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help i want a fag big time me and oh are none stop rowing been with him 9 years.

And we are going out seperate ways and my god i need a fag so so bad what do i do none stop crying none stop rows.

sure he does it more cause he cant pack up god im so so down hs saying its the champix im on making me moody and he is leaving but we havent been geting on for a long time i dont know were to turn

All i feel like doing is going to buy some fags

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  • Hi Kay

    Listen you smoking again isn't going to make your difficult situation better and all your problems suddenly disapear, so don't smoke-it really isn't going to help.

    It sounds as if your relationship has been going through difficulties for some time-so i don't think the fact you been slightly more 'moody' has caused the rift. To be honest if your OH is leaving because of you stopping smoking-well he needs to grow some balls and support you, i personally think its any excuse for him! Call his bluff and tell him to go if its that bad-hes' either going to squirm his way back into your life, or he will bloody leave then you at least know what the guy wants -AGHHHH!!! getting angry for you!

    Chin u babes, you can do this, don't let anybody make you feel guilty by trying to make your life even more difficult xxxx

  • Hi Kay

    Sorry you are having problems at thr moment Nope you don't want a fag you only think you do because this is what you would have done before you quit reached for a fag just as most of us on here would ahve but you know that wouldn't change anything

    I really can understand how you feel as it happened to me a long time ago must be nearly 37 years now when my first OH walked out I know it's hard when you have been together 9 years but having a fag won't stop him if that's what he wants to do and beleive me he is blaming you because he can't or won't blame himself and also he knows he can upset you

    Yes I am sure he is very jealous of you for giving fags the boot as he can't which is why he is blaming Champix and saying you are moody Champix will not make you moody

    Kay calm down you say you haven't been getting on for a long time so you know very well it's not you giving up that has caused this that is his excuse

    don't let him make you start again this is what he wants then he will feel better at his own inability to stop and tell all his mates it was your fault if he goes

    So Don't go and buy any and try not to let him see how hurt you are it will only feed his ego and make him worse

    If you just carry on with your quit and ignore if you can his hurtful words you will feel better Non of this is down to you or your quit

    I totally agree with what Shabba is saying the way he is going on he is certainly not a man

    Love

    Margxxxxxxxxxx

  • help i want a fag big time me and oh are none stop rowing been with him 9 years.

    And we are going out seperate ways and my god i need a fag so so bad what do i do none stop crying none stop rows.

    sure he does it more cause he cant pack up god im so so down hs saying its the champix im on making me moody and he is leaving but we havent been geting on for a long time i dont know were to turn

    All i feel like doing is going to buy some fags

    I'm not sure I can say anything to help you, but I do know a fag will not help the situation. That will only make you mad at yourself and put you back to square one, which I'm sure you don't want. Life is short. Decide how you want to spend yours, fighting with OH, crying all the time. What ever you decide to do, just be sure you are happy for the long haul.

  • Shabba is right Kay, smoking just will not solve it because at the end of the day the stress is still there and a cigarette maybe seen as a stress reliever but it really isn't, in fact it probably increases ur stress because it speeds to blood flow.

    Stay strong my dear - u r doing really well :)

    x

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