“Letting go”

[Sushi2345]

Why can’t I get over things ? I always feel like I have to get everything off my chest with people and friends regarding some lies, or this or that thought to get over it . My core belief is that I’ll never get over it unless if I get it off my chest by telling the person . And some thoughts are horrible and sad . I always feel the thought will circle in my head none stop and won’t get over it .

[3BirdLover]

I have had a similar thing but it was all about 'confessing' about ANYTHING that went through my head. It just got worse and worse.

I had to learn to accept uncertainty and to NOT compulse. It was VERY VERY HARD, but in time it worked and I was able to stop. I also had to learn to use the phrase "maybe, maybe not" to overcome this. Maybe it happened, maybe it was wrong, maybe I said something, but MAYBE NOT.

The more you allow OCD to make you do things the worse you will get. OCD will try to make you do your compulsion, but we really need to resist no matter what.

[Sushi2345 in reply to 3BirdLover]

Thanks so much, I’ll give it a shot !

[Mcfly64]

Hello. These compulsions to do this is your ocd. I know exactly how you feel. The urge to tell someone or confess. I know it’s not easy but you must try and stop doing this. Guilt is a huge part of my ocd. Are you getting any help therapist/medication?

[Sushi2345 in reply to Mcfly64]

I’ll be starting soon eventually! It’s hard to get rid of this

[Mcfly64]

I understand what you are going through . You must get help as soon as you can. It is purely your ocd making you want to tell people or confess. You must not do this or you are letting the ocd bully win.

[Sushi2345 in reply to Mcfly64]

Yes very true , it almost feels like there is a devil inside your head . Anyways thanks a lot for your help !

[Mcfly64]

That’s okay anytime. That is a good way of describing it.

[SCC1]

To begin this post, I know you are talking about telling the truth, and part of my post talks about something else, but maybe similar to yours in a way. I also have had and probably still have, sometimes, the compelling urge to get everything off my chest. It feels like a fullness in my chest or head that I must immediately tell someone what I may be thinking at that time, in case they might have to go thru the same, hypothetical experience I'm thinking about at the time, or go through something I really had gone through. I feel if I tell/warn them that they should be careful if they go somewhere/do something, at least I did my part. If something happens to them, it won't be b/c of me. I have been able to stop myself from telling people (I'm with), to be careful or something along those lines b/c I think I'll sound crazy, so I've had to force myself not to say anything. It wants to burst out of me, but this is the 1 compulsion I have had more control of. I let the intensity of the need-to-tell feeling work its way out of me, and it does pass. As far as feeling like the thought won't leave until you say something to the person, what helps, is to have something distract you, even if the distraction happens on its own. The longer the thought is distracted, the more time will pass, and eventually the thought won't seem so important. I didn't even know that what you're feeling is an OCD symptom. I have also had the same problem about needing to tell a friend/other (mom...), about something I've done that may have been dishonest. And I feel that it's not something I can just let go. There's a NEED to tell them. And, yes, the feeling is hard to stop. You could try to think that if the thing you want to tell them would be hurtful, maybe you could let it go more.