Hi folks, firstly thanks for reading, im on day six tmw of a c/t run and im finding stopping smoking really hard. the evenings are really getting to me. IM so so close to calling it all a day and starting again. i dont want to start again but then i do and every where i look theres people enjoying a cigarette, even on coronation street on the tv. will i ever ever be free of these terrible feelings. i would have thought things would have strated to ease by now. im not looking for sympathy just help....
i have tried before using patches and the likes, they havent worked hence the trying to stop again. i so miss the cigarettes id even walk out side now and its -10. if i had some that is. GRRRRRR. this is bad!!!!
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Its not that easy, but the right thing to do. Im into month 2 tomorrow cant believe it time flies but honest it gets easier keep the the faith and NOPE
I understand and it does get easier. My last Crazzzyyyy craving was 2 days ago, it was screaming sooo loud to buy a pack, smoke one and throw away the rest. I resisted and walked around the store for over an hour, i was so mad. even when I left, but I didn't smoke. I'm not gonna get punked buy an addiction and neither are you. That is why it's screaming so loud right now.... because you are winning. It's a fact!!! Hang in there
Just keep doing what you r doing and you are doing ok.My only advise believe in NOPE and change your routine I.ve started jogging and run up hills swearing f**k u nic all the way, weird but works for me
Ha ha I've started walking on an evening after my tea. For about half an hour. And I find this really helpfully. Then when I stop 20 mins it so later the pangs start. I feel totally irratable and wish I could hide away for ever. I just need to get away from every known noise person or thing as every slightest thing makes me swear it feel like throwing it across the the room. I've been a smoker for nearly 20 years.
Thanks Jubilee for putting it in plain English.because that is what's happening the addiction is screaming so bloody loud. I could scream. I feel like walking and walking and walking.like forest jump.ha ha.
Si22- your post makes me laugh. I too have to steer clear of annoying and loud people or get incredibly irriatated. I am now having to pay my kids 50 cents each time they catch me swearing :eek:, and I'm normally very cool headed. lol
U will have to quit one day right? If u stop trying now and start smoking again then u will have to do the first few days all over again. keep at it hun- keep writing on here, there is loads of support. IT WILL GET EASIER!! Keep positive n use the awesome things that people have said on here xx xx xx xx
Thanks guys this really does help talking on here I mean. Just the knowing there are people fighting the same thing at the very same time. The evil addictive cancer causeing drug that makes us all so happy. But has such a very very tight grip on our lives. This site and the people on it are great.I only hope one day I can offer advice to someone who is going through the same grief I am now. Thanks everyone for the support.
Thanks guys this really does help talking on here I mean. Just the knowing there are people fighting the same thing at the very same time. The evil addictive cancer causeing drug that makes us all so happy. But has such a very very tight grip on our lives. This site and the people on it are great.I only hope one day I can offer advice to someone who is going through the same grief I am now. Thanks everyone for the support.
Deal mate. Deal. Thanks for helping me through my latest wobble. I've not had one as bad as I've just had. I feel lots better than I did an hour ago.
Me too if I'm brutally honest with myself. Its just do bloody hard. We all know we don't want to smoke and we'ed hate ourselves if we did. But hell it doesn't make it any easier when the voice if addiction starts on you. Thanks for getting me through this one. Tmw is day 7. Keep it up mate we are strong and can beat the chemicals.
It would mate your right. Thanks for your help tonight. I feel ok now. That was a pretty good wobble I just had there. Its nice to know there a friends on here to help. Going to try get some sleep now. Hopefully speask tmw. Be strong and tthanks I owe you one. Si
Me too its genrally around 3 when i wake. Maybe I see you then. Hope you have a good night too. Remember in the words of Rhett Butler " tmw is but another day". Good night.
i wish mine were, i must admit they are getting easier, last nights was bad but thanks to the ever so helpfull people on here i was able to talk through it. each day at a time eh.
i wish mine were, i must admit they are getting easier, last nights was bad but thanks to the ever so helpfull people on here i was able to talk through it. each day at a time eh.
