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Hello all, how are you?

Well I am at 55 days today (wow! didn't realise it had been that long)... anyways yesturday I went to a party, a party with alot of smokers (quite rank actually had to open a window several times) EVERYONE there seemed to be chain smoking, and as the night wore on I found myself soo tempted too, if it wasn't for thinking I would have to go back to day one on this forum i probably would have smoked, scary how after all this time it still can almost catch you out. The other thought that stopped me was thinking where will this end, if i smoke one tonight i will probably smoke 20 tonight and then have a few the next day and then go back to smoking tomorow.:(

So it was quite scary how close i came really, I am soo glad i didn't the thought of smoking now is soo disgusting.

xx

sachmo

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  • Well done Sachmo for not smoking - that just shows that uv got bags of willpower!!

    Well done - I'm so proud :)

  • Well done Sachmo,

    Both on being quit for 55 days, but also on resisting.

    You will probably find that temptation crops up every so often and take it from someone that has failed in their attempts to quite previously it really does only take 1 puff to revive the addiction.

    The phrase "Your only 1 puff away from a pack a day" is very true.

    All the best

    Nic

  • Well done - on resisting and for nearly getting to the end of month 2.

    I disagree with Philip, though - I don't think it shows you have bags of willpower. It's not that I don't think you have willpower - but I don't know if you do or not.

    Please don't take this the wrong way, anyone - but.

    A non smoker does not need will power not to smoke, they just need to know that they don't want to. It's the same for us.

    A moment of weakness can come along when we remember how nice a cigarette was - 1 cigarette. And yes, 1 was nice.

    As Sachmo pointed out... 1 would lead to a lot more until we are back were we started... but worse. Now we think it's really really hard to quit "because I couldn't do it before".

    Except you could. All you had to do was not have that first one.

    I'm not chastising anyone, I've been there myself - many times. Thinking I couldn't quit, I just didn't have the willpower.

    I don't have willpower now, if I was doing this by willpower I wouldn't be doing very well... you see, things keep going wrong... if I was doing this by willpower I would be smoking again by now. A long time before now.

    There are people who quit by sheer willpower. Determination and stubbornness will do it. But you will always need that willpower, you will always think you deprived yourself of something - thats the way you quit. I want to smoke, but can't because it's bad for me.

    I, and I suspect Sachmo as well - and I am willing to bet most others on this forum, am doing this by simply deciding I don't want to do it anymore. And then not doing it anymore. We will be free, because we really don't want to smoke anymore.

    Now I am well aware that it DOES take willpower during the first few days and weeks (I did go through it too, you know ;) ) - but as time goes on and we get past the worst of the cravings it becomes a choice. A choice which your subconscious will try to make for you if you let your guard down, but a choice nonetheless. All you have to do is make it, even when you are being tricked.

    So, well done Sachmo for making that choice under very difficult circumstances - it doesn't matter how, or why. It matters that you made it. It reconfirms your previous decisions, and makes it easier to make the same choice next time.

    Only my opinion, so feel free to ignore it :D

  • Erm well I disagree...but only on your point that you disagree with Philip's comment about Willpower.:eek:

    Will is the trait that produces conscious choices and actions

    Willpower is the ability to exert one's will over one's actions.

    Willpower manifests as inner firmness, decisiveness, determination, resolution and persistence.

    (All the above from Wikipedia)

    You argue that we make choices and you write that Sachmo made, "...that decision under very difficult circumstances".

    I think Sachmo exercised a good choice and she/he must have willpower. :p

    Nevertheless it's all pedantry which I'm getting overly involved with, but it has removed me from my previous bored state. :D

  • Well Done!!:)

    I think you should be very proud of yourself.

    I find myself looking at smokers and thinking "did I actually do that disgusting thing" lol

    Im on week 5 now and it really is getting better,I still have those thoughts about having "just One Puff":) but we all know where that leads right back to the begining and depressed:(

    Keep Going,We can all beat this demon.

  • Great going on 55 days and not smoking........congrats...:D

  • Erm well I disagree...but only on your point that you disagree with Philip's comment about Willpower.

    Will is the trait that produces conscious choices and actions

    Willpower is the ability to exert one's will over one's actions.

    Willpower manifests as inner firmness, decisiveness, determination, resolution and persistence.

    (All the above from Wikipedia)

    You argue that we make choices and you write that Sachmo made, "...that decision under very difficult circumstances".

    I think Sachmo exercised a good choice and she/he must have willpower. :p

    Nevertheless it's all pedantry which I'm getting overly involved with, but it has removed me from my previous bored state. :D

    [pedant]

    I never stated that Sachmo didn't exercise free will, just that I didn't know if she had "strong willpower" (I have deduced, possibly incorrectly that Sachmo is a she judging by the "xx" at the end of the post).

    Willpower is a term used to verbally describe the strength of a persons will. "His will is weak" is the same as "he is short on willpower".

    It is therefore entirely different from "free will" which is simply the ability to make your own decisions, and not necessarily the strength of character to follow those decisions through to their conclusion.

    [/pedant]

    All of which makes your pedant game weak, young skywalker.

    Hard to see the point of this post is, hmmm?

    :D :D

  • Hello all, how are you?

    Well I am at 55 days today (wow! didn't realise it had been that long)... anyways yesturday I went to a party, a party with alot of smokers (quite rank actually had to open a window several times) EVERYONE there seemed to be chain smoking, and as the night wore on I found myself soo tempted too, if it wasn't for thinking I would have to go back to day one on this forum i probably would have smoked, scary how after all this time it still can almost catch you out. The other thought that stopped me was thinking where will this end, if i smoke one tonight i will probably smoke 20 tonight and then have a few the next day and then go back to smoking tomorow.:(

    So it was quite scary how close i came really, I am soo glad i didn't the thought of smoking now is soo disgusting.

    xx

    sachmo

    Earlier I forgot to pass on my congrats on getting past such a big trigger point. Well done and keep up the good work 'cos very soon you'll be at 100 days...and still going strong, avoiding temptations along the way. :D:D

  • Wow

    Thanks guys, I am female (at least i was last time i checked!)

    Some interesting points were raised, i think I also agree with the fact that will didn't do it, it was far more passive then that, it wasn't that I DID not smoke, it was that I didn't not not smoke... make any sence?? it came from decisding not to act rather then NOT smoking. that is why it was scary, I was only 1 puff away from smoking again, then again we are the time, its just we are more aware of it some tiomes then others, thank you for your responses.

    xx!

    sachmo

  • Hi sachmo,

    So it is this forum that keeps you from smoke free. And we see its great valuable.

  • Well done, Sach!

    I think you've cracked this non smoking lark..... When I "fancy a fag", which is very seldom these days I must add :cool:.....I ask myself if I really want to go back where I was at the beginning of this year, £5 for 20 cigarettes a day, a horrid hacking cough, stinking to high heavens , and having my life dictated to by Ol' Nic :eek:

    The answer is a no brainer, but we always have to remember that is where "just one puff" would most likely lead.

    Hey, Blessing, you are so right, this forum is an amazing help too :)

    (Well done to you too btw)

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