My dad

My dad died of emphysema last february (09).

He'd smoked for over 50 years. He was diagnosed 10 years before he died, and we watched him go from a lively, although he was never active LOL, man to a skeleton with a barrel chest with tubes up his nose having to rely on a disability scooter, I try and remember him as the businessman, the strict yet hilarious dad, the man who could do anything...but quit smoking, till he was diagnosed :(

My sister quit after he told us one day what it felt like living with emphysema.....he said it was like drowning without water, like a permanent panic attack.

But I was the stubborn one, and left it till now to quit......because last week I got a cough and a cold and I just thought back to the drowning without water thing.

My colds gone, and so has the cough, but if I carry on smoking the next cough might be the first symptom of what killed my beloved daddy

RIP Dad xx

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  • My dad died of emphysema last february (09).

    He'd smoked for over 50 years. He was diagnosed 10 years before he died, and we watched him go from a lively, although he was never active LOL, man to a skeleton with a barrel chest with tubes up his nose having to rely on a disability scooter, I try and remember him as the businessman, the strict yet hilarious dad, the man who could do anything...but quit smoking, till he was diagnosed :(

    My sister quit after he told us one day what it felt like living with emphysema.....he said it was like drowning without water, like a permanent panic attack.

    But I was the stubborn one, and left it till now to quit......because last week I got a cough and a cold and I just thought back to the drowning without water thing.

    My colds gone, and so has the cough, but if I carry on smoking the next cough might be the first symptom of what killed my beloved daddy

    RIP Dad xx

    Hiya

    dont know where to start with this post but only can offer my sympathy for you and your family ...... sometimes it takes a shock to stop people smoking as it did me .... but if you are determined to give up and i know you are ...i can only advise you to get the best treatment for you there are various treatment NRT Champix Cold turkey ..each one has there benefits as well as their negatives if you are really scared or frightened to stop immedialtely (and dont worry lots of people feel scared of giving up ) a visit to your doctors to advise you about Champix might be the way for you, or if you like and are as determined to do it just stop now cold turkey throw your fags away and thats it ..... drink lots have the will power and you will do it, another great piece of advise i can give you is to read and read and understand what you are giving up read some of the links in peoples signatures on here. so watermelon i wish you luck and will give you any support you need as will all the people on here, come and post everyday let us all know how you are doing and what decsion you have made ...good luck your Dad would be proud of you and your Sister.

  • Remember him for all the good things, and learn his lesson to help for the rest of your life. Sounded like a great man, so heres to you and your quit and hope you achieve the success you seek.

    j

  • Hi water melon that is so sad and stops you in your tracks, and his description would make most people stop I would think.

    My mum died of Lung Cancer 10 years ago at 77 she didnt know she had it but was a heavy smoker from about 14, what I dont understand is she died the way she did but did I stop smoking 10 years ago, no I had to wait for my own scares to stop and even then I am only on 7 weeks 6 days and we should be so scared and stop instantly but hey ho we are so silly.

    I am sad for you losing your dad but pleased you have stopped so keep it up and enjoy the rest of your smoke free life.

  • Hiya

    if you like and are as determined to do it just stop now cold turkey throw your fags away and thats it ..... drink lots have the will power and you will do it, another great piece of advise i can give you is to read and read and understand what you are giving up read some of the links in peoples signatures on here.

    Thank you :)

    Im on my third day already, threw everything away on sunday night :D

  • Thank you :)

    Im on my third day already, threw everything away on sunday night :D

    Oh well done to you then Watermelon ..... there are some lovely supportive people on here and we are all in the same boat as you fighting for freedom away for Old nic ....good luck Watermelon make sure you post everyday ....oh and drink like it's going out of fashion it will flush the nicotine out of your body quickly ..speak soon huge well done again :)

  • Hi Watermelon

    I truly don't know how to answer this post so I'm not going to try as no wards I can say would be adequate or helpful

    I'll just say that I feel deeply for you and all you had to watch your Dad suffer it must have been dreadful for you and the rest of your family

    Wishing you success

    Love

    Marg xx

  • My dad died of emphysema last february (09).

    He'd smoked for over 50 years. He was diagnosed 10 years before he died, and we watched him go from a lively, although he was never active LOL, man to a skeleton with a barrel chest with tubes up his nose having to rely on a disability scooter, I try and remember him as the businessman, the strict yet hilarious dad, the man who could do anything...but quit smoking, till he was diagnosed :(

    My sister quit after he told us one day what it felt like living with emphysema.....he said it was like drowning without water, like a permanent panic attack.

    But I was the stubborn one, and left it till now to quit......because last week I got a cough and a cold and I just thought back to the drowning without water thing.

    My colds gone, and so has the cough, but if I carry on smoking the next cough might be the first symptom of what killed my beloved daddy

    RIP Dad xx

    Hi Watermelon,

    We've got something in common in that our fathers have both been the trigger for us to stop. My dad died at 58 following a massive heart attack. I seem to recall he was a 20 - 40 a day smoker from the age of 16, it caught up with him pretty damn quick when his heart literally broke on 4th June 2006 at around 14:45.

    I had spend the day with him finishing off work in the garden (he loved the garden) with a neighbour. Dad hadn't been feeling well for a few weeks but had finally got himself to the docs. He aged approximately 20 years in a matter of days. He was feeling better that Sunday.

    I went to the supermarket to pick up some odd's 'n' sods as it was a beautiful afternoon (ice cream and stuff).

    When I returned I found his body and was unable to resuscitate him.

    These things do make you stronger over time however it's a bloomin' good struggle at times. Saying that life would be boring without its challenges!

    I hope you enjoy your quit as much as I've enjoyed mine. Even the negatives have been great.

  • Watermelon, I wish you every success with your quit, what you have experienced is of course one of our biggest nightmares, as smokers we ignore it as something that will never happen, and as non-smokers we pray we have stopped in time.

    The important thing to remember is that we cannot change the past, what is done is done and there is no point in dwelling on it with the what ifs? We can influence the future though and that is what is worth focussing on.

    One day at a time, we'll all get there,

    Lorraine :)

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