Day 7, feeling like a failure.

[nsd_user663_31154]

Today is day 7 for me, only managed the patches for 2 days before I suffered a reaction so cold turkey for last 4 but so far I'm feeling like a failure even though I haven't smoked. Other area's are suffering and considering I've only been married a month I'm thinking if I carry on it won't last another!! I'm so stressed out and my partner is taking the full force. I always wanted to give up and haven't enjoyed smoking for such a long time, just habit and perhaps in a strange way the one thing I have to myself...kinda like a treat (does that sound odd??) I gave up this time because my partner was on a moan mission and as he himself had given up for 3 days, just the usual...you stink, think of the money (not that he minded spending it when he smoked!!) The weathers naff so can't get out and about...grrrr. How can i stop this feeling of hatred towards him!!

[AngryBear]

Hey if you've gone seven days without a smoke you're no failure!!!!

Maybe you're so mad at him because you feel he nagged you into it, but as you said yourself you always wanted to give up anyway! Do it for yourself, no-one else. It's a tough thing to do, no question, seven days is immense.

I was the same just over a week ago at seven days, my wife and kids took a verbal battering but just let me moan on, they knew it was hard, especially the missus, I was the "smokiest" person she knows!

I read early on that the nicotine disappears from your system after three days, which means you're clear physically, now it's just the situational triggers, that's how I'm finding it, but I feel loads better already, the temper's cooling down, I hope to not smoke anymore, I quite like breathing properly!

[Unah]

Don't know what kind of reaction you had to the patches but if it was an itch and red skin then if you wave the patches around for about a minute it disperses the alcohol and they don't itch anymore.

[nsd_user663_31154]

The patches made my skin really irritable, red squares all over me and the itching was unreal! I was awake every hour putting camomile and cold wet flannels on them just to try and ease it. I don't think they really helped anyway as I never thought for the life of me I could do 5 days cold turkey. Maybe I should just lock myself away from him just in case I hurt him lol

[nsd_user663_44157]

just habit and perhaps in a strange way the one thing I have to myself...kinda like a treat (does that sound odd??) I gave up this time because my partner was on a moan mission and as he himself had given up for 3 days, just the usual...you stink, think of the money

Haylee

You have to stop seeing yourself as a failure. The fact that you are even prepared to give it a go means you are not a failure. Seven days is so good so repeat after me 100 times "I am not a failure"

I think a lot of us have said its my little treat. Its just another way of trying to justifying smoking

One thing I don't like about ex-smokers is the ones with the holyier than thou attitude, you know the ones who talk down to you as a smoker as if they are so wonderful and you are stupid. Yes I know we were stupid to smoke but I don't need someone preaching to me about it. Whoops sorry think I just had a little rant.

Anyway from what you have written it looks a bit like your OH is one of them. He should know how hard it is. He should be encouraging and helping you not stressing you out and making you feel bad. Quitting is not easy but it is even harder to quit when someone is putting you under pressure.

You need to be quitting for yourself and nobody else but I'm sure if you have got this far you can do this. It gets easier and you will be so pleased with yourself when it does.

Good luck Haylee and remember you are not a failure.

H

[Unah]

After 7 days CT you don't want the patches anyway. I admire you going cold turkey. I tried. I lasted nearly 3 days and couldn't stand it any longer. I've gone down to 14mg patches and am thinking of trying to go without if I can find the courage. Keep coming on here and read lots of old messages. You'll always find something to keep you going.

[nsd_user663_41061]

If you do not want to use the patches...try the lozenges...break in half..place under tongue...this will get rid of the bad cravings you may have!

It worked for me...and I was a 2 pack a day smoker! Good luck! Hang in there!