Feel really down

[Kittykatxxxxx]

Really suffering at the moment . Been out of work 6 months having interview after interview . Waiting to hear back from two. I’m nearly 30 and keep reflecting on my life. I’m very unhappy and have tried so many things to change it. I also have health problems which bother me daily. Overall I mostly healthy though .

I just don’t have any happiness in my life and I’m so jealous of people my age . I have nothing . No partner , barely any friends. I don’t really have much of an outlet, so I write here.

I’ve tried online dating but got treated really badly by one person, he used me for one thing and told me I wasn’t good looking enough for him . I looked back and saw that it seems he had treated his exes well. It brings me back to being called ugly at school.

Just so down .

[EleanorRose]

Hey,

I feel like we probably have quite a lot in common. I am nearly 30 too and can find myself dwelling on where I am and comparing myself to others my age - married people with children and houses they own etc. It does upset me and worry me if I spend too long thinking about it.

However, there are plenty of other people in similar situations to us, it just doesn’t always feel like it. There’s nothing ‘social media worthy’ about my life so you don’t see it. Doesn’t mean there aren’t others in the same situation - they’re just not shouting it from the rooftops - eating a ready meal on the sofa alone doesn’t seem as ‘shareable’ as an engagement announcement or new baby photo!

As for the online dating, I know you know this anyway, but just because one person treats you badly it doesn’t mean others will. If the online dating is something you want to pursue, don’t let one person put you off. He clearly wasn’t a nice person and definitely wasn’t the right person for you - you deserve more than that.

Life is tough sometimes. Always here if you want to chat ❤️

Take care,

Eleanor

[Kittykatxxxxx]

Thank you