I’m 60, happily married man.
Some time ago I got friends with a lady who knew me from school on Facebook, we have chatted and text pretty regularly, she wanted to buy me a meal as a big birthday treat, my wife although also her friend on Facebook knows nothing of this.
My wife has a medical condition which makes sex impossible, she has been like this for 7 years, possibly because of that reason I’ve been drawn in by this other lady.
In our last few texts to each other have she has gone ballistic, vulgar (asking if I want different sexual favours etc etc), she has now blocked me on Facebook, doesn’t answer my texts and this is all over nothing.
I have a genuine concern for her, I want to help, I’ve looked up Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and she has just about every symptom, I want to help her, but how?
I’ve told her I valued our friendship but it would never come between my wife and I, I also stupidly told her I wasn’t interested in sex because I’ve been celibate for a long time.
She also knows about my depression and anxiety, she told me that as a teenager she took a lot of tablets but fortunately her father found her and she was rushed to hospital, her older brother was at university so no one told him of his suicide attempt and he still doesn’t know to this day.
I’m now thinking this is all just in her own little fantasy land. She is 59, divorced, one daughter aged 30 and has told me she has had 4 long term relationships and has been $hi¥ on each time.
My head is saying stay well away, but my heart is staying help her. Basically I’m lost.