Worst interview ever

[Kittykatxxxxx]

I just had an interview and it went so badly. I answered nearly all the questions wrong , failed a role play and written test. Got to off for not reading the instructions properly as well. I could have done this job but I was not prepared.

My depression had been really bad the week before and I had panic attacks . I just could not think . Now I can’t stop thinking about it . I feel regretful and depressed. I have been unemployed a few months and this would have helped me out massively .

I can’t stop going over it in my head. I just keep wondering what they think of me .

[LilyAnnepuppy]

Let it go if you can. I’m sure you did the best you could under the circumstances. What’s meant to be, will be. Also don’t worry about what they think of you. They are not in your shoes. You’ll get the job you’re supposed to get.

[FRreedman]

Try to stop worrying about what they think of you, and instead of moping, look on it as a teaching exercise. You have now learnt that if you fail to prepare you must prepare to fail. (It is not just a play on words, it is a fact). Nobody ever got anywhere they wanted to by just winging it. You have learnt what it feels like to not do your best, so next time make sure you have read and learnt everything you can. Don't give yourself the excuse of "I'm not good enough/ I'm not well" that attitude won't get you where you want to be. At least if you have given it your best shot, you won't be upset with yourself if you fail to succeed.

[kenster1]

hi I had two terrible interviews about 5 years ago or so after it I thought never again but I used all that negativity and learned from it and have done quite well in recent interviews till no success mind you.preperation beforehand is important it always gives you a better chance.dont be to hard on yourself these things happen to most of us.

[Sunshine425]

Interviews can be really over overwhelming... I know I used to dread job searching due to social anxiety. I say be proud you are putting yourself out there! Its easy to be our own worst enemies.. but once you start treating yourself with the "I deserve better than how I let myself feel" it gets easier to gain some confidence <3

[Miss-understood]

Hi Kittykat. I really do feel for you about this scenario. I don’t think this is simply about being prepared & failing & moping & excuses (with all due respect to another post). I say this because this has happened to me several times. Depression & panic attacks affects everyone differently & as much as you can go into certain situations such as job interviews trying to focus & concentrate & applying yourself, for sum of us our brains just cannot hold on to much information or intense situations because of brain fog for example or a fear of panic that lack of confidence from depression often causes never mind being able to focus & absorb & of course you will question yourself afterwards how you could have been better prepared & how you feel you may have let yourself down or feel a sense of stupidity. Even without depression and anxiety I think people can feel this way, but when some of us are in the throes of depression and anxiety retaining information is just impossible so you could have prepared really well but the interview still could have gone into one big whirl of confusion & to top it off some of us will beat ourselves up mercilessly about being stupid, or ill prepared or pathetic or even worthless & useless which again has been part of my depression & still is. You go home as I did/ do & feel even more of a loser... Yes if you can get a grip of yourself and learn from this all well & good but it’s not always as clear as that, not to people who suffer from anxiety & depression & believe me that’s not an excuse. People telling you off doesn’t help either. Take from this experience as many positives as you can like “well I made it to the interview” & “at least I got ready as in dressed & out the door” & “I tackled as much of it I could” but I was a bit slow on grasping what was required of me & anxiety set my nerves off. I know people who have “winged” it but they are usually super confident with the gift of being able to hit the ground running as it were. It’s ok to tell yourself that you perhaps feel you didn’t have enough of you to give on the day.. it’s not an excuse it’s an acceptance & think “well at least I attended” as some people just can’t even get out the door. I tell myself in such situations that at least I tried & next time I will try a little bit harder & im not going to run my mind ragged if it didn’t work out as I really wanted to as my mind was overwhelmed with nerves & anxiety. I think you are doing amazing getting yourself out there so don’t replay it & wear yourself down & feel bad. Hopefully something better will come along & you will be secretly relieved you didn’t get this job. You never know what tomorrow will bring but I applaud you for getting out there & having a good go. Big hugs & hope your next interview sees you with less anxiety.

P.S when I have bad anxiety all I can think of is getting into my safe place & I struggle to think of my own name so I really do know how you feel. Use the experience to heal your mind a bit and to think how you would do it next time and maybe next time you will hold it together for your dream job. Take Care.

[Sunshine425 in reply to Miss-understood]

Wow! I hope my post didnt upset you. Im very compassionate and like your imformative response! It is so true. Deft praise yourself for every little break through and know, none of you are alone<3

[Miss-understood in reply to Sunshine425]

No no no not at all, please don’t think that. Your post was spot on. It was a little something I spotted in another post that I felt was a little inappropriate for Kittykat regarding her not so good experience on a much wanted job interview, concerning the word “fail” but we all are on here to give our perspectives but thankyou for replying to me that’s very kind

[Sunshine425 in reply to Miss-understood]

That had a bad taste to me as well. My goal is to give best support knowing we are all so different. Just wanted to check🌻

[Miss-understood in reply to Sunshine425]

Absolutely, & kindness and understanding is the key to stepping into others shoes to get a small understanding of how fragile they must be feeling especially if something similar has happened that we as other posters can relate to.