In 2023, as my college was about to end, I planned to pursue a master’s degree abroad and started preparing for the IELTS. However, after completing my course, my parents did not allow me to go abroad, leaving me stuck and unsure of what to do next. To avoid a career gap, I enrolled in an online MBA program. Later, I learned medical coding and secured a job in that field.
During this time, I got an optometry job, which aligned with my undergraduate studies and offered a good salary. I accepted the position, but after joining, I was informed I had to work in Chennai. Eventually, they transferred me to another district that didn’t suit me, so I resigned. After that, I joined an optical shop in my hometown, but my duties were limited to opening the door and handling couriers, so I resigned again.
I decided to learn Flutter development to transition into the IT field. After completing the course, I attended several interviews, but most employers rejected me due to my optometry background. I then shifted my focus to HR jobs, attended numerous interviews, and finally got a job at a consultancy firm. However, the salary was only ₹12,000, and I had no savings. The work pressure affected my personal life, and I couldn’t spend time with my girlfriend.
Later, a friend, a businessman, asked me to join his new company as a manager. He had two businesses—glass manufacturing and plans for hardware—and I decided to join him. Initially, there was a lot of work, but eventually, I found myself sitting idle with no salary, as the hardware business never started. During this period, my girlfriend left me, which left me deeply depressed. I resigned and returned to my hometown.
Haunted by memories of my girlfriend, I told my parents I needed to go on a trip, but they revealed that we were burdened with significant debt. Now, I am working at an eye clinic in my hometown for ₹10,000 a month($100). I feel isolated, with no one to talk to, and I deeply miss her. I’ve been struggling for two years now.
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If you were nice and kind to your gf, and she abandoned you just due to you going through difficulties; then, she probably didn't really love and cared sincerely about you.
She was perhaps much more interested and in love with your career potentials; hoped for a higher financial and material status through you. If so, then, you are truly better off without her.
You were clearly doing your best as you narrated, and I believe you will eventually have your breakthrough and successes in near future; but she didn't seem to appreciate that. She was impatient and left, because she cared more about what she hoped or expected you'd become, soon after your higher degrees.
In my opinion, it will actually be dangerous to have her back into your life. You will likely suffer more in her hands, over time - especially if you're not fulfilling her personal wishes, desires and expectations from the kind of well established man she'd prefer to cater mainly to her.
You must do your best to gradually get over her and move on. You can do it. I've been in your position before and thought my entire world and life will forever remain pointless and meaningless. But now, I laugh at how I was behaving when my ex left me and got with someone else.
You've survived 2 years without her, you can survive more, and, gradually, you'll get better in completely getting over her.
When you eventually become completely healed from her, and you perhaps meet a much better person; you'll be grateful your ex left you!
Hang on tight and keep working on improving and bettering yourself and your parents. No matter how slow and difficult it might be, you will eventually prevail because your potentials are very obvious, you just haven't been lucky or opportuned enough yet.
All the best to you, and, all the best to her too as she seeks her survival.
We're all seeking our survival. Some of us unfortunately become too self absorbed, selfish, greedy; with little or no incline on how to carry/support/love others along our daily battle and journey of survival.
Thank you so much for your kind and comforting words. It truly means a lot to me that you took the time to listen and respond with such warmth and understanding. Your message gave me a sense of peace and reminded me that I’m really grateful for your support—it’s something I’ll hold onto during tough times.
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So lost and lonely ,and giving up hope
hope this maybe helps someone
Finding support is so difficult 
No hope.
Feeling slightly down
