Isolating

[Malumaf]

I started a new job a couple months ago and I just feel so isolated from the rest of my team, like I’m not truly fitting in with anyone, like specifically one person doesn’t interact with me unless I’m doing something wrong, only time she interacted was when her friend was selling something so I spent $30 on leggings to try and get her to like me, I see everyone interacting and laughing, even coworkers who don’t like each other just talk and have fun, and as soon as I open my mouth I just feel like everyone is annoyed with me, and I don’t think it’s cuz I’m new cuz the girl who I started with gets along with everyone, they’re all invested in her life, and with me, they just don’t wanna deal with me

[hypercat54]

Why would they be annoyed when you say anything? Maybe they think you are shy and they don't know how to deal with that, or maybe you are breaking some unwritten social code. Have you tried to analyse what's happening?

You meet a lot of people at work and some you won't get along with but people talk and laugh to alleviate the bordom and tediousness of work. It doesn't mean they are 'invested' in each others lives or anything. There was an arrogant snotty nosed young girl at my place and when we had to change desks she was busy scrubbing it muttering how dirty it was. I did the same thing back and cleaned mine to within an inch of it's life also muttering. Stuff her!

Sort out the people you like and talk to them is my advice. If you can't think what to say then following the conversation and giving the odd smile will make them feel more at ease with you. x

[UninvitedGuest]

Hey, do you suffer from social anxiety at all? I have the exact same problem, if I'm with people I don't know, my brain instantly attacks me. I tell myself they don't like me, they only speak to me to be polite, they're ignoring me. When in fact, when I look back, I say to myself, I could of spoke a little more or tried harder to engage in conversation. I was also bullied all through school so I find it really hard to talk to people also in fear of rejection or making a fool of myself

[Dolphin14]

I work in a small office. People are very welcoming and kind. For the most part they all get along.

I don't want to get into the office politics. We all chit chat and I've gotten to know them well. Again, all nice people

For me personally I go in, focus on my job and get out. Don't much care what they think of me. I don't want to be part of their issues. My job is completely independent of theirs. So I'm lucky in that way.

I do agree that when our self esteem is low we think no one likes us. Just walk in with your head held high. There is nothing wrong with you.

Start with small talk about them. Most people would rather talk about themselves anyway.