I think that helps too, talking through it. The craves really do go away. I'm not saying I think ill never have one again but I havnt had one for 3 days so who knows.
Hi Capitan, yep another day of being a non smoker, had a good day today, not two many cravings. one of two but nothing major. fingers crossed they maybe be easing a little.
Yeah i think im over the worst too, with the biggest wobble being last night.
with regards to keeping the mind of a non smoker, i think im still to cross that threshold yet. i dont fully feel like im out of the woods yet, i can see the light and im doing a slow but direct walk towards it.
I smoked for 26 years and always knew i was going to be a long hard road, just never knew it would be this tough. day by day mate, day by day.
Where abouts are you btw, im in a small town called Sowerby Bridge near Halifax, in the UK.
I'm in a place called Streetly, which is near Sutton Coldfield and Birmingham.
My name is Gary for the record.
Don't get me wrong, I don't think I'm out of the woods yet by a long stretch but deciding to consider myself a non smoker, rather than a smoker who has quit, is definitely helping from a psychological point of view.
I've decided that with new people I meet, should it come up, I'm going to say I don't smoke rather than I've given up. That way I'll avoid the inevitable conversations about the quit process.
Now that sounds like a good idea mate to say you arent a smoker, and probably a good way of looking at it too, rather than thinking im an ex smoker. We can now say we arent smokers!!! full stop end of!!!!.
People at work still smoke, i have been watching them this week not with a view to wanting a quick drag but with a why did i ever do that. But being a non smoker who once was a smoker, you have to be aware that you dont try and preach to smokers because we all know that theres nothing worst that a reformed smoker giving it large to you. But the true thing is you really do want to shout from the roof tops and tell people youve managed to wean yourself from the habit that held you so tight from morning to night 24/7 and that you actually feel better for not smoking.
They will see the light one day and we will be here for them.
Yeah Halifax is high up on the west of the pennines, some really nice countyside on our door step. Very hilly though. :eek:
Im thinking that the withdrawal symptoms are never going to get better, day 6 and still as strong!.The posts on this forum have been giving me encouragement all week but really struggling today First time I have posted so hope im doing it right.
Hi Dolly, they do get that little bit easier, we all wobble, each time with each on we seem to get stronger. This is the right place to be because we can help each other.
Ive been drug free since last sunday, 6 days now. God knows how, im still here, god knows how, its not an easy ride. But we grow ever stronger together.
Treat this place like warm cuddle when things get tough. Si
Thanks for your reply, Ive been smoking for nearly 40 years with a few breaks when pregnant gave up Monday morning so is a big change for me, I know it will take time just having a bad day hopefully tomorrow will be easier. Thanks for your support and congrats for quitting.
i gave up last monday too so we are at the same stage. come on be that little bit strong i need you too you know.
ive had wobbles,weve all had them. you just need to do something, anything, go for a walk, talk to a neighbour, put the washing on anything. but most of all come on here.... we need all the help we can get..
Hi Capitan and Si22 thanks for your support last night so very nearly gave in, but the feeling when I got to bed and hadn't was great now just got to get through today. I am using patches spray and have a fake cigarette couldn't do it cold turkey. Hope your day is a good one, thank goodness for the support of others.
well done to all you guys....it's no mean feat getting to this point......and that bloomin nicodemon will do ANYTHING to make you give in again........sometimes you have to take it minute by minute....but that's okay........cliche alert............:rolleyes:
IT REALLY DOES START TO GET EASIER......
Don't look far ahead......it becomes demoralizing.......just deal with the here and now....and then suddenly you are far ahead.......
Feeling a lot better today would have been so easy to smoke yesterday and would have been sitting outside in the snow today catching cold and stinking of smoke, feeling like a total failure!. So am keeping that thought in my head and carrying on. How are you today?
