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Feel so upset after a relapse

Jojulian271 Week Smoke Free

Hello , I had a cig on Monday after going out drinking , I'm so mad with myself after a month of not smoking , I feel like such a fool and so cross that I did not manage to do it while out . 

I went out on the Sunday and did not smoke , so why on earth did I do it on Monday 

Does this mean I have to go back to square one and count from today as not smoking ? 

I cried all day yesterday and I'm not a person to cry a lot 

I'm bloody determined to do it this time , Iv learnt I will have to drink very little for first couple of months into my quit as the alcohol seems to give into my will power . 

Thanks for listening, this site really does help 

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NozmoValued Contributor

It happens. I have done it and so have plenty of others here so don't feel bad about it. At least you have probably realised that the cigarette you had tasted horrible and was nothing like the thing that you craved. That was my experience anyway.

The important thing is that you get back on with your quit. Call it day one or continue from when you originally started. There are no rules, it's whatever works for you.

Chin up! 


Hey Jo, you have had a fall but can get back up straight away and do this.   You know what you have to do now.

I would suggest starting from Day 1 again only to give you that determination not to let it happen again, if you continue on, it might not give you the same and may make you think you can easily have the "just one".   BUT, It is up to you....

Wishing you strength Jo, keep us up to date on how you are doing....

Jojulian271 Week Smoke Free in reply to RoisinO1

Hi roisin, 

Yes I was thinking I will have to start at day 1 again , as I may feel like I'm cheeting if I don't , 

Bloody frustrating though as a month was a great feeling to get to , but I think your right it will make me more determined to not think just one . 

Iv learnt my lesson , and its upwards and onwards , I know it's going to take strength and having this site is really helpful 😀

RoisinO1Administrator in reply to Jojulian27

Thats it Jo, great attitude!   

Joe22 Years Smoke Free

Hi jo thats the problem with booze and giving up smoking they dont go together very well.the same thing happened to me a few years back while quitting.i wouldnt beat yourself up to much as we all been there.just try to start your quit  again and good luck😊


hi jogullian

you are not alone.I did the same thing.i had a crap day at work (my previous post's will explain more )

I bought 10 little devils.I had one Guilt hit me.had 3 sigs.🙅🙅

then I thought what am I doing. Don't let someone drive you to smoke 😈😈

you had drink.you will learn.overcome.

it's a blip..you should put it down to experience ❓

take care

keep kicking

RoisinO1Administrator in reply to Hidden

Oh no Lizzy, replying to you here on this post, so sorry to read this...


You can do this and know what you have to, let us know how things go....

Hidden in reply to RoisinO1

no roisin.

it was past.a good few weeks ago.

when I first mentions the two 'ladies'

ha you had a dizzy moment😆

I have not fallen 😊

I'm still here.yeah

take care 😊

NozmoValued Contributor in reply to Hidden

You got us there Lizzy...two dizzy moments! 😀

RoisinO1Administrator in reply to Nozmo

Ah thank god Lizzy!  

NozmoValued Contributor in reply to RoisinO1

Ha ha, I thought Lizzy had lapsed as well Roisin! 

Abuelajeannie3 Years Smoke Free

Don't beat yourself up just learn from it. Pick yourself up and move on

mushenValued Contributor

Don't be so hard on yourself.  This is not a full blown relapse (I've had one so I know).  Just do not have any more.  Put this behind you.  This has not ruined your quit so pick yourself up and carry on.  You can do it.  Keep going.  ☺


All I can tell you is that one year from now it will make no difference if you smoked 1 or 2 cigarettes at some stage of your quit.

Ideally you stop smoking and you stick to to it, but do you do know what? We are not perfect... We all make mistakes,  we learn from them and we carry on...know that the very next days after the relapse are determining for you to stay quit.

Good luck buddy! 

Don't beat yourself up over this. I don't remember who was it but there is a great quote "The only real failure is giving up" :) 


jg27103 Years Smoke Free

stop belting yourself up it is like a diet just because you have a cake doesn't mean you start eating cakes just start again and stay positive I am on day 34 every time I have a major problem first thing I want is a cig but so far so good lots of no sugar lollies but still have put on a few kg hope I can get this off later all info says at least 3 months I am having lots of sore throats is this normak

RoisinO1Administrator in reply to jg2710

Welcome jg and huge well done on Day 34, that is great!

Sore throats are a normal experience in the early days of our quits as the throat and lung cilia begin to grow back.   I would suggest which I am doing since I quit 6 months ago a spoonful of honey every morning really helps (not pleasant tasting but do it quick!)

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