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I feel as though i expect too much from my friends and tend to treat them more like items and not individuals , they’re people with their own issues and their own identities and desires , I’ve come to realize that i may not be great with platonic relationships, internally i get clingy and irrational and i paint these mental pictures of being rejected or overlooked by them . I keep to myself most of the time but I know how to be social , on the contrary i overthink a lot .. and when people change their pattern of interaction with me i worry, but constantly going in this emotional rollercoaster of thought over the years has drained me and i want to grow and move on

The interesting thing is that I don’t have a problem with being by myself ,keeping my own company and learning myself, but no one wants to be alone always, i spend a lot of time with myself trying to dissect why i react so negatively to my friend’s actions and i then seclude myself but im not sure how to get over this particular insecurity ...

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Many people including me enjoy there own company, I am very much the same however that does not stop me talking to people on these sites. It is basically the only contact I enjoy. I have many hobbies and diversions that I can put down and refer back to something else. With my memory problems this way of living seems to suit me.

The problem is overthinking, if you keep overthinking you will loose a great deal of interactivity with others around you and I do not think or consider that is what you want. As mentioned earlier in another post some people prefer their own company, they are polite and uncertain the best way forward

Consider this dissecting how others think will just moving further away from those you like, You need to understand we are all individuals and you need to understand that it will take time to get to know someone you have to be able listen and sometimes keep your own council. Also understand it takes a long time to make a good long term friendships, everyone is different and You will find these differences sometimes hard to tolerate.

In the first instance listen and give the person a chance to open up

BOB