Dolly, that's fantastic. Do whatever you need to do to get you through. I'm on day 13 and it does seem to get easier after day 10. This forum has probably got me this far, because when i was strongly craving I could come on here and read and post, and by the time i'd done that the cravings had calmed down a lot.
You are doing the most amazing thing for yourself, keep going x
Had a much better day today visited my daughter and grandchildren without having to sneak out for a crafty smoke am starting to feel free from the evil weed although still had moments today feel more positive. I agree it is this forum which has kept me going this week knowing others are in the same position and are managing gives encouragement. Well done for getting to day 13 hope I can say the same in a weeks time.
Feeling a lot better today would have been so easy to smoke yesterday and would have been sitting outside in the snow today catching cold and stinking of smoke, feeling like a total failure!. So am keeping that thought in my head and carrying on. How are you today?
Had a much better day today visited my daughter and grandchildren without having to sneak out for a crafty smoke am starting to feel free from the evil weed although still had moments today feel more positive. I agree it is this forum which has kept me going this week knowing others are in the same position and are managing gives encouragement.
Feeling good Dolly, thanks for asking.
It was my nieces birthday today and, like you, it was nice to visit and not even think about going out in the snow to have a smoke.
What does your daughter think of you as a non smoker?
Great to hear you are doing well, isn't it a lovely feeling not to be trapped by the need for a "fix" I am constantly being nagged by my family to give up and they are really pleased. I am giving up with one of my daughters who is on champix and has sailed through it making it hard for me to say how hard I have found it (I cannot take it due to a health problem) so no one smokes now in my family. How about you are you getting support from family and friends? thanks for your help we should be really proud of ourselves for our achievement.
Strangely, she doesn't appear to have noticed or, if she has, is saying nothing.
Her mom died of cancer some 10 years ago and at the time she begged me to quit but I didn't think I had it in me.
I want to quit on my own terms without being constantly asked by her how I'm doing.
I don't mind people on here asking as they know what you go through, but she has never smoked and seems to think it is easy.
To be fair, I have always been a very strong willed person and I could kick myself now for not quitting years ago.
It was the one thing I thought I'd struggle with and yet, touch wood, hasn't been as difficult (so far) as I thought.
Don't get me wrong, I've had 2 big wobbles, but after a 31 year habit they were not half as bad as I expected.
I'm not kidding myself though and I know there will be further "tests" to come, but with a strong will and the help of this forum I know that on 26th January 2013 at 11.30pm I will be unlocking the door to the penthouse and throwing one hell of a party!
You have to do it the best way for yourself, Im sure your wife would have noticed and is secretly proud of you, it is early days but you are doing so well and your positivity is helping others on here, you have been smoking a long time like myself so it is a total life change but "life" being the operative word thats what we are doing it for to have a life and be healthy so I'm sure with that in mind will make the bad days easier. I have also lost my father, father in law and mother in law early from smoking related illnesses and it has still taken years since to get to the stage that I want to quit. Keep strong and see you in the penthouse in 1 year!
God evening Capitan. hope youve had a good day. another day under our belts. This is my first weekend as a non smoker in 26 years. its been extremely tough, as i always smoked more on a saturday and sundays. ive tried to keep busy and ive found myself checking on here every 30 mins or so.
ive chosen to tell my wife as im pretty sure she would have realised anyway, as ive never smoked in the house since we had kids 13 years ago. and also i was pretty sure i was going to become moody, fed up and down right shitty to live with until i'd beaten this addiction. She has never smoked but trys to understand and probably does more than i give her credit for.
I think that when times of need you gain more from people who are going through just the very same, as they can relate to your feelings, the pressure of the craving, the total low depressing urge to put the last days of stopping as far from you mind as possible and light up.
For those that ive spoken too over the last 7 nights my worse time is now, the evenings, after 7 days and nights they are not yet any easier, i'm sat here wanting to go to work tmw as i know i will be busy and the chance of a wobble will be far less and a damn sight easier to manage.
