In a few hours i would have hit the month mark!

Well what can i say , it hasn't been easy, but im still going strong.

The team behind me overheard me tell my boss that i had quit smoking for a month today. The only bit they didn't hear was the month part.

So they said how many days this time eh? 3-4 days before you go back? That really hurt because although i have tried many times, this is my third real attempt. It felt good seeing their faces when I told them it had been a month today. But even then they were like lets see if you get past the three months.

They were not being hateful, they were teasing but i don't think they quite understand(not being smokers themselves) how important it is to get encouragement from those around you, regardless of how many times you have tried before.

Made me quite sad, and I know I say i will never go back, but what if something happens in the future and I do , they will belittle me for failing again rather than spurring meon to try again. All quite sad really which makes it even more important to be around those that will have a positive impact on your quit, be it your first or your 100th.

Just thought I would share that with you. Not been the best day to celebrate the 1 month mark :(

I have not smoked for 4 Weeks, 2 Days, 20 hours, 52 minutes and 52 seconds (30 days). I have saved £107.24 by not smoking 370 cigarettes. I have saved 1 Day, 6 hours and 50 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 03/01/2010 18:20

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  • What rotters!

    I think you have done bl**dy marvellously, dont listen to your useless workmates.... they have no idea of how much you have accomplished with your month!

    Congratulations, you've come a million miles and have tons more empathy for your fellow human beings than they have.

    Its sooo annoying when that happens.... i feel your grrrrrr's

    A month is fab! Keep on with it, i'm almost 3 months now, and i assure you it gets much easier honey... stay with us!

    xxx

  • Hi Princess :D

    Well done you 1 whole month smoke free is great Big Hug

    I'm sorry you colleagues at work are like that with you but if they've never smoked they don't unerstand or they're ignorant

    Please try not to be sad everyone here is 100% behind you in this

    Love

    Marg xx

  • hey guys,

    thanks for the support. I won't be beaten down by anyone, no one will let this get the better of me this time.

    thanks for your support.

    Its true you can only truely understand ones pain if you have experienced it yourself!

    Never take another puff

  • PrincessM, well then its now up to you to make them eat their words aint it! The challenge is now set and you are already doing so well with your quit that you stand an excellent chance to shatter their not-so-encouraging teasing words.

    There is a chap who sits in front of me at work who was like that with me, he has this 'i told you so' sneer which i saw too many times when i failed previous quits and this time around, i didn't even bother telling him.. i'd been quit about 2 months before he asked me if i'd quit smoking as i'd not gone past him (obviously trailing that stench of stale smoke behind me as i now realise i must have).. it felt good to tell him i'd quit just as much as you felt really good to say 'HEY! i've been quit a month!!'... so be proud.. and put them in their place by staying quit now.

    Use this forum alot, i'm convinced the support you get on here is what you wish folk would give in the close area around you , but support is very important, but getting told by folk you know that you are doing really well helps alot too.

    Keep on going with this, you will do it i'm sure, and the satisfaction you gain will be well worth it.

    J

  • Hey there Jase,

    a good friend is always telling me 'You will never have control over what other ppl say or do, but you ALWAYS have the control in how you deal with them'.

    So like you said when i pass the 3 months i will go over to the guys and say 'in your face its been over 3 months :cool: ' lol

    really do appreciate the support, it really helps knowing you are not alone in all this.

  • Many congratulations Princess on reaching 1 month, this is a fantastic achievement. I've just reached 1 month as of 4pm and i'm feeling great.

    Sorry to hear about your colleagues, as non smokers they wouldn't realise how hard it has been, you know where are all here to encouage you and give you support.

    Here's to month 2 hun.

    Very Well done again.

    Big hug

    Shazie.x:)

  • Woo-hoo!

    Well done Princess!!! Thats brilliant and am delighted for you.

    Thankfully no-one in my work is saying things like that but when I mention my quit in work no-one says anything. Its weird. Smokers just go "oh right" and the non smokers just nod and smile. Dissapointing but hey ho. We know what we are doing for ourselves and are in the midst of a huge life change - for the better :D

    I do hope everyone on here has helped cheer you up cos its a brilliant achievement and you deserve to feel chuffed and so proud of yourself.

    I am nipping at your heels and I know how hard it is so bravo PrincessM.

    Debx

    edited to add - Actually I made that all sound lovely and sunny but a 'social smoker' asked me how I was getting on and I said good and was determined to never smoke again and he goes "what, even when drinking???" like that was weird. I was having one of those tetchy days and snapped back "No cos i am a drug addict and an alcoholic wouldn't have a drink on the weekend" .......could be why no-one comments now lol!

