Help please guys!

OK this is getting silly now...I'm on day 27 and the last two or three have been possibly the worst so far. Not in terms of temper but I just really want a fag. It's not a crave like I got in the first few days, it's hard to explain.

I'm not sure why I want one as the nicotine's long gone, there have been no situational triggers like I've had before, I've taken deep breaths (and enjoyed and appreciated the ability to do so), even read horror stories about ill health.... but I still want a fag. It's frankly getting on my bloody nerves now and I'd appreciate any advice in overcoming this period, it's baffling me! :(

I haven't had one yet and am sure it's only bloody-mindedness that's kept me off them. Silliest thing is, I really want a tailor-made B & H, something I haven't smoked since, as I recall, about 1992/3 (I went on cheaper tailor mades around then, then roll-ups since 1997, if memory serves). It's admittedly ridiculous.

My kids are so proud of me, they can hardly believe it. The missus though is getting annoyed with me saying the last few days how much I want a fag. I want her to give me permission, to tell me to just have one, I know how it works. She hasn't done, God bless her, she's seen this behaviour before with another thing.

So to sum up....arrrrrgh! :confused: mind you I feel a little better having typed all this!

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  • Just to let you know you are not alone, Bear.

    I'll be three calendar months come Saturday and my quit has been going well, I think. However, this last week has been really difficult. I don't know why, nothing's really changed, I've just been keeping on but there are times when I could really "murder a cigarette". Like you, my health is so much better and the last thing I want to do is to go back to being my old wheezy, chesty self. So I won't have a fag. Doesn't stop me wanting one though.

    Daft, innit...

  • Oh God I dont know, I keep saying it but it is true it is complicated this quitting business. I dont know why it should have so many peaks and troughs the only thing I can say is that it is the same for everyone. I know things will improve for you over time and you will think about smoking less and less but for now just grit your teeth and get on with it! Keep on keeping on!:) Just read that back and it sounds a bit harsh I dont mean it to.

  • Thanks guys, nice one on three months on Saturday Pappy, you're right, it is odd how it comes and goes, but I identify with the wheeziness more than anything; I don't miss that. Thanks for a kick up the a*se Haze :) probably the best advice to be fair; what CAN you say I suppose?? Just got to get on with it ;)

  • I had the exact same thing with my wife on my previous quit, waiting for permission and for somebody else to tell me that I could smoke, almost to the point where I would make her feel guilty !!! You have to think of all the reasons why you quit and just keep going because you will think differently and when you do the sense of achievement will be immense !!!!!

    Stay strong and carry on !!!

    Rob

  • Rob.....there was me making the classic addict's mistake of thinking I was the only one....you said it exactly right there regarding the wives, thank you :) I'm aware of that now even more after typing what I did and reading your reply. Sometimes I think you need to see these things written down for them to sink in. And Karri....support is support, thank you..I've often said to myself that it would not be as good as I imagine and that I would be disappointed with myself afterwards, I've had dreams where I've had a ciggy then woken up relieved that it was just a dream!! Odd or what :confused:

  • I'm on day 58 and bin wanting to smoke all week.. Im not craving a fag tho I'm just craving the nicotine.. Sounds weird but it's true..

  • Hey there!

    You are so not alone. Most of us go through a stage like this.. yearning, yearning, yearning. I remember walking miles muttering and growling and crying and fighting that feeling of just wanting a fag for 'no good reason'. But it's been a month, I'd say to myself, what's wrong with me? Maybe I'm just one of those people who will always be addicted, maybe there's just no point...

    But the thing is, you don't need a big 'reason' to be wanting a smoke right now. It doesn't have to be massive stress or trauma that sets off that feeling. *Think* how many years you've spent drumming this habit into yourself. You're not going to totally restructure your subconscious in a couple of weeks, it stands to reason. At the moment, you are having to spend every waking minute accustomising yourself to getting through the day without fags. Of COURSE you obsess about it! So just accept it, roll with it, don't feel bad.

    Don't feel like you're on the slippery slope to failing - you're not.

    Dont' feel like it will always be like this - it won't.

    It's tough when it feels like this, but just focus on one day at a time. Keep making the right choice, you know all the good reasons why. Keep posting here. Keep strong. And I promise, hand on heart, as I live and breathe, the longer you go on the easier it will get. The obsession will pass. The habit will loosen its grip. You will do this.

    Read the link in my signature.

    And hang in there bear!

    Helen x

  • Don't you just hate it when someone sensible comes along... :p

  • Wow, this sums me up perfectly

    Hey there!

    You are so not alone. Most of us go through a stage like this.. yearning, yearning, yearning. I remember walking miles muttering and growling and crying and fighting that feeling of just wanting a fag for 'no good reason'. But it's been a month, I'd say to myself, what's wrong with me? Maybe I'm just one of those people who will always be addicted, maybe there's just no point...

    But the thing is, you don't need a big 'reason' to be wanting a smoke right now. It doesn't have to be massive stress or trauma that sets off that feeling. *Think* how many years you've spent drumming this habit into yourself. You're not going to totally restructure your subconscious in a couple of weeks, it stands to reason. At the moment, you are having to spend every waking minute accustomising yourself to getting through the day without fags. Of COURSE you obsess about it! So just accept it, roll with it, don't feel bad.

    Don't feel like you're on the slippery slope to failing - you're not.

    Dont' feel like it will always be like this - it won't.

    It's tough when it feels like this, but just focus on one day at a time. Keep making the right choice, you know all the good reasons why. Keep posting here. Keep strong. And I promise, hand on heart, as I live and breathe, the longer you go on the easier it will get. The obsession will pass. The habit will loosen its grip. You will do this.

    Read the link in my signature.

    And hang in there bear!

    Helen x

    I can 'so' identify with the feelings you described (I am just about to start day 13). This post is going to be really helpful to me as well as Angry Bear - it just makes so much sense - thankyou.

    Evie x

  • Shelly, Helen, Evie, thank you all, sound advice and support as I hoped for I guess....28 days now, four weeks at 10.30 tonight, felt a bit better today until the last few hours but I think that's because I've stopped doing stuff for a bit so have minutes on my hands :) thanks to all who replied to my plea for a bit of help, you're all great! :D

  • Don't you just hate it when someone sensible comes along... :p

    Ha Ha she is always lurking somewhere! Thank god!!!

  • Hey Angry Bear! Only on day 5 myself at present but would like you to know how much your previous threads have helped me through the first wee - thank you! :) I believe as the body starts to feel better, it starts to forget how bad you felt while smoking, like they say, you only remember the good times.....but were they really that good? I have been smoking for the last 19 yrs, here's to the next 19yrs + not smoking!! Well done on your 3 months, that's amazing!! :)

  • *first week, not first wee!!! Lol!! :)

  • Thanks again....

    Hey Leroy thanks for that, nice to know my rambles help someone else other than me! It's a month tomorrow for me though, not three months (not yet hopefully!) but you're right about how you forget how you felt before, I just take deep breaths, it's nice to be able to for a change :D

  • I just started week 7 yesterday, and like everybody else, I really want one!

  • I think it's catching at the moment, you're right Cake, a lot of people seem to be feeling it....as long as we don't give in though, wanting is OK for now :)

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