In fact if i could go to work until 5, then climb into a box until 8 the next day i'd be a lot happier.
im still focused and will hopefully continue to be, week 2 starts tmw i never thought this time last week i'd be sat here with 7 days under my belt. but hey ho i am. im proud of myself and its thanks to bloody hard work on my part, and hard work,sympathy and understanding from my new found friends on here. thanks guys.
Isn't it great we have made a week, this forum has helped me more than any nicotine replacement, I could have given in so many times but the help here has been invaluable. I am hoping that now the first week is over the cravings will subside and be easier to deal with, they were pretty bad especially day 6!. Its nice to talk to people who know exactly what I was going through, congratulations on being a non smoker for a whole week.
And congratulations to you Dolly. i agree ive tried before with patches and other nrt but after a certain amount of time i was always back on them. This place has made me realise there are people here to help me when i need help, and that i can now look at the posts for day one and two etc and offer advice to them when they need it. its a good place to be, to be able to help, but the feeling that some one is there to hold your hand when you need help too. its a lovely warmy cuddly place. it keeps us motivated even when the forum is quiet.
Im so glad i joined, this is the palce to be if you want to rid the demon from your body.
I hope your evenings start to get better, I have noticed a big change today and am feeling more positive, I know there will be difficult times ahead but am ready for them, I find late afternoons the worst but have started clearing out cupboards and drawers upstairs that keeps me out of the way of temptation and is getting my house spring cleaned! I'm hoping by the time it is all done I will have got over that difficult time. Well done for getting through the weekend it can only get better from here.
Good evening Gary. How are you? Have you had a good day? I'm up for a meet definetly. See are a fair way off. But yeah I can feel it. I've just got over my mile stone. My first week. So looking forward is a good idea.
Positive thinking. Doesn't life feel strangely good day by day. When you look back and think yes I've beaten it again. Come on guys were going it.....
Hi Gary and Sii22 nice to hear everyone so positive long may it last! Gary I live in Reading, Berkshire. Just think this time last week we were non smokers today we are non smokers so I guess we are now officially non smokers sounds good doesn't it. Well done guys and everyone on here.
Well done Si and Capitan - you're both doing fabulously well.
And speaking from the perspective of one who had a few months of wobbles at the start but is now waving at you from the penthouse, I can absolutely promise you that IT DOES GET BETTER.
Keep on facing down those craves, beat the bad days one day at a time, enjoy the good moments when they come. What you are doing is hard, but SO worth the pain.
Im at my difficult time of the day at the moment, hav'nt had a crave all day but at the moment having a wobble, not as bad as it has been it is going off now. We seem to be scattered all over the country but it is great to think that a year from now we could all meet up and celebrate. Has your wife said anything yet? My husband has been supportive even though hes never smoked and hates it he's trying his best to understand.
Hi Dolly, do you remember those little toys called "Weebles"?
Do you remember the song and catch phrase...
"Weebles wobble, but they don't fall down"?
We all have to pretend we are Weebles. We might wobble but we won't fall down
My wife hasn't said a word or even hinted that she has noticed but she knows me well (we have been partners since we were 12 & 13 at school) so she may be leaving me to it.
It would be awesome to meet up as successful non smokers and I'm convinced that we will triumph.
Heck, with all the money we will have saved we could have a right blow out - the first couple of bottles of champagne are on me!
You made me laugh about the weebles if I keep on eating the way I have been this last week Im going to look like one!. I have also been with my husband since we were young I was 14 and he was 17. Hope your having a good day.
I'm not having any wobbles, more like occasional waves or pangs if that makes sense.
Don't worry about the eating for now, it's better than the smoking.
Here's a nice little story regarding putting on a bit of weight due to stopping smoking...
Jill had been a heavy smoker since she was a teenager, but to her surprise was able to quit "cold turkey." However, her weight shot up and she felt very self-conscious. When a friend congratulated her on giving up cigarettes, she exclaimed, "But look at all these added pounds!"
