Nothing except unhappy

[ChovanTang]

So I had this argument with my dad like he yelled at me saying: get the out of my apartment! Me yelled back say: give me the suitcases and then I’ll leave! And then he said: what did you say? So I repeated: suitcases! He again: what? Me: s-u-i-t-c-a-s-e-s! Then he said: I have no idea of what you just said! End of the argument.

All that started because they asked me if my cousin’s in a relationship. I asked back: it’s none of my business and why would I know that and why you are so curious? They said: because you are still single! Then I said: great, I’ll tell that man that we are over. My mom said: why? I said: because you keep saying I’m single even when I’m dating with someone you think he’s a good man! And you wouldn’t stop!

Then my dad got angry, then what above happened.

Sucks.

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I gather you are going out with someone and your Father took exception when talking about your cousin and any of his current relationships. I cannot understand why your Father took an exception to this instigated conversation.

How old are you ? Are we talking about arranged relationships, marriage etc ?

This does sound like a tetchy discussion, possibly with your Father it does happen in families in both East and West, I need to possibly know in what context this discussion took place and possibly reasons why it became so heated.

Are you suffering depression or Anxiety/Depression and the problems associated .

BOB

[ChovanTang in reply to Hidden]

It’s not some serious relationship, it’s just another terrible blind date to me

[Hidden in reply to ChovanTang]

Who is arranging the Blind Date, your Mother, Father or is it the Cousin that is going on Blind Dates. ?

Is this down to possible arranged marriage ?. If this is the case how do you feel regards this selection process. ?? How old are you ? Are at work, living at home or have your own place.??

How can I help ??

BOB

[ChovanTang in reply to Hidden]

I don’t think this will end happily. I’m 28, working, still live with my parents, and it’s my mother who’s arranging all those blind dates, I don’t know if it’s the same with my cousin

[hypercat54]

Yes I will agree with Bob. Swearing isn't allowed on here and will be edited out by the admins.

As far as your current situation goes are you in a position where you can leave home? I don't know if women can in your country but I would advise you to if you can. You are 28 and long legally an adult but again I don't know about the pressure put on women to marry in your country. Can you refuse your mother's blind dates if you wanted to?

I am in the UK and not of Asian orientation so our customs over here are very different. I do know some Asian families are very traditional over here and still try to insist on arranged marriages but it is against the law to force anyone against their will. I don't know if it is in your country.

[ChovanTang in reply to hypercat54]

I refused more than just once, and in return, it’s just endless yelling. I’m in China, which is sadly one of those countries where parents can force their children to do anything against their wills.

And also I told them I’m not the only one in my family who wants me to leave. They will try their best to keep me home, so why bother trying.

[hypercat54 in reply to ChovanTang]

Ok I understand. I would still leave if you can though. They can't legally stop you.

[Hidden in reply to ChovanTang]

I now understand the situation you find yourself in, this attitude does not stand in our Society although there are Racial enforced marriages still happening here and they are basically frowned upon by most people. These are now against the Law although what happens behind closed doors can lead to many dangerous attitudes.

It sounds like at twenty eight you have decisions to make, I understand you can walk away, even if you can get a new job in a different State