Yep Day 1 for me also - oh and the OH

my name is YOUNME and its been 10 hours and 59 minutes since my last cigarette. It was enjoyed to the last and now its gone most def not forgotten though.

My OH and myself decided to give up, well o.k. he decided we should give up and begrudgingly I said O.K.

Now our relationship can be volitile at the best of times so I am dreading the next few weeks but I have told him to remember how much he loves me and how much he wants to spend the rest of his life with me - in the dark hours when we start snipping at each other!

To be honest I dont feel to bad at the moment, thought I would be climbing the walls about now as I have usually had a smoke when I first wake up, one after breakfast and 2 on the way to work AND one about 10.30. Although in the car was really really hard esp when I got caught in traffic I managed to get through it.

Just wondering how OH is getting on.

I dont for one minute think its going to be easy, I have the patches and the gum (and a packet of rich tea biscuts) but I dont like the gum its awful so will just try and keep up with the patches. I smoke between 15 and 30 a day depending on what day it is and how stressed I am at work.

So good luck to me - its now been 11 hours and 4 mins but I am not counting. Got lunch to get through yet.

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  • Welcome

    Hi well done you and your OH, it is the best decision you will ever make and never doubt that.

    There will be lots of people around to welcome you soon and most of them will have links below their sig, i would suggest you read, read and then read some more it really does help.

    I think we can safely say it will get a bit sticky sometimes with both of u quitting, but on the up side you will be able to support each other and keep each going as well.

    Day 1 can be a bit strange and till you get past day 3 you may find parts of the day very hard, however once you get over that it will start to get better.

    Keep posting and reading, we are all here to help and good luck.

  • Hi Younme and OH :)

    Well done on the decision to quit both of you

    You'll be able to help and support each other of course and it may in some ways be easier for you as well

    Take it day by day hour by hour if you have to at least for the first few days and try just at first not to look to far ahead or it can be very daunting

    Below is my standard welcome and advice post which I try and give all new members

    Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

    You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathiseing with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

    Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off whyquit.com and woofmang.com Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

    Post often to let us know how you're doing, to rant, rave have a moan whatever you like pretty much anything goes on here OK

    Love

    Marg

  • I was thinking more of hole punch as a target - or when I get home - Tea. lol

    Thanks guys for your encouragement.

    Went out and bought a car yesterday, we have decided that the money we are saving should go towards something we can see so I have an even bigger incentive to quit (apart from the obvious ones) cos if I start again he's taking the car off me! I will be withdrawing the other if he starts again haha

  • Welcome and congratulations on stopping smoking.

    Don't think about cigarettes as something to miss they definitely are not or you would not want to stop. Reading about the addiction to nicotine helps to get your mind seeing smoking for what it really is, the web sites are listed in mine and other's signatures. Allen Carr's book is also a good read, makes you even laugh at the things we believed. You are bound to think about them for a while as they were in your life every day, many times a day, for many years. It does get better, keep up your good work, look forward to reading your posts.

    Jackie

  • Managed to get through the morning with out one and was dreading lunch time, didnt go out in the car cos thats when I am at my worst. Went for a walk bought a sandwich and ate it at my desk - so far so good, not wanted to go out side yet and finish my lunch off with a cigarette but was just debating whether to walk to the vending machine and reward myself with a bar of chococlate when some kind sole brought in cakes as its their birthday - I actually think its cos I havent thrown anything at them this morning so they are rewarding me but so as not to show favoritism they have bought everyone a cake. So the cigarette will have to wait and so will the chocolate.

  • Welcome to the forum Younme :)

    We all started on day 1 so i wish you all the best with your quit to both yourself and your OH.

  • Lol, just reading your posts. Me and the missus nearly killed each other in the first week, and we don't even have an argumentative relationship!!!!

    Im on day 42 now, feel fantastic, bright and alert all the time, sleeping properly, eating porperly, etc etc, and I don't have cravings anymore.

    I recommend the electronic ciggies to substitute the need for a puff, which will come, and CT is a good way to go.

    Read the links on Margs posts regarding lung cancer, death etc, and that will re-affirm and help your decision/desire to quit.

    Personally, i found it helpful to admit to myself i had an addiction problem, similar to that of an alcholic, and realise that I can never ever smoke again.

    Lastly, the money obviously helps. I spent minimum £8/day including my 2 redbulls because I felt like shit all the time, and the missus £5, £13 x 42 days, nice.

    Good luck, will be watching out for you both.

    Paul

  • If it helps.. i'm on the last week of my 'patches' this week.. this is my week 10... so all i'll put here for you is that the patches will help alot more than you realise in these early days.. they do the job just nicely and later in i've found the drop down to the different patch dosages very easy.. at the weekend i will be free of patches altogether.

    You will notice big positive changes as the weeks go by.. but regards the 'arguments'.. you are far far better that you both agree now that walking away from a confrontation is ok right now.. but you must also agree that if either of you says anything downright hurtful.. and for most part, almost unforgivable.. that no matter what.. you both agree that its the 'quit' making you behave this way.

    Once your through them kind of days, you will both see so many positives.

    I'm speaking from experience on two fronts here.. patches and arguments.

    Good luck, and remember.. there is NO shame in saying 'i'm sorry' first.

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