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Last Wednesday my dad died, I been ill for about a year and I hadn’t seen him in a long time I live at least 250miles away from my mum and dad, they live in London and I live in Yorkshire, I really regret that I hadn’t seen him in so long now it’s too late, I do also suffer from depression but I had to be strong for my brother, sister and mother, I was ok but now I’m really angry, lost can’t be bothered mood. I really can’t cope with this situation and I feel like running away I’m 36 for gods sake and I obviously need to grow up, why do the good ones go first? I’m lost and I’m suppose to be on pills for my depression which I haven’t even been prescribed although I’d seen a psychiatrist on the 6 June. What to do?

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kenster1

hi sorry to hear about your dear dad thoughts go out to you all.please don't feel guilty or angry with yourself its really not your fault.stay strong for your family you all need other more than ever.08008081677 is the number for cruse bereavement and they are really really supportive in times of need.tomorrow morning make an appointment and ask about the medication that was issued to you.we have a forum on here called bereavement care and share and its an amazing page with people who have suffered and its really supportive.god bless and take care.

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GlutenLadYorkshire in reply to kenster1

Thanks I’ll call them tomorrow and I’ll have a look at that cruse bereavement thanks again for your kind words.

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kenster1 in reply to GlutenLadYorkshire

no worries glad to help.take care.

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Doneanddusted

Hello there sorry for your loss truly life is full of nasty surprises and unfortunately we the ones left behind have been left to basically (just deal with it)

You really need your medication especially now so go back and see you doctor and insist! Explain why and what is going on in your life and how hard it is without your medication!

Lots of hugs

Kind regards done and dusted

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GlutenLadYorkshire in reply to Doneanddusted

Hopefully will get things sorted

You need to be able to talk out your grief, either or, even both Mother and Siblings. To talk out the good and bad points of your father will eventually help you to move on. Many people feel various mixed feeling, like Anger,Sadness and guilt, it seems you are within these stages, if that is the case you need to come to terms and understand you have nothing to feel sorry about. In this world as we get older and move away from the nest to work the ties that bide us to our families becomes loss strong than what we had when we were children. This is how life is now. To be honest the old days where more inclusive regards being with family.

You mention mental health concerns, have words with your GP, explain the concerns you have with the medication and ask to be returned onto your medication. You are or have been seen by a trick cyclist, you do not explain if you will have a course of treatment there.

Also make a list of all your mixed feelings etc, possibly CBT may help you although it is very important you take your medications when having other treatments. They will recommend when you need to be weened of your medication.

It is hard when we loose family, especially if they are of an earlier period. I have lost many family members over time, it is very hard to accept past generations make that last journey we all need to take. You are not alone. You will never loose the memories of your Father good or bad, memories both good and bad will help you move on through this difficult time

BOB

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Cheers for your words

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kenster1 in reply to GlutenLadYorkshire

glad you checked out the bereavement page really is added support for us.take care.

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GlutenLadYorkshire in reply to kenster1

Thanks it’s been very useful.

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