on his van which appears to belong to a no defunct company.
I would most definitely make chasing him up your ‘new hobby’ for the next few days until you get this all sorted out. You have to wonder who he actually is because he should have told you that and if he even has any sort of insurance. Good luck with it all. xxx
I’d have given his vehicle reg to the police to go visit him and told them he wouldn’t give you his insurance details. 😤
Exactly.
I’ve had this type of behaviour before as I was young when I received my first blue badge, it’s awful isn’t it, people just making assumptions. I had lost the feeling in my left side so had a difficult time but still liked to get out. People these days and back then are still mean to disabled people and most of the time it’s other disabled people who do it!
Take care
Wendy xx
I’m sorry you had to go through that. And what a stupid thing to say anyway. I’m pleased the park warden helped you. Awful experience x
Thank you all for the kind messages of support it's a so called "phoenix company" and the Insolvency Service are going to investigate as trading whilst dissolved is illegal. I've spoken to police and there's little they can do but record an incident. The Park Manager has rung as well and said they'll write to the company and explain that the County Council will not tolerate such behaviour and its on their CCTV so they'll need to make prior arrangements if they want to visit again and by appointment only. A bit sad really as it's vital to encourage use of the parks by all sectors of society and it's unlikely to be enforceable anyway as these types tend to ignore the rules anyway. But I feel better. Thank you once again and now to get the car to garage for scratch repair. The insurance company said it's sadly too common these days and a lot of nasty people about but they can find the registered owner and it'll not affect my no claims policy. GGGRRR but got some tulips from the garden to cheer me up today. So off to pick now..... Thank you again. xx
So upsetting for you.Glad you reported it and that the police and Parks Manager were supportive .
so sorry to read what happened to you. Hope you feel ok today. Lynda Blean lady x
How did you get on with the tramper!! I hope you still did the training and didn't let the idiot totally ruin everthing
Take care. Too much of this type of behavior.
You should have rang the police, no one should be subject to that.It's such a shame there are people like that who try to intimidate someone smaller than them selves and he was driving people with disabilities makes it all the worse.
He should know all about hate crime.
Disgusting behaviour 😤
I hope your okay now with a drink and some lovely fudge 😘
I like your style. (Wine n fudge. Great combo). Sorry that sod was so rude. He’ll be sorry, when he’s ‘dealt’ with. My mum was driving to the shops one day, when someone went into her car. The woman got out & was quite appologetic. But my mum felt the woman had done it deliberately. (This was when people would deliberately shunt lone, older drivers). The woman gave her, her card. She felt the woman was trying to get a family member business. She was trying to push her to go to that specific company to have her car looked at. My mother was a savvy woman & said she knew a great mechanic. She wasn’t going to fall for this ‘ploy’. I know the woman wasn’t agressive. But she was trying to manipulate the situation. Hope you’ve wound down now. You weren’t the one in the wrong! X
A couple of years ago on the A2 we were sandwiched by a car behind and one that kept slowing down in front. So we knew it was likely to be a cash for crash situation. You know how you know this is odd? So after that both cars were fitted with cameras. We’d seen a report on the TV about how it was done to innocent drivers but never thought we’d experience it. Some people these days are just horrid.
I know. It makes me glad i don’t drive! Those crash for cash people are scary. I like to take the bus. At least then i know i won’t have to get ‘involved’ if anything happened! Cars are so expensive. Tax, insurance, petrol, tyres! My partner has a car. One of his tyres went flat. He had a feeling it was a faulty valve. Went to a garage. They tried to sell him a new tyre. He said no. They kept trying to push him. He was right not to give in. I’m glad mechanics try to rip men off too. Not just women!
What is wrong with everybody these days? And it's happening all the time. So sorry to hear about these and echo the sentiments of the many others who have responded.
My theory is “what goes around comes around “let’s hope he doesn’t get our disease!!
Don’t let this ruin your time at the park and we’ll done sharing it with everyone 🥰
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