How do I move on

[Willowhouse]

Really struggling today crying and wondering were my marriage all went wrong. Thinking all the time what my husband is doing and who he is with.. just feels like after the 15 years together he has gone and I never existed. My mind is racing help x

[Daz2310]

Chin up hun I really feel for you , you need try to let them thoughts go because it really doesn’t matter anymore try and have a little bit of positivity towards the future you still have plenty time to meet someone new and be happy , life’s hard right now your heads a mess but I promise you with time it will get better x

[Willowhouse in reply to Daz2310]

Thanks x hope you are feeling ok x

[Daz2310 in reply to Willowhouse]

Don’t really no how I feel at the minute to be honest hun they filling me up with that much meds my heads in the clouds lol x

[Eian59]

Hi I went through the sale thing and at the start , I was just like you. My head was all over the place and I was thinking what I had done wrong. Everything was negative in my head. Then one day I realised wasn't me in the wrong it was my wife ,she went away with her ex boyfriend. It was all well planned , she had been seeing him for a while.

Then I started to get rid of the negative thoughts and started to go out again and get my life back.

It takes time to build yourself back up and it's not easy but

it's true what they say time is a great healer. Start thinking about yourself now get rid of the negative thoughts and try

And think positive about the future, it's hard but it can be done.I hope you feel better soon .

Regards

Eian

[Willowhouse in reply to Eian59]

Thank you for replying I know I need to stop going over everything in my head but he has made me feel so awful.. just want to be able to pick myself up and move on but it’s so hard. Was you like this for a long time.. when did it start to get better.

Debbie

[Eian59 in reply to Willowhouse]

Hi Debbie

It started to get better when I sat down and thought about it. How they were already seeing each other for a while and I had no idea that’s why I was thinking what I had done as it turned out I had no chance, but like you I blamed myself until I realised that it wasn’t anything I done it was them. It takes a while but once you sit down and think about it you will see it was him all the time. Think of all he done to you and you will get over it sooner. You deserve better and any man that would hit a woman is a coward.

And him putting everyone before you is just wrong.

He tried to put you down at every chance. I hope you feel better soon.

But don’t be a hermit start putting you first. If you want to chat or just vent on here then I am here and there is loads of great support on this site you are not alone.

Regards

Eian

[Willowhouse in reply to Eian59]

Thank you so much. I am feeling a little better this evening just got to remember her did this.. like you say I had no chance as he decided whenever that we was over and that was it.. I just didn’t see it coming so the shock of it has knocked me. Need to build my confidence and remember he’s the shitty person not me 😁 hope karma catches up with him for what he has done.

Debbie

[Eian59 in reply to Willowhouse]

You don't see it coming but he had it all sorted in his head what he was doing,and yes it knocks you for six and that's when you start to blame yourself. Thinking you done something wrong then when you calm down and think about it you find out more about it at you feel a fool for all the tears and sleepless nights knowing he didnt give a toss anyway.don't get sad get even. Get a good lawyer and don't let him bully you any more.

[Daz2310 in reply to Eian59]

Well said . Debbie hope you feeling a bit better like the lady above said your so much better than him you deserve better and one day he will realise what he’s lost and that he’s a fool , stay strong my friend x

[Willowhouse in reply to Daz2310]

Hi Darren going to try and be positive today.. not gonna keep torturing myself because he’s the horrible person not me.. how are feeling are you still in hospital x

[Daz2310 in reply to Willowhouse]

That’s great stay positive 🙂, no I’m still in hospital been a rough 48 hours x

[Willowhouse in reply to Daz2310]

Oh nooo... hope you feel better soon and get home x

[Daz2310 in reply to Willowhouse]

Thanks Debbie x

[Willowhouse in reply to Eian59]

Yes your right. Going to try being positive today I’m sick of feeling crap so need to try... he is a bully. How are you doing now after your split and her leaving going to the ex? Are you ok have you moved on and happy x

[Eian59 in reply to Willowhouse]

Yes once I found out it wasn’t anything I did it was all planned it made it easier

I have moved on and I am happy now.

Hope you feel better today.

Eian

[Willowhouse in reply to Eian59]

How long did it take to move on... have you met somebody new... I really can’t imagine myself with anyone else and don’t want anyone else.... I need to pull myself together and realise he doesn’t care.. I am trying