How do I move on?

[LexiLee]

I am so lost tonight. My anxiety and depression are getting the better of me. I found out that the person I love and want to spend the rest of my life with cheated on me. He got drunk at the bar tonight and told me everything. He says he doesn’t want to make things work and that it’s my fault he cheated. I feel so unloved and betrayed. I know this is probably gods way of telling me I need to get out of this relationship ship. Because God has been showing me he isn’t good for me but I refused to see any of it. I forgave every lie, every time he was hurtful to me I would apologize, I did anything and everything to try to make him happy and be good enough for him. But I guess God made him hurt me so I have no choice but to let go. But still knowing this deep down, I continued to grasp at him when I knew he left me a long time ago. I almost feel better forgiving him for the cheating and the emotional abuse compared to the alternative. That I let this happen to me knowing full and well what I was getting into and still I stayed and fought. I don’t know how I’m going to wake up tomorrow and go to work and go through the motions of the day knowing I’m alone. I just don’t know how to do it.

[Alibear12345]

Wow talk about close to my situation I’ve been with my partner forever and he has checked out of us. I know this as I know him but he denies this and gets super defensive and angry(every other time he has gotten like this is because he was busted) I’ve come to realize he really is not invested in our relationship and has no real ties in fact if he walked out it would not effect his life in the least. He is actually going backwards now hides his bank account, does not help with any bills, and has a bunch of money saved and says he is always broke. We have been together 15 yrs so I don’t believe there should be these kind of secrets. I’m being led to walk out as he is really being needlessly cruel and impatient with me and actually falls asleep when I try to talk to him or says nothing I’m devastated and don’t know what I will do either but if it hurts with him and hurts without him I need to remember that one of those choices leaves me closed to any real happiness coming into my life. It’s so scary and hard I know. Please feel free to get it out as I find the people on here amazing and very good to hear your not alone in your struggles. You can do this! I hope this helps to know that I understand what you are saying and wish For you the strength and courage to make the choice that is right for you!

[LexiLee in reply to Alibear12345]

Thank you for sharing. I am sorry you are going through such a rough time. I can empathize with the pain you are feeling. I hope you find serenity and happiness ❤️

[Giraffebaby14]

Is so hard being in that type of situations. You need to be really strong and go day by day, but think about yourself, is not good being in a relationship that makes you feel is your fault when is not. He was irresponsable and he didn't think of you, he didn't care. Keep going you will be a lot better without him. It will hurt at first but you'll be ok.

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If you are unhappy walk away, if trust is lost, walk away. You can never protect yourself from a Liar that tries to blame you for His weaknesses. Must be a chinless wonder

Walk away

BOB

[Daveboy71]

Dump him. If I did that to my girlfriend I would expect to be given my marching orders. He obviously doesn't think much about you. Surround yourself with people who can build you up and not tear you down...