  • Lol Deb you last comment made me laugh. I have now hit the one month mark.. yay .. in fact im about 16 hours in to the second month :)

    Today has been difficult. I suffer from IBS and had a really bad cramps this morning and was sick. From what ive been reading, withdrawal can give you bad indegestion problems, i guess mine were bad because i suffer from IBS anyway.

    That aside.. feeling alot better now.. and yes the support on here is fantastic, which is why i won't be leaving the forum for a ciggie break for a year this time ;)

    Hope your quit is going well

    I have not smoked for 1 Month, 15 hours, 59 minutes and 44 seconds (31 days). I have saved £110.00 by not smoking 379 cigarettes. I have saved 1 Day, 7 hours and 35 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 03/01/2010 18:20

    xx

    Well done Princess!!! Thats brilliant and am delighted for you.

    Thankfully no-one in my work is saying things like that but when I mention my quit in work no-one says anything. Its weird. Smokers just go "oh right" and the non smokers just nod and smile. Dissapointing but hey ho. We know what we are doing for ourselves and are in the midst of a huge life change - for the better :D

    I do hope everyone on here has helped cheer you up cos its a brilliant achievement and you deserve to feel chuffed and so proud of yourself.

    I am nipping at your heels and I know how hard it is so bravo PrincessM.

    Debx

    edited to add - Actually I made that all sound lovely and sunny but a 'social smoker' asked me how I was getting on and I said good and was determined to never smoke again and he goes "what, even when drinking???" like that was weird. I was having one of those tetchy days and snapped back "No cos i am a drug addict and an alcoholic wouldn't have a drink on the weekend" .......could be why no-one comments now lol!

  • Princess, today you are a Queen, well done getting your month sorted. Don't go looking for anything bad in the future, just enjoy today be pleased with yourself and if you can, spend time with someone who does support you if not do something nice for yourself. Remember there are loads of people here who definitely support and care about you.

    Jackie

  • Hey Jackie,

    thanks for your response. Quick question, how does it feel to be at the 1yr plus mark? I mean surely you must still think about having a ciggie now and again?

    I only ask because i have a friend that went back after over a year the silly boy!

    I have not smoked for 1 Month, 18 hours, 48 minutes and 45 seconds (31 days). I have saved £110.41 by not smoking 381 cigarettes. I have saved 1 Day, 7 hours and 45 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 03/01/2010 18:20

  • CONGRATULATIONS, 1 MONTH DONE! Keep going strong. Jody

  • Well what can i say , it hasn't been easy, but im still going strong.

    The team behind me overheard me tell my boss that i had quit smoking for a month today. The only bit they didn't hear was the month part.

    So they said how many days this time eh? 3-4 days before you go back? That really hurt because although i have tried many times, this is my third real attempt. It felt good seeing their faces when I told them it had been a month today. But even then they were like lets see if you get past the three months.

    They were not being hateful, they were teasing but i don't think they quite understand(not being smokers themselves) how important it is to get encouragement from those around you, regardless of how many times you have tried before.

    Made me quite sad, and I know I say i will never go back, but what if something happens in the future and I do , they will belittle me for failing again rather than spurring meon to try again. All quite sad really which makes it even more important to be around those that will have a positive impact on your quit, be it your first or your 100th.

    Just thought I would share that with you. Not been the best day to celebrate the 1 month mark :(

    I have not smoked for 4 Weeks, 2 Days, 20 hours, 52 minutes and 52 seconds (30 days). I have saved £107.24 by not smoking 370 cigarettes. I have saved 1 Day, 6 hours and 50 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 03/01/2010 18:20

    Use that as your motivation,, i might use it myself,, remember one thing, you deserve that,, yes for doing the most foolish thing in life,, SMOKING,, dont worry i am also as dumb as you are for smoking till 2 weeks ago,, whats the point of earning money, buying a house, planning for the future,, when all we are doing is killing ourselves.. simple,, thats my way of thinking..keep up the good work and dont EVER look back.. i am trying not to..

  • Princess

    Hello there - and a massive well done for getting to month 1. I've been lucky enough to have quite a good circle of support - but I have had mates and work colleagues like the ones you describe. Its like they're taking pleasure in others failure. Well don't let them. What you're achieving is brilliant.

    It may be they're jealous (some of my mates were - smokers and non-smokers) because you are doing, and succeeding at, is something so monumental they can't comprehend it.

    So stay strong - you know what you're doing. In the end they will have no option but to give you the respect you deserve.

    AG

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