ive lost my confidence and dont wont to be around people,what must i do ?

[camperman]

[Jeffju]

Is there anyone you can talk to about how you feel?? I think a visit to your doctor may be a good idea as they will be able to help you. Good luck.

[vince]

I know its the same with me since losing my job due to ill health. I feel abandoned its very hard.

[Jack2310]

I would maybe start by giving yourself small challenges. For example going out to a friends once a week, and gradually building on from there with them aim of going out for a group gathering in say 6-7 months. I would also look at "mindfulness". This is the concept of focusing on your senses and surroundings and helps to take your focus off your thoughts and feelings. If you are suffering from panic and anxiety perhaps make an appointment to see your g.p and discuss how you are feeling as they may suggest cognitive behavioural therapy and/or medication to help if you are really struggling. Hope this helps.

[blackdug]

Much agreement with last comments from Jack2310... Also 'self help' sites and books helped me enormously and once you are ready (and it's scary first time but benefits are amazing) group work with like minded folk, you are NOT alone!!! GOOD LUCK!!! Hugh

[clive1060]

jack2310 is spot on lot of self help books internet sites like this one keep your chin up look to the future clive

[Photogeek]

Hi there, losing your confidence is hard. When I was quite depressed my confidence was very bad too, Antidepressants definitely helped. Talk to your GP if you have not already, I found sharing my feelings with a few of my close friends helped me, looking back on it it was a hard time for me, but keep making an effort to go out, take it one day at a time. Small steps, and your confidence will improve, remember its only temporary, even though you feel terrible, most people wont know you feel bad, I hope this helps a bit.

[camperman in reply to Photogeek]

thanks for your reply,iam suffering with depression and taking medication,this all started when i lost my job,ive been like this for around ten weeks now,been back to my doctors a few times but all he says is that it will take time,the thought of loosing my house is making things worse and my confidence is not there at all,i feel like im a burden on my family.

[Photogeek]

Hi Camperman, please dont give up. Losing a job is very hard. Its natural to think the worst when you get a shock like that, and when your depressed too. Your Doctor is right, it does take time. just take each day and try not to project too much about what might happen. Your family love you, and no I am sure they do not think you are a burden. Are you claiming all the benefits that you are entitled too, I dont know your situation, or even if your wife could get a part time job. Just know that you will pull out of this Depression, keep in touch with us all here, and I will do my best to give you any help I can. I know what its like, but the thing we forget is that Depression does not stay the same. Do you have any friends you could meet up with or phone. I know men are not so good at these things as we are. Anyway I wont ramble on but take it one day at a time.