Borderline Personality Disorder

[Mofro]

I've been wanting to ask this for a long time, but then I'm a procrastinator. Usually what drives me to action, is when things in life become extremely unbearable, or situations where I'm up against a wall and I have no choice but to act. This is one of those times.

I've searched here on HealthUnlocked for a support community for Borderline Personality Disorder, and have been perplexed with why there isn't one.

WHY???

Given the multitude of mental health issues you can find support for, it amazes me BPD isn't one of them. After being diagnosed and learning how it's affected me throughout my life, I find it to be much more of an issue for me than depression and anxiety, although they certainly help mess things up quite nicely.

During the last 50+ years, I have been diagnosed with a lot of mental health issues, most predominately depression and anxiety. Being diagnosed at 16 years of age, and now having reached the age of 68 today, I've always wondered what has caused most of my angst in life, depression or anxiety. I've gone back and forth, proclaiming one to be the major issue, only to change my mind later on. I now honestly believe that depression and anxiety were only byproducts of the BPD.

I've also tried to figure out who I could contact on HealthUnlocked, to ask why there isn't a support community for it, but I've been unable to find the answer. I can only assume there are many people out there struggling with BPD that could use support. From what I've been able to find elsewhere it seems support for it online is very limited.

[baphometjez]

You do sound a bit like me.

Depression and anxiety most of my life. Inability to form lasting relationships. Later diagnosis of Aspergers, which I am ambivalent about. The psychiatrist who confirmed that also noted several symptoms of BPD.

I do think BPD fits me quite well but, tbh, I haven't pursued any support or treatment (other than psychotherapy which the psychiatrist recommended, although that was rejected). I've since given up, partly because I don't expect a long life, based on genetics and family history.

My grandfathers died in their 50's and 60's. My father at 65, my brother at 68. I suspect, one way or another, I have two or three years left. I'm just focusing on trying to leave my wife (with all her issues and diagnoses) in a better place.

As for support, I just found this in the UK - borderlinesupport.org.uk/ who have a Facebook Group at facebook.com/groups/bpdpeer... if thats any good? (I don't use FB anyway).

[erbsta]

There's lots of other support groups online.

My favourite is Reddit r/BPD

Currently 253 thousand members. Really supportive and helpful 😌

[Mofro in reply to erbsta]

Thanks for the Reddit reference erbsta. I should have known you can find just about anything on Reddit. 😊 I've been reading some of the posts tonight, and it looks like it may be helpful. It's always helpful for me just to read other people's stories.

[Mofro]

I wanted to follow up on my post, and what I've been able to find out. I had someone from HealthUnlocked reach out to me, and this is the explanation I got from them as to why there isn't a forum here for Borderline:

>>Communities on HealthUnlocked usually have an expert partner who moderates them. These partners are charities specialised in the topic, who request to create a community, and the HealthUnlocked team only provides technical support for the platform to work well. If there isn't a community for a certain condition, this is because we haven't received a request from an expert partner to create one, and unfortunately, we can't create one without an appropriate moderation team.

If you know of any charity organizations that you think would be a good fit, you can send them our link where they can request to start a community: about.healthunlocked.com/st...

With this in mind, it doesn't seem there's much hope to find support on here for Borderline, but I do appreciate those that suggested other sites to me.