Back again

[nsd_user663_7355]

Back on day 3, so many attempts, so many fails went over 3 months last time, this time is going to be different.Well done to everybody on there quit.

[nsd_user663_4743]

Me too!

Hi, Deano, well done on another day 3. I hope you can do it this time. I am a serial quitter, but I definitely feel i have a steely determination this time. It's a bit like becoming weary of fighting all the time and losing. I just don't have the strength to keep arguing about smoking with myself. But I want to stop, so this time I am taking control and come what may, I am not smoking today. Hope you have a good day 3 and keep strong! x

[nsd_user663_3282]

Congrats to you both, Deano and Rachel. Serial quitting is better than no quitting

Read up some info that's in the links in my signature and it could well make the difference of moving from serialising to sustaining. That's the key to quitting - education, understanding what's happening to you and your body, realising that we are going through the same issues as other quitters and if others can succeed then you can too

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Hi Deano and Rachel good to have you both back. I have to agree with Cav (and I really hate doing that) reading is the key, learn why you keep returning to day one and will never do it again. Take one day at a time, I still say to myself most days "today I choose not to smoke".

I am looking forward to seeing your posts as you progress together.

Well done, stay strong, read loads and post often.

[nsd_user663_1658]

Rachel & Deano

Day 3 already...well done to both of you ...youve got each other to bounce off now....which i think is soo good to have on a quit ..every step of the way you will have the same sort of feelings no doubt .. xxx

Keep going & keep posting lovely to read you

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thanks for your nice comments, i agree Rachel I'm always fighting the with the nicotine still now i,v never smoked in the week since the 3 months quit.I feel guilty smoking, the worst of all my dad as gone in the hospital to day operation tomorrow lung cancer.You would think it would be easy to stop, what more should i need never to have one again???????? :mad:

[nsd_user663_1658]

awh deano you sound pressured....sounds like a lot of upset is going on around you....just remember though your not quitting for anyone else but you...because if your doing it for other people i think you quit will be much harder & you will start to resent

Your doing so well a day at a time...the first week is the worse ..you already know that ........a week is such a short time.

do anything to distract you & keep smiling

[nsd_user663_7355]

Cheers kitkat, i will alway smile :).i really want to quit its hard for me at the weekends when out with the lads.i do want to quit for me no one else, the times i have tried and failed its embarrassing lol.

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That's bad news about your dad, Deano. Hope everything goes well tomorrow.

Regarding that major worry in the family, no I wouldn't think that it should be easier to stay of the fags. You are concerned about your dad, rightly so. But if we all were affected by the stark messages and now images on cig packs and tobacco pouches we all would've stopped smoking ages ago. We hide those messages and the insidious habit pulls a mask over them.

Stopping smoking is about you and how you are realising that it's not good for you. Couple that to the determination you have to stop and add in the more information you are gathering whilst visiting this forum and other related sites...result hopefully will be a happy non smoker.

Keep coming here through this difficult period you and your family are going through and vent when needed, chat, read...keep a sense of perspective, which will hopefully help you to avoid taking recourse to a smelly ciggie or 2.

[nsd_user663_1658]

Cheers kitkat, i will alway smile :).i really want to quit its hard for me at the weekends when out with the lads.i do want to quit for me no one else, the times i have tried and failed its embarrassing lol.

dont be embarrassed deano .i have been there lots of times ..fail after fail...& so have many other ex smokers ....your doing so well & being very brave considering with your dad & all. How good will you feel to get through all of this without smoking ....the rest then will be a breeze & you will be telling someone else like you all about it on day 3 ..sometime soon

take care & keep it real

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thanks for that Cavalier,your right we all know the effects of smoking we hide them in our minds.Is it 1 in 3 will die through smoking related illness but we choose to carry on, are we mad or just addicted????????????????????

[nsd_user663_4743]

Hi

Hey, Deano,

Really sorry to hear about your dad. I hope he gets through it o.k. Even though he has lung cancer, it does not for a minute make it easier for you to stop. Quite the opposite, in fact. You will be feeling worried for him and emotions run high. But , please keep going because, it will make it easier in the long run. Your dad will be so proud of you as well. My dad passed away a year ago, and it is this that has contributed to my many failed attempts. Pure grief gets in the way of resolve. I am now dedicating this final quit to him. When i gave up for 10 years, he wold say " good for you, you've done well". Then I started again due to stress (no excuse) but i was on a real downer. Better the fags than the bottle, I "wisely" thought. Now I'm not so sure. A few drinks would not have turned me into an alcoholic, but a few fags and , hey presto, back to my old habit, simple and easy as that. Now a few drinks will probably turn me into a smoker again. It's all one big cul-de-sac for us addicts. But only if we let it! We have a choice, and that's the great thing.

I am trying to be positive and I am determined this time, cos I know for sure fags don't help. they just SEEM to at the time. I still fell disgusted with myself when i think the last smell my dad ever experienced was probably my fag breath!! That sort of guilt really helps to make me want to stop. I am now looking ahead and at the people still around me. I CAN change the future, I can do nothing about the past. For me, this quit means taking control and trying to live a little longer (or a lot) and not allowing some stupid drug ruin everything. You seem young, so you have a future stretching ahead of you. Do this and you will feel so much better about yourself. Smoking is a way of hiding from problems. Face them full on. It is so much better for the soul.

Anyway, keep going and just be careful at the weekend when you are out. Believe me, there is nothing finer than a hangover (as long as it's not really bad) when you know you had the strength not to smoke. It can be done. Your mates will support you in this, so just hang out and have fun. but don't smoke!

I woke up this morning , only to find my BF had kiindly left a half packet of Camel on the desk. SO tempting. But managed to avoid having them. A small victory. But put the patch on , and the crisis passed, as they all do. Just don't panic! I too have problems with getting the pach to stick, I have used strips of sellotape, but have now found that bandage tape which is better. a using the invisible patches this time, but never had sticking problems with pink ones. So I will use them when these run out. I look like a badly wrapped Xmas pressie!

Anyway, all the best, hope you are doing well today.

Thanks to all for your words of encouragement. Much appreciated and needed as ever!

xox

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Rachel,

What a great post...really positive and energising

Deano,

Thoughts with you and your family today.

Keep on keeping on,

Cav

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thanks for your nice comments, i agree Rachel I'm always fighting the with the nicotine still now i,v never smoked in the week since the 3 months quit.I feel guilty smoking, the worst of all my dad as gone in the hospital to day operation tomorrow lung cancer.You would think it would be easy to stop, what more should i need never to have one again???????? :mad:

Hi Deano

Apologies for the late reply, thoughts are with you and your family in this stressful time hope and pray everything goes well for your Dad.

[nsd_user663_7355]

Thanks for your kind and encouraging words much appreciated.Day 4 no problems, hope its carry on this way? feel great this morning lot of things on my mind to day just relaxing as much as i can looking at some big clouds in the sky sad or what lol.