Feel really sad today. Tommorrow I quit and I've lost my reasoning and confidence from earlier in the week. Spent last night with my only "smoking" friend and smoked too much. Today I feel "why am I doing this"?, but I know smoking doesn't make me feel less lonely, less sad, less bored. I have to sort my life out. If I perversely think smoking is the only 'good' thing in my life something is seriously wrong!!!
Sorry everybody... just feeling very sorry for myself. I need a good talking to!
Hopefully the day will improve
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3 days and nights ago i was where you are and now its behind me. it was like waiting to go to the gallows,the world coming to an end. so unfair why cant i smoke for one more day etc etc. when the day came and i got into it .i just let it carry me along, came on here a few times and i knew i wasnt on my own .Now its three days and im so gad im doing it.Stay focussed and give it a chance you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
I know how you feel. That is why I didn't set myself a quit date, well I couldn't actually thats how scared I was!! Now my biggest sadness is that I put off quitting for so many years just because I was terrified of nicotine withdrawal! Think I thought I might die of it, where was my head??:eek:
But what helped me was to NOT make a commitment - I decided to just not smoke for 72 hours to see how I felt when all the nicotine was out of my body. I didn't even get that far until my third attempt, but that is okay. Then I wanted to make it to a week to see how THAT felt, and it felt good. THEN I wanted to make it to 2 weeks because by then the initial withdrawal is over. So I broke it down into little bits and read a lot on this forum. My worst crisis was on Day 13 but this forum got me through. Now I am into Day 17 it is so much easier and I am looking forward to seeing my doctor tomorrow to tell him I am doing well.
So don't be sad or scared Elizabeth, you are not really giving up anything except the cough, the health risks, the smell, the expense. You will be gaining lots of things though, health, longer life, cleanliness, money etc.
I know smoking doesn't make me feel less lonely, less sad, less bored. I have to sort my life out. If I perversely think smoking is the only 'good' thing in my life something is seriously wrong!!!
Sorry everybody... just feeling very sorry for myself. I need a good talking to!
Hopefully the day will improve
Hi Elizabeth
Sometimes, having a victory in one area of your life can act as a trigger to take on other challenges as well. It's amazing how many people on here haven't just stopped at stopping smoking - they have made other changes to improve their lives as well. Maybe this will be you, too.
This won't always be easy - none of us would tell you that. But I know from personal experience that within that, there is an element of choice that you can make. My most difficult days have been when I have allowed myself to obsess and wallow. My best days have been when I have laughed at the absurdity of this whole adventure - because when you think about the whole concept of smoking, it truly is absurd. This is not a messy divorce, nor the loss of a loved one, nor the end of your livelihood. It is the end of a stupid, stupid habit.
Good luck for tomorrow - it probably won't be nearly as bad as you fear.
It may well be tough to do, but I can assure you that after some time quit you will look back and wonder what the fuss was all about. It takes a leap of faith to believe this, I know, but please listen to everyone who has been through the experience, no matter how hard it has been for them, and they will all agree that they are very happy to have kicked the habit.
Please grin and bear the difficulties... and come out smiling on the other side.
Your feelings are absolutely normal at this stage. Think we've all been there. I put off giving up for years because I was convinced that somehow I wouldn't be 'me' without a cigarette and that nothing would ever be enjoyable again.
Nicotine is an addicitive drug and you have to fight all the feelings as well as the cravings that go with it.
The only thing I can tell you - even though you might not feel it - is that it will be better without cigarettes. You will lose that feeling that they control you're life and a sense of freedom comes in its place. It's not going to be easy - if it was there wouldn't be a smoker anywhere.
Don't put pressure on yourself. Take it one step at a time. Get all the help and support you need, go see your doctor or smoking clinic if necessary. I gave up with Champix, which were brilliant, but they are not for everyone.
Use there forums to post any time.
Trust me you will feel better for it. Good luck. Let us know how you get on
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