CAN`T COPE

[GINPIT]

i HAVE A BIG PROBLEM, CAN NOT COPE WITH ANYTHING.

lost MY JOB BEFORE XMAS -MY SILLY FAULT.

CAN`T TALK TO ANYONE.

WENT TO GP LAST WEEK ,THEY THINK ITS JUST ANXIETY ..WHICH I HAVE HAD FOR MANY YEARS.

I FEEL I CAN NOT GO ON ,LOOKING FOR WAYS OUT EVEN THOUGH MARRIED WITH A GREAT WIFE AND SON.

FEEL IT`S TOO EMBARRASSING TO DISCUSS THIS.

CAN`T MAKE APPOINTMENT WITH GP,CAN NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE BECAUSE I LOOK SO BAD NOW.

ALL YELLOW AND NAILS BITTEN ,FACE ASH CANT WASH .

CAN NOT EVEN PICK THE PHONE ,CAN`T SPEAK PROPERLY.

TRYING TO LOOK FOR A JOB ONLINE BUT EVEN THE THOUGHT OF GOING TO INTERVIEW OUT THE QUESTION,LOOKING LIKE THIS.

I KNOW THE GP SHOULD THE FIRST STEP, BUT THEY THINK I AM AFTER TABLETS

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Hi

I'm so sorry things are so hard for you at this time, especially that you lost your job before Christmas which is always a hard time for people.

You say losing your job was your fault and I am wondering what you did that was bad enough for you to deserve to lose your job. Perhaps you blame yourself for that.

You say you are married and have a son but find it too embarrassing to talk to them about how you are feeling or would has happened and I am wondering how you feel about your relationship with them, whether your relationship with your wife in particular is good. If it is then I wonder whether you think talking with her will damage the relationship or that she will think you stupid in some way and not forgive you. If the relationship is not good I wonder whether that is related to the silly thing you did that made you lose your job.

Perhaps you can tell me more about what led to the job loss? Whateever it was it is not going to go away and talking about it with a stranger as a first step may be of help.

Suex

[bodicea]

Hi,

I am sorry at how things have been for you. It sounds as if things have been building p for a while and no wonder you feel unable to cope. I know how bad i get when i feel i can't cope. I find i have to stop. i go to bed and stay there for a day. although everything is not solved i feel a little calmer so i can at least function which is a start for me and if i keep telling myself i am doing fine for the next couple of hours then coping one day at a time when i am really bad, lets you have some space. do the have a crisis team where you are that you could talk to on the phone or a friends cafe just for a break. if you could find the strength to even tell you wife one thing, i am sure she will be supportive, i bet she is very worried sbout you.

Can you go to see another GP.at your surgery or visit the hospital./ A&E. or wlak in centre ,the Salvation Army maybe able to help even if it is just to talk to someone.

i feel awful saying this but i do not feel you are well enough to be looking for a job yet you sound too ill. you should be on incapacity benefit as you are incapacitated by this illness you have. You are overloaded and need time to sort out the burdens weighing on you, but this takes time there is no quick fix. please give yourself the time and allow yourself to be supported by opening up a little at a time. I am wishing you the strength to cope with this and hope that things start to turn around for you. We have a saying here "Traa-dy-Liooar" (meaning time enough) wishing you time enough xxx Gyl XXx

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I've left the same comment on my blog post you commented on, but making sure you get to read it:

I'm so so sorry you feel this way...

You've done well to post on here and let some of us know how it is for you.

I'd strongly suggest you ask your wife to make the appointment and come with you. Or a close friend. They will be able to (1) provide a few insights on how you're behaviour has been and (2) support you just by being there. Doesn't matter what you think the GP might think. They will take a step in the right direction to help you.

Print this page or rewrite it on paper, take it with you to the appointment and just give it to them.

You have your family who cares about you. They would not want you to be feeling this way.

Take care and good luck. Please let us know how you go.

C xo

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Ginpit your gp should be refering you to your community health team. Phone the surgery and ask for this to be done.

Google the Serenity prayer, dont worry about believing in God, you can replace the word with anything you know is stronger than you at this time if you wish. I use God as its easier, the power is in the prayer, it grounds you and starts with little things. It always helps me and helps stop that whirling panic you are in right now.

You can come through this step by step, minute by minute.

hugs

Jen x

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That should be Community Mental Health Team