do any of u feel used at home??

[FantasyLife]

i feel used if my parents ask me to help around the house and i feel like they are really partial to my brother bcoz he gets away wid everything just bcoz he is male and my mom feels bad if he does anything and she makes me feel bad if i say no or dont do anything that's y i feel so frustrated and angry that i don't help her with anything and even if i do if i say leave me now i have some other work then she starts her emo taunts and disregards everything i did before, so i don't do anything coz, either way, i am getting blamed but i feel sad and guilt that she has to do everything in house on her own daily and i go to help sometimes but that point she just vent all her anger towards me and blames me that i just go away and i learned that being selfish saves my self-respect even though i feel bad for it. and i get really angry that they give more importance to my brother just becoz he is a boy, i mean r we still in the age of kings and shit?

do u have this in ur home too? and should i have just helped them in spite of that?

sorry if this offended anyone

[Kathy0797]

Maybe do your fair share with headphones on, so you can’t hear your mother?

[FantasyLife in reply to Kathy0797]

i wish i could but if i did that would only piss her off and prolong the sayings from her

[Rupertthebear]

Yes in the Indian subcontinent patriarchal hierarchy still exists in some families . I understand your concern and I agree that it’s wrong but unfortunately you won’t be able to change your parents mindset . It will benefit you to work alongside your mother and not worry about your sibling and the treatment he gets . He will be disadvantaged in not doing these house chores so you have nothing to lose.