How to deal with a narcissist father?

[minimalnomad]

My machiavellian father has ruined my whole life and does not seem to stop. Even though I am 52 years old now, he seems to enjoy pushing the right buttons that annoy me and ruin my day. All of these buttons have to do with him treating my mother like his slave. I can not look away and we usually have discussions. He yells, I yell back (I admit that sometimes I lose control)

After another frustrating visit (I live on the other side of the Atlantic) we took a month off to cool down after the last conflict in January. And tomorrow they are coming over to say goodbye. I am already feeling anxious and nervous. This time my father was so troublesome that my marriage almost fell apart... my wife was again mistreated and disrespected (she comes from a very nice family with a nice environment - here it's the opposite)

I do not want to come back here again. (we only came because my father begged and promised on the phone that he would behave this time)

How in the world did I believe this monster?

I guess the best I can do is avoid him at all costs until they are gone. (poor mom, she deserved to spend some quality time with us during this visit)

I do not want to see him again.

DO NOT Thrust on Narcissists!!!!

DO NOT FELL ON THEIR TRAPS.

Wish me luck!

Thank you!

[Bkin]

Feel for you minimal nomad. I wouldn't believing a word that is said, comments are intended to rile you and/or your partner, narcs need supply so they enjoy getting a reaction back from you, they are very much like trolls on the internet, just don't feed them. The term I believe is grey rock basically just ignoring or disregarding comments. Its good to stay away from these people or go very low contact, don't share anything personal, gains or worries etc. Learning to respond or not respond rather than react, its very challenging but worth cultivating.

Best wishes to you and good luck.

[minimalnomad in reply to Bkin]

Thanks for caring to post a reply.

I follow the advice and just became invisible these last two days.

it helped!

all the best to you!