I'm Struggling

So here is my story.

I became ill with a viral illness 5 days ago, and have not smoked whilst feeling ill.

The thought never really crossed my mind, and when it did, I just felt even worse.

So my mother said to me "You may as well stop smoking now, seeing as you've not done it for 4 days". I didn't know whether I wanted to do it or not.

To be honest, I'm still not sure whether to do it now.

I think I want to.

But my dad doesn't get it. He doesn't understand why I feel grumpy and irritated. He doesn't get why I have such a short temper.

He thinks it's easy. He's never smoked in his life, so he will never understand it.

How am I meant to do it when I have someone winding me up, thinking it's easy when it's obviously not.

I've been smoking for 7-8 years. Not a massive amount of time.

It's also making me feel ill. It's given me a terrible tickly throat and I'm coughing up so much rubbish.

So yeah, there is my story.

Right now, I want a fag. I think that I need one.

I've got lollipops, maybe they will help.

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  • Well done to you I never managed to stop while I was unwell. Perhaps this is a sign of some sort that you can do it this time ;).

    If you are over the 3 days as Jim says, nicotine has gone from your body, you have jumped a large hurdle already. Try not to be angry with Dad he has no idea how you feel as he has thankfully never done it, we all wish we had not done it too. Understanding the addiction to nicotine would help you to decide, these are a couple of websites you could look at ( but stay stopped while you read them) whyquit.com and woofmang.com.

    Wish you lots of luck and a good decision.

    Jackie

  • Hi 4evame,

    I agree with BB - only you can decide whether to stay stopped or not, but, can I just say that seeing as you've gone 5 days without........you've done the hardest part - the first few days foe me were hell but seem to be over it now and am on day 8 but should be on day 11 smoke free had a sneaky puff at the begining of my quit and felt like shit after doing it both physically and mentally.

    If you decide to stay stopped we are all here for you with as much support as you need.I found it SUCH a help, whenever the bad cravings would come on I just logged in here and read, read, read honestly it's such a boost to read how others are struggling as well and it gives you the incentive to keep going. hugs xxxx :D

  • I've calmed down a little bit now.

    I think I had a bit of a moment :P

    Jim, thanks, you're right. The worst part is over. I thought it was my illness making me have mild insomnia, and night sweats, but it appears it could of been the whole not smoking thing and it's withdrawel symptoms.

    Thanks Jackie. Me and my father don't getting on like a house on fire as it is to be honest. This is just making me things worse. I don't want to fall out with him about it. I need to understand as much as he does I think.

    Thanks Kate. Good luck to you too! Are you having any physical withdrawel symptoms?

    I didn't realise there were so many. It's quite scary!

    Tomorrow is going to be my big test, going back to work.

    I usually have 2 cigs on the way to work, 2-3 on my breaks in the day, and 2 on the way home from work.

    I've bought some lollipops to have when I usually have a fag, so try and fill the empty space in my mouth :P

  • Hi 4evame :)

    Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

    You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathiseing with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

    Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off whyquit.com and woofmang.com Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

    At the end of the day only you can decide whether to quit or not, but as the others have said there is no nicotine left in your system now anyway, so if you're going to quit now would be a good time as you have done the first really hard few days

    If you decide to quit you'll have to try and ignore or put up with your dad winding you up as you say he's never smoked so doesn't understand how hard it may be, how could he ??

    If you quit there may be a few rough days but there will be far more good ones for you, also we'll all be here for you to help and support you as much as we can, it's what we do all the time

    Best Wishes

    Marg xxx

  • Aw, thankyou Marg.

    Everybody seems so friendly here, I think you are all going to be a god send to me!

    Thankyou for the good wishes.

    I'm you'll see a lot of my moaning and hissy fits here!

  • Hi 4evame,

    Well I can't lie to you, I had/have quite a few withdrawal symptoms - but I might add not everyone has them and some are milder than others.

    I couldn't poop for AGES (can't believe i'm telling that to a complete stranger :eek:) Can't sleep very well; too hot, too cold, got 10 arms and 10 legs, just can't get comfy, but that too seems to be getting better, I have a ruff cough in the morning - that too is getting better, I can cope with all of these tho as now in week 2 of quit they seem to be fading, the BIG thing is the cravings that hit you like a train, however, as I said before when they happen I come on here, or, keep busy....busy....busy until they fade, hope this all helps xx:)

  • Lol, I find it crazy how quitting can cause problems with our bowels!

    It's the not being able to sleep thing that's pissing me off the most.

    I love my sleep, and not getting it is VERY annoying.

  • Hi 4evame :D

    Please don't worry about having hissy fits, moaning, ranting or anything else you can think up OK

    Most of us have done our fair share of that I promise, we're a pretty friendly bunch on here who all help each other through the bad bits and cheer the good, just like a family really on a bit larger scale

    As for the sleeping problems it doesn't last for long and is caused by more oxygen getting into the blood and therefore to the brain than you're used to but your body will soon realise that you're not feeding it a diet of chemicals anymore and start to heal itself

    Love

    Marg xxxxxxxx

  • Ha! Really? That's why?

    That's crazy.

    I didn't think it would make that much difference.

    Flipping heck!

