Oh no, motivation waning

Although I probably don't feel quite as bad today, I do feel that my motivation is waning :(

I'm starting a very low calorie diet tomorrow and went to pick up what I needed and even she said that it would be a lot easier to do if I smoked. Also, she said she gave up a year ago but feels no benefit from it (not sure why she's still quit though) and it got me thinking, I'm not saving money because I'm spending more money on treats to make me feel better that I would have on cigarettes and I'm not feeling much healthier :-(.

Also, I hate the way I can't enjoy myself, my dad's just given me £200 because he won some money at Cheltenham but I can't even be happy about that because I know that I can't have a fag, can't have a drink (because of the diet) and I'd happily pay the whole £200 for one cigarette.

Again, I'm so sorry my posts are so negative, some of you seem so happy and positive and I just wish I could feel some of that :-(

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  • Hi babe you are just into week three and I must say that was one of my worst bits to get through worse by far than the first week dont know why but it hit me and I did consider smoking again but hey I didnt and now Im at 12 weeks and will never smoke again.

    This person you spoke to who had been quit a year and said she felt no benefits, hate to be nasty but 3 things

    1: she hardly smoked or not for long

    2: She is still taking crafty ones and it only has to be 1 or 2 a week to stop the health benefits

    3: She has forgotten how bad she felt before she quit

    4: yes I know I said 3 I lied LOL She smoked heavily and then it can take up too 2 years to feel better, she may have COPD and therefore she want feel better she just want get any worse.

    So dont even consider smoking again I stopped 19 ish years ago for 11 months and believe me I didnt realise how good I felt for quitting till I started smoking again so STAYED STOPPED XXXX

  • When i was at 3 weeks in my quit, i tried to get back onto my diet but after just a day i knew if i didnt eat what i wanted, id be smoking the next day.

    Not everyone is the same i know, but the way your post sounds, maybe you need a little extra time?

    Im only at 5 weeks now, but ive been on my diet for a week, i waited until smoking was at the back of my mind so i could focus and fight my cravings for naughty food.

    I know what you mean about not saving money too. I now pay for my gym sessions with my "fag money"

    And i still spend £10 less a week.

    Keep at it, your doing really well to get as far as u have! xxx

  • Hi Dawn

    I am not surprised you felt your motivation waning after speaking to that person. Can't beleive any smoker would say such a thing. Must have had PMT or got out of bed the wrong side or was just plain jealous :p

    You can enjoy yourself hun, you just have to find some unsmoke related pleasures. Don't look to the old ways find some new ones ;)

    By the way, I have COPD & I do feel better, LOADS :D

    Sending you hugs, positiveness, smiles & sunshine.

    Gaynor xx

  • I felt my motivation lapsing a bit today, but thankfully I didn't smoke. What I did instead when I finished work was go for a good half hour run. This sorted me out nicely. I hope you don't smoke - there is no way a cigarette is fun or worth while. About the only benefit of smoking is that you are accepted into the "smoking" crowd - that means you can talk outside in the cold and rain together like lepers on a small island.

  • I felt my motivation lapsing a bit today, but thankfully I didn't smoke. What I did instead when I finished work was go for a good half hour run. This sorted me out nicely. I hope you don't smoke - there is no way a cigarette is fun or worth while. About the only benefit of smoking is that you are accepted into the "smoking" crowd - that means you can talk outside in the cold and rain together like lepers on a small island.

    So true. At 8 days in i may seem a novice but i did give up for 10 years so i do know the benefits (i was a runner and dancer) smoking put an end to that.

    It's all in the head, for me i made big life changes, sadly that meant loosing some close friends because they were smokers, it just wasn't my thing as above has mentioned; stood outside what, in the sleet? wind and rain? for a quick puff where the lighter won't work and the rain gets the fag wet anyway... :rolleyes:

    Always keep a positive mind, live in the now. xx

  • Hope you are feeling a bit better today ???? IM on day 11 and have days like what you had yesterday .Nothing positive springs to mind ,all negative thoughts . It does pass ,just ride with it and it will go away . well thats what i do ,and also coming on hear and reading all the time .

    try and stay strong .

  • I'm starting a very low calorie diet tomorrow and went to pick up what I needed and even she said that it would be a lot easier to do if I smoked. Also, she said she gave up a year ago but feels no benefit from it (not sure why she's still quit though) and it got me thinking, I'm not saving money because I'm spending more money on treats to make me feel better that I would have on cigarettes and I'm not feeling much healthier :-(.

    (

    She sounds a right bundle of laughs.

    A couple of people said the same to me about not benefitting from giving up from over a year.

    I think they've forgotten that they have and perhaps can't see the benefit in the last 6 months.

    I can tell you that in myself I have felt the benefits, I feel and look healthier and even my gnashers are looking whiter:D - See!

    It will get better and easier.

    You go for your low cal milarky and prove her wrong with a fresh breath "Told you so"

    Don't give up giving up

    x

  • Consider something for a second?

    The very addiction you are getting away from is playing a sneaky trick on you at the moment.. trying to make you really believe you are missing it.. that you need it.. and that thought of spending £200 for one cig? yep its working a number on you.

    So the nicotine demon is trying to destabilise you a bit, well you tell him .. NO!!! You don't need him.

    Trust me, you've come so far, the hardest part of a quit is the first 3 weeks i reckon, and that nicotine demon will play all his best cards to win you back right now.

    But you are not going to let him. Right?

    RIGHT?????!!!!!!!!

  • Hi dawn,

    I hope you are feeling a bit better now... i too have no motivation at all!!!!

    Take today... was supposed to be going for some retail therapy was looking forward to it, then tiredness hit me and so i have spent the day sitting on the sofa wrapped in my quilt... place looks like a bomb has hit it, do i care NOPE...

    and thats so not like me.. with 6 of us in my house i need to housework everyday to stay on top *sigh*

    Just reading others people posts and i will echo what they have said... DONT give up on giving up.. we WILL benefit from it in the future

    love n hugs

    xxx

  • I am feeling a bit better, I think it definitely is the nicotine craver finding lot of reasons why I should give up trying to not smoke. But I'm nearly at the end of day 10 so I just need to keep going. Weekend in the challenge now because lat weekend it was all new so I was very much on guard of the cravings and avoided situations where I was used to smoking but this weekend I'm going to have to face those situations and resist .... Fingers crossed!

  • Hi Aurora,

    Have you tried reading Allan carrs EASYWAY to stop smoking? it doesnt work for everyone im sure, but if your already stopped as you are it really helps with the phsycological stuff that goes with the smoking and dispels a lot of myths about cravings.Keep it going and keep posting your doing great!!

    last cig 15/03/10

    EASYWAY,CT and this forum,

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