Oh, Somebody hit me with a 2x4.....

[nsd_user663_7673]

...WHAT is my problem??? Even i don't get me right now. There is no part of me actually WANTS to smoke. (That's not debatable so please don't question me on it) I have many, many reasons to quit, they are all excellent. I can deal with the symptoms of withdrawal mostly, what I CAN'T do is break the deeply ingrained physical habit.

I am surrounded by smokers, most of whom have no desire to quit. Me? I'm just starting to feel like a complete eejit. I've taken so many run ups to the saddle and generally find myself careering over the top of it and landing on my a** on the other side, gazing up at the ole hoss thinking "My, he's grown!"

I know I can do this, I've proven I can do this before, but I just can't seem to get flippin well started this time. Yesterday I was full of promise, re-started my quit (again), spent 10 blissful hours as a non-smoker, then had a (very minor) tiff with the OH and instantly reached for a cigarette....I didn't even want one!

Somebody hit me, please.

Jenni

Just realised I probably posted this in the wrong forum....no idea how to move it or where to?

[nsd_user663_3728]

Hi Jenni

I'm sorry I didn't see this earlier hun and it doesn't really matter where you post OK

I know what you mean with the habit thing and it is hard to break free from them I tried so many times over the years

It's even herder to do when surrounded by smokers who plan don't want to stop I had that as well many times

Well done on that 10 hrs before a minor tiff had you reaching for a fag it's what we always did of course even if like you we didn't really want one

I don't know if this is practicable for you or not but what I suggest you try is if for whatever reason you feel like this when you have a tiff with OH or anyone for that matter [I'm assuming he smokes] could you maybe just walk away into another room or even outside, go for a walk maybe and get away from it for a little while even 5 minutes would get you away from the habit for a while and help you to break free from it

If you can't do that maybe come on here and write down how you feel and read some posts or click a link in someones signature there are so many of them and they're all helpful in different ways it will also help you to get the mindset right

I hope this will help you at least a little if not come back to me either here on the forum or via PM I'm not always here but will always reply when I get nack and find your message Promise I have a bad habit of logging in and then going to do something without logging out again so people think I'm here when I'm not OK

Love and a Hug

Marg xx

[nsd_user663_7673]

Hi Marg,

And thank you

I know it's a lot to do with re-programming my behaviour. A friend of ours is a dog behaviorist who gave us a lot of help when we rescued our slightly crazy dog last year. One of his tactics was to replace an unwanted behaviour with a desired one, generally using a distraction technique when an unwanted behaviour was signalled. Same principle with smoking really isn't it? I guess I've just found myself at a bit of a loss as to what to replace it with! I don't remember what i did when I didn't smoke as I was only 12....played with my dollies I guess

I know I need to change my whole routine and learn to punctuate my day with something other than a cigarette.

For some reason my otherwise lovely OH gets a little antsy when I try to quit. But he's working away this week and kids have a week off school and nursery so I'd like to think i could do this. I so want to do this.

Jenni xx

[nsd_user663_3728]

Hi Jenni

I think you could use what you learnt for the dog to help you with this habit thing we all have when we first quit

Something else to do instead of reaching for a fag I know of people who used sugar free lollies to help and at leas one who cut a straw in half put a bit of paper in the end and used that when it got tough so it might help you as well

With OH away this week and the kids on half term your routine will be different anyway so you could maybe get a head start now

Maybe your OH feel threatened in some way with your quitting I have no idea why he should but many smokers get this way at first OK and who knows maybe he would love to quit as well but has yet to pluck up the courage to try

Keep trying Jenni you only fail if you stop trying

Love and a Hug

Marg xx