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Does anyone else worry about how your family is ment to cope with you being depressed? I feel like i should feel guilty for feeling this away and putting my family through all this stress/upset :(.

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There are many good things that come from a challenging situation. Sometimes just communicating is enough. They probably don't know what to do or say to you, most people want to help but haven't a clue . So let them know that you want and need their support although you have to do most of the work yourself. I'm sure they are glad to help and I imagine you would do the same for them. No need for guilt . Pam

i do sometimes worry because of my disability, and if I am a drain on our relationship however, yes I can be a bit of a problem sometimes and knowing that therapists have interviewed us both, Hazel on Her own and I have been told to consider how my Wife feels and any expectations She feels could help with my mood.

Friday we have a visit from Mental Health/ Physio to look around the house and garden to see if further help and assistance can be suggested to help me. It would seem at the doors and access points ramps may now be a way forward, also further things in the bathroom may be forthcoming etc. I have a bath lift and I need to gain confidence in its use.

In your case however the need to talk and explain your concerns may help family understand your needs. As long as criticism is constructive, and you have understanding of others needs that will be half the battle. Generally in my case problems are generally noted and we discuss what is needed or required. Remember be understanding with others around you, Mental Health can be very insular and self centred, getting better is part of understanding that and moving on accepting others needs

BOB

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JessyT

I absolutely get what your saying here! I have this niggling feeling like am burden on others and that am draining them it’s an awful feeling to have I do speak to them and tell them how I feel I do struggle with my way of words and sometimes it comes out after a drink which is the totally wrong way to address! I think these groups and others like this are prefect ways for me to get it all out!! 💛

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Lexie101 in reply toJessyT

Thats what i felt like, i felt like i had all these voices inside my head talking and felt like if i said anything to anyone they just wouldnt understand me or would think am stupid and then when id have a drink id just explode and turn into this horrible