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My, adopted from Russia, FAS son, who is 21 years old, STOLE from a Walgreen's some toy cars. He has now been taken out of the vocational rehab program. We dragged his fanny back to the store to apologize and Pay for the cars ($50) which will be donated to the Toys for Tots program.

I am so stressed out from this entire thing. It was the day he had a job interview through the program - which was cancelled, of course. He got a 3 day out-of-school suspension. He is NOT resting at home. He has a list a mile long of chores to do. I'm mad, disappointed and so stressed!!! His behavior therapist has been informed. Hopefully he can come up with some kind of way to deal with this. To train him that stealing is NOT acceptable!!!

Thanks for letting me vent!!!

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Royjr

Wishing you luck in handling that situation. Stay strong, forceful and positive.

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Jazzihorsecat

Mrsmike sweety, its ok to vent, but take care of you, Stress can cause us much pains & exaserbations as we all have experienced, be careful, we love ya!💐💗& your in Prayers Deeply!😻🙏🙏💘 take deep breaths, go relax at another beautiful beaded artwork that you do so well, you'll wrk. It out!👍💓 No worries dear sis family!💚😍 Blessings for you!💗🙏💐---Jazzy🌹💜

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mrsmike9 in reply to Jazzihorsecat

Thanks. I've been stressing over this since Tuesday. I feel like I'm going to fall apart.

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Keep venting if you need to mrsmike9 it sounds like you did the right thing! 🤗💕 I did the same thing with 2outta 3 of my angel monsters. One was 5 and the other was 15-16. 😒😔 You did good in my book mom!🤗💕🤗💕

J🌠

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mrsmike9 in reply to Jesmcd2

Thanks. I just don't know what to do with him going forward. He has this impulse to steal and as he has FAS, the left and right sides of his brain are not working together. He gets an impulse and acts on it. It's not until after it gets pointed out how wrong it is before he realizes it. How will he ever be able to have a job???

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kdali in reply to mrsmike9

Did you belong to any groups with moms of FAS kids? Do groups like that exist?

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mrsmike9 in reply to kdali

They exist but most of the moms are the ones who did the drinking that messed up the kids. The kids in the groups are really young as well. Mine is 21 now.

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kdali in reply to mrsmike9

Oh no. That’s awful! I wish there were so you at least had someone who understood your pain.

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mrsmike9 in reply to kdali

My husband doesn't even get it. Dealing with Jonah has always been "my job"...

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kdali in reply to mrsmike9

Oh you poor dear 😫

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kdali

I’m so sorry! I can’t imagine what that’s like for you 😫

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RoyceNewton

Venting my dear is okay, if not here then where? I for one never feel that anybody has to apologize for getting anything off their chest.

so sorry for your ordeal, thoughts and prays to you

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greaterexp

That’s such a hard thing to deal with for all of you. I’m sorry for the stress this is causing you. That you tried to help him make amends and confess his stealing shows that you care deeply for him and are still investing in him and his future. Give yourself a hug from all of us. We’re with you in spirit.

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MarkUpnorth

I had a problem son, hospitalized, convicted 2x, diagnosed bi-polar. Not an excuse for laying in bed all day, blowing off everything, and drinking bottles of booze under the covers without us knowing. Yep, that's stress, that which will bring you down with M.S.! Had to get tough with him, against his my wife's (his mother's) "oh but it's not his fault". After years, got him out of the house, finally by his wanting....yes it was tough for him for a bit. But now he's got a great job, after several failed attempts because of his old screw the world attitude. Now he's a superstar at his company. The super tech that needed to be shoved out of the nest, to sink or swim. His bi-polar....still takes his meds??? But he's succeeding in life! Yes, the stress does do all kinds of nasty things to you with M.S. You have to deal with it, or it will drag you down. It WAS NOT easy. But for my son and I, it was essential. And it worked out best for both of us.

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mrsmike9 in reply to MarkUpnorth

You are giving me a lot of hope for my other son who has borderline personality disorder. He moved out this past summer. We have been advised NOT to let him come back home but to support him (not financially) if he needs to find another place to live, etc.

I have two broken sons (both from Russia).

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MarkUpnorth in reply to mrsmike9

We'll they come in pairs, as I had 1 son, one daughter, both broken, now doing Well ! They can be FIXED!

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mrsmike9 in reply to MarkUpnorth

Thanks for giving me hope.

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DIsneyQueen

Sounds like though it is stressful for you, you are a great mom. Take care of yourself and keep up ty good work 🙏🙏🙏💜😁

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Juliew19673

Well done! I'm so glad to hear you did not coddle him; it's must be hard for him as well but some hard lessons are best taught by Mom - so again GOOD FOR YOU! Hugs for you both from afar.

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mrsmike9 in reply to Juliew19673

I do NOT coddle! You are not born with a conscious so it is being taught at home. It is extra hard with this one as he is brain damaged with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. We have gone through some tough times with this one and he had gotten so far. I was so proud of him and saw that the hard work had paid off....until this happened. Back to square one and that is so depressing...

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lbenmaor

Venting is good. I hope you get through this. I will say a prayer and I know you are strong and will get through this.

Leslie

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ssdw1958

I hope he can get through to him but I hope you can relax for your sake

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