  • Hi 4evame :D

    Flipping heck indeed it's suprising how much harm we all do to our bodies by smoking isn't it

    Don't worry about it though our bodies are wonderful machines and will quickly start to heal from all the abuse we've handed out

    Love

    Marg xxxxxx

  • Lol, I find it crazy how quitting can cause problems with our bowels!

    It's the not being able to sleep thing that's pissing me off the most.

    I love my sleep, and not getting it is VERY annoying.

    Hi there,

    Soooo sorry I didn't mean to scare you, most of my withdrawal symptoms have either gone or a re getting less and I feel wonderful now, I just thot it better to tell you there MAY be some but they soon pass.

    I don't smell of smoke anymore, my house is much much fresher and the fag is not deciding what, where and when I do something, please don't be disheartened..................:D

  • Hi 4evame,

    Welcome to the best place in the world (haha) sorry i sound cheesy but i love it on here!

    Your soooo good for quitting whilst you were poorly, i never did! Everyone always used to say you know your sick when you cant smoke, so you muct have been pretty bad! Hope your feeling better!

    I've been reading all the things written in this thread, its so strange how your body reacts when you quit smoking. Ive been having terrible nightmares, and very sleepless nights! Plus ive got a coldsore (which i have never had in my life) and a really chesty cough! But im really trying to make a positve out of a negative, and have really never felt so pleased with myself!

    Im sure your already starting to feel more confidant just from speaking to people on this forum! Everyone is fantastic!!! They have helped me soooo much! And someone is always here when you need them!!

    The best part is we know exactly how you feel!!

    My fingers are crossed for you!! You can do it xxxxxx

  • Hi there.

    I can only echo what others have said, but also, for me, the key was to sort out the mental symptoms and understand why I was going through them. Tales from the quit and Allen carr and this forum did it for me. Every persons quit is different though and you will find your own way. I struggled to start with until I discovered that I could allow myself to choose not to smoke rather than feel I was not allowed to smoke. That went a long way to curing my addicts mindset of then wanting a fag because I couldn't have one! Does it make sense? Am not sure!! Anyway, well done for overcoming the first few days. Stay positive and good quitting at work!

  • Haha, don't worry Kate! I've not been able to sleep since Wednesday, which is the first day I went without a cig. So I'm not sure if it's the awful cold I've got, or the smoking.

    But if it gets better, then I'll look forward to that.

    Lol, Laura, it's a great website. I'm enjoying it here, and I've only been a member for a day! Everyone is so helpful. Yeh, I have the chesty cough too, and a sore throat. Not fun! But no pain no gain!

    Fiona, I get what you mean. I auto think that when I get angry, the only way to make it better is to smoke, which is not true, and I need to remember that.

    My friend is having a BBQ on Thursday, with a Shisha, am I allowed that? :P

  • oooo, Jim, I'm going to buy that tomorrow, never thot of it, even 1 undisturbed nights sleep would be wonderful :)

  • 4evame.... shisha........is that a kebab??????????????? Think I may be being a bit blonde again!!!!!

  • Bibleblack, does the night nurse just prolong gettin g rid of the c**p or just stop you doing it till the enxt day? I have COPD & had a disgusting cough that made me feel like I was drowning but that cleared at night real quick even for me. Don't get me wrong, not knocking the suggestion but just saying with me 48 but 78 old lungs it didn't last to long. I know we will all be different as well. Gaynior xxx

  • No offense but I wouldnt take the Night Nurse route...again you are giving your body unecassary chemicals...my advice would be to keep yourself really busy at all times, if the garden needs mowing, mow it! go for walks, exercise, wash up, clean the cooker..not only will it make you forget your cravings it will tire you naturally. You are doing really well cold turkey..keep it up and keep coming back to the forum..it has helped me through some dark times...

  • OoOo we've got Night Nurse! I'll use that tonight.

    Thanks!

    So Day 6 went better than I thought it would.

    It was my first day back at work, and I thought it would be so hard to break the routine, but it was okay. Everyone in work is really supportive, and really happy for me, which is helping.

    (Except the manager, she's a knob anyway, and is pissed off coz she's now the only one who smokes, ha!)

    The hardest past was after dinner, sitting outside, and she sparks up a cig. So I run inside and come out with a lollipop!

    It worked, and it got a few laughs! :P

    The next milestone is going to my friends house later on in the week, whilst she sits there in her front room, puffinf away.

    Argh!

  • Hi 4 evame :D

    Well done you day 6 that's nearly the first week done and dusted

    Glad you found the first day back at work easier than expected and doesn't it feel great to be one up on the boss HA HA

    I'm pleased the others are supportive and that you raised a laugh with your lolly ;)

    My old boss bet me £20 I wouldn't make it to 3 months and then extended it to £50 if I made it to six, swore he was giving up to

    Well he's still smoking and I'm still quit, so collected that £50 just in time for my Holiday :D

    Best take them lollies to your friends just in case but am sure you'll be fine

    Love

    Marg xxxxxxxx

  • Thanks!

    Haha, yes it does! I don't exactly like her, so it's good to shut her up :P

    Wow, nice one! I wanna make a bet with someone so I get some pennies out of it too :P

    I'll keep on with the lollies!

    I'll be getting drunk on Saturday, so again, another challenge!

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