The friend's reply was one Jill wil always treasure. "Oh, my dear, don't worry about that!" the friend said. "Just think of all the extra years you will have in which to lose them."
Think about the positives Dolly, not the negatives
Thanks Gary that is so true, I am going to deal with one thing at a time!. Iv'e only had one wobble today it has passed now, so its getting better. What day are you on now, and have you spoke to Sii today?
Hi folks, Im here. how we all doing. week two. EKKK
Luckily for me ive been very busy at work today so suprisingly no probs at all, i even felt like pushing myself at lunch today and went out side for a bit of fresh air, where all the smelly smokers were, i had no problems what so ever, didnt have a sudden urge to grab a fag from anyone. i think im winning??? Just the evening to get through yet though.Ive been on my walk tonight. i find if i have my tea then straight after do a little 30 mins walk i dont wobble, and stress about a fag after my meal.
Gary it sounds like your in for a tough day tmw. Just think we are all there with you, willing you on. standing beside you keeping you strong. We will be thinking of you, and if you feel low just "think what good will a cigarette do"? undoing all the very hard work youve put in, and keeping us motivated. Mate i feel for you, we will of course spare you a well deserved thought.what times the funeral mate?
already looking forward to it mate, sounds like a plan.
So are you doing ok today, like i said ive been busy today with staff Appraisals. which has done me good really. not that ive totally forgotten about my addiction, far from it, but what i am finding and i dont know if this is the same for you? that my cravings are getting easier to over come, they are still strong and they are still happening, but because im now changing my life to that of a non smoker ie not constantly going out side, not constantly checking my watch for the next fag break, my days seem a lot more relaxed. and the walk i have after my tea seems to do the trick too. im actually training my mind to think totally differently to the way i thought only two weeks ago.
Its strange how smoking changed my life without me even realising.
Tommorow is going to be your first real test, like you say up there quite high, but remember you have taught your mind over the last few days to think like a non smoker.
The family of your friend will appreciate you showing your support by taking the time to attend the funeral service. Little will they know that you also need support with your life at the moment, you will of course never ever mention it to them. But you must to us on here, thats why we log in to here to support the people we care for, because we all know that we need support too. Be strong my new mate i will be thinking of you.
Hi Gary and Sii how you both doing? hope today went ok for you Gary and you gave your friend a nice send off. How are you managing Sii I'm having a strange day today can't seem to get the thought of smoking out of my mind, been out and walked passed the cigarette kiosk (slowly) but walked passed all the same! hopefully just a bad day and I will feel better later. Its great you have sussed out how to deal with the craving after dinner, its funny thats the one I thought I would miss the most but it hasn't bothered me, its still late afternoon when its at its worst. Great to have support from you both and all on this forum speak to you later.
Hi Dolly, yep each day is a new day of not smoking, but the cravings are still there, we just have to learn to get over them. the evening are still bad for me, possibly because i used to smoke more then.
I sometimes get up from the sofa probably by habbit to go for a fag, then remember when ive stood up that i dont smoke no more. i then get a bit sulky with myself. have a little cry in side then come on here.
For some strange reason ive started with a totally chesty cough today. a right cough that i can seem to budge. might be all the badness coming out.
Well done for walking past the shop, youve earned yourself a pat on the back, its hard isnt it, i didnt realise how such a state my insides were until i deceided to quit.
Yes I've been thinking about him today, hope he got through it ok. I was looking through the old posts earlier it makes you realise how far we have come, when I first came on here I was about ready to give up, so glad I didn't. Your cough is probably the lungs getting rid of all the bad stuff at least it is a constructive cough, different from the bouts of bronchitus that smokers always seem to get in the winter that is damaging the lungs, Hope it gets better soon. Hope your evening is ok, my difficult time is just coming on so think i will go upstairs and do some more sorting out. One thing to say for not smoking is all the jobs that have needed doing are now getting done!
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