How daft am I

2 years last August (2008) I quit smoking after a 20 a day, 24 year habit.

Great!

Except met my new partner who smokes and one of my mates has started smoking again. Well you can guess what I'm gonna write next.... How stupid was I.

I've not gone back to smoking every day - just when I see either my partner or my mates. I think the common link is alcohol - it seems to weaken my resolve & I thnk "well I've not seen em for afew days, 2 or 3 won't hurt". Of course they do in that they build up an association in my mind " seeing mates / partner = ciggies". Nor do I crave them every hour like I used to when I was a full time smoker.

I know work mates of mine who have given up smoking say that they no longer crave cigarettes. The problem is I always did. Sure the power of the cravings lessened - but never truly went away

Any helpful advice greatfully appreciated. :confused:

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  • Hi Mister Michael,

    Don't smoke....you have the experience of stopping and don't let relationships get in the way. They come and go...but smoking it takes more from you - health and money.

    Fair enough, you talk about alcohol...well stand back from the alcohol. You've already spotted the trigger points so you are aware of the points that you can't get past just now.

    It don't matter that it's every 2 or 3 days at the moment...what happens when your relationship gets tighter and you see each other daily?

    At the moment you hold something that most if not all smokers would dearly love to have....at least able to withstand not smoking daily, feeding the addiction daily, wrecking ones health daily, spending loads of money daily.

    Be strong, read around, but for gawd sake don't smoke!!

    Sorry if I'm reading a bit harsh...I don't know you and it's not intended to get at you...actually it is. Don't fekin' smoke, Michael.

    Cav

  • 2 years last August (2008) I quit smoking after a 20 a day, 24 year habit.

    Great!

    It certainly was :) and it need not be wasted either.

    I know work mates of mine who have given up smoking say that they no longer crave cigarettes. The problem is I always did. Sure the power of the cravings lessened - but never truly went away

    Any helpful advice gratefully appreciated. :confused:

    Nine months on into my quit and I still get odd craving and maybe I always will but that's something I choose to live with and accept if need be.

    What I'd be massively p'eed at is mates and a partner who see me increasing my smoking after a 2 yr quit.

    As advised by Cav, avoid the drink if need be. My OH still smokes and most likely always will, it's his choice. Mine is to not smoke.

    Make your choice Mr M and make it for you :) Get reading and reinforce your want to quit once again. You know it's hard but if your at a turning point of quitting or smoking full on again, then you'll cope, because you want to.

    Let us know how it goes

    All the best

    Pol :)

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