I'm back but not to day one

I'm putting this thread on day one in the hope I can influence and help all you guys who are just starting and wonder if you will ever get there.

Most people on here will know what I've gone through in the last few weeks but I'm not feeling sorry for myself, I have dealt with it all head on. The first thing was I was being accused of was fraud, I have since proved it not to be true but it worried me. Then my sister died and I have just came back from travelling down to Lancashire for the funeral.

Next Monday I will have been stopped smoking for 3 months and entering my fourth month. It has not been easy and it has been made harder with the things that have been thrown at me during my quit. I even lost around £2,000 in earnings because of bad weather.

When I went south for the funeral I was in my nephews house and him, his wife and my other sister were all smoking, I was standing next to them and did not want to smoke. I even stood outside the hotel at the reception with people smoking and it did not bother me. One guy when he found out I had stopped pleaded with me and I mean pleaded with me to tell him how I did it because he really wanted to stop but doesn't think he can.

I still have this feeling that something is missing and I don't crave but feel if I were to smoke the feeling of something missing would go away. But now it is so easy to control so I'm happy about stopping smoking. I took great delight when I was offered a cigarette at the hotel and answered "No thanks I don't smoke"

Like the guy who pleaded with me you all want to stop smoking or you would not be here. Well I'm telling you as a person who was like that guy and thought I could not stop smoking you can. Please believe me you can we all can, it is hard and needs determination, will power and to know you are getting rid of something you dont want.

You are not giving something up you are getting rid of something you don't want. If I can do it so can you.

Jack :)

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  • Hit the road jack (only Joking LOL)

    Hi Jack Jack I found you, you cannot hide from me LOL glad to have you back babe, this is a good thread and your the right man to write it.

    read my pm make you smile LOL

    xx

  • Yes it did make me smile and I hope this thread helps someone.

    Jack x

  • Great work Jack!!! what you said is right and it is hard work. I would like to add that I am also one of those who never thought I'd get as far as I have but I've made it 5 months and 28 days. You have to want it and be aware that at anytime you can get a crave. Life happens and won't stop just cause your quitting. I've been having pretty easy time at it for the last month or so but in the last 3 days I have been having big trigger craves. After eating, and gettin mad at things I've REALLY wanted a cigg. BUT....... I won't and am posting just to let everyone know always keep a guard up. No idea why I'm having the craves either. I do know though I have to keep quit. I bought myself a 6 month reward today!!! New Laptop on the way LOL.:D

    well thats my 2 cents or pounds or what ever currency you might be using.

    Shout out to my quit buds out there as well. I'm still out here.

  • Lovely to read

    Hi Jack,

    Really sorry to hear about your troubles.

    That is a lovely post and helps not only day 1'ers, but also day 16'ers!!

    Thanks

    :)

  • Morning Jack :D

    A great post that will give many the incentive to keep going when it gets tough or life throws something nasty there way as it has done to you recently

    Life can be the very devil at times as we all know :eek::eek: but smoking really doesn't make the problems and stresses go away

    As you say it can be really hard to stop but it's doable and I also was like that man that pleaded with you thinking I couldn't do it

    Like you I did and have been smoke free now for 15 months and like you I can say If I can you can to the people here as also like you I smoked for over 50 years

    Love

    Marg xx

  • Great post sweetheart, you have a wonderful way with words Jack.

    I would agree with all you say and I'm at just over 3 months but with a blip. Love, hugs and (secret) kisses!! xxxx :):):) Only 3 smilies may seem mean, but:-

    You have included 5 images in your message. You are limited to using 4 images so please go back and correct the problem and then continue again.

    hmph!!

    I knew things were a bit tight in this recession, but rationing the smilies, really? How does that help? lol

  • Keep on Quitting Jack

    Hi Jack ,

    Having read through your post I would like to wish you all the best in your quit as you have gone through a LOT of adversity and remained focussed throughout.

    It does get easier as the months progress and I felt as though something was missing and not quite right in my life until reaching about 6 to 7 months in my quit. What helped me along the way was realising that smoking is a disgusting life destroying habit that I have broken free from and that I am now on the road to recovery and a healthier life without the burden of poisoning myself.

    I also know that if I was to have just ONE CIGARETTE I would undo a lot of the "good work" , that I have done and find myself questioning my ability.

    Anyway I am rambling on a bit but what I am saying in a long winded sort of way is that it DOES GET EASIER every day and you have to simply remember why you are quitting, how well you have done so far and before long you wont even think about them .

    Best wishes .

    Trev

    20 a day for 30 years :eek:

    Quit 28th april 09

    3 months patches

    almost 7 months cold turkey.

  • thank you for your post, its an inspiration to myself and others, i am on day 6 of taking my champix, and day 5 only smoked 4 ciggys, not because i wanted to either, but because i felt it was normal too, weird I know, and so far today I would of smoked about 5 ciggys, infact i usually have one around now, for my break but nope i am here on the forum, so hopefully will not have any today, i know i can do this beacuse i want to.

  • thank you for your post, its an inspiration to myself and others, i am on day 6 of taking my champix, and day 5 only smoked 4 ciggys, not because i wanted to either, but because i felt it was normal too, weird I know, and so far today I would of smoked about 5 ciggys, infact i usually have one around now, for my break but nope i am here on the forum, so hopefully will not have any today, i know i can do this beacuse i want to.

    I could answer all the posts but it would take me forever, I'd have to stop and have a ciggy between each one. Well that's how it used to be but not anymore I can do many things now without smoking in between (no funny comments please:D).

    What Marley has written is what makes me happy and to a certain extent makes stopping worthwhile. Knowing that my quit is helping others do the same, I even have three pupils all trying to quit because I did if I had known I could have this influence I would have quit a long time ago.

    I have been stopped now for nearly 3 months but I only realised I have stopped smoking last night. I was thinking about this guy who pleaded with me to tell him how I stopped and remembered I was the same, I never thought I could. Last night it hit me, I'm not wishing I could stop smoking any more I have. I only did realise last night I have actually done it I have stopped, I'm not that person anymore that wants to stop. I don't need to want to stop anymore I have and it's a great feeling, all I want to do now is help others to do the same.

    Vivienne for you secret kisses xxxxxx someone will notice this one day.

    Trev you're right it only takes one so for you guys that think I can have one then stop again I promise you you can't. NOT EVEN ONE PUFF!!

    Marg yes if we can do it all can do it.

    That is a lovely post and helps not only day 1'ers, but also day 16'ers!! Beccy that is good to know.

    Twiste I hope you enjoy that laptop you deserve every bit of it, well done.

    Jamangie I'll catch you later.

    Keep at it people and you will get there.

    Jack

  • Good to see you back Jack with some great words of advice/wisdom. Perfectly put.

    I'm another 'if i can do it so can you' - I quit 43 days ago (well it will be 43 days in 10 minutes!) - one day at a time folks, stay focused, believe in yourself, dont listen to the nasty nicotine monster, drink water if you have a craving, get some exercise in if you can, stay mentally strong, keep reminding yourself why you are doing this --- Day oners YOU CAN DO IT. It really really is possible.

    It feels great being a non-smoker. I'm motivated to make this another smoke free day.

    cheers,

    Paul

  • Well done Paul and everybody on here. Even if you have only stopped for 5 minutes, it's a start.

    Jack:)

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