So Lost

[Sosadandlonely]

Well, here I am, 3 years after first writing in, and still feeling awful - confused, anxious, and lonely in my marriage and life. I'm stuck in a place I hate, where I have no family or friends, and I can't move even if my husband and I were to separate because it's where our respective jobs are. We also live in an incredibly expensive area and, while we do well with our joint incomes, on my own I'd be living in a less than stellar place. I'd also have my 3.5-year-old son (who had special needs) on my own every other week, which would be taxing since my mental and physical health issues cause a lot of fatigue. Has anyone else dealt with something similar? How did you get through?

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Divorced, but my son is living in supported living, now at college with 2-4 carers and sometimes 1 carer in the night, only. He had non verbal autism. I found having my dad, his grandfather there was big saver when he went through his teenage years, he had challenging behaviour and needed us the most then. They really need a father figure, especially the son and my son has finally settled with carer, mostly male and that was just what he needed, as well as emotional support from us - even though low functioning

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You need to consider what your needs are with your husband. In the past it seems we used to talk openly about our feelings and expectations. Have you tried both approaching a Marriage Guidance to discuss your needs and expectations sometimes these appointments will help you get things into perspective.

Yes you need to consider your children however how far would you go for your own happiness

BOB

[Gb016]

I lived it for 29 years, but I had to wait till the kids had grown up and settled. Then at the worst time of my life, the firm closed, I was out of work, broke my back, got it screwed up. After a year they took the screws out. It was July, sunny, I was on the Balkon, went through the front room to the kitchen for a glass of water, when my x wife screamed at me for dissterbing her afternoon tv 📺. So I went to town and asked a lawyer what it costs for an out of work person to get a divorce, then did it. I have never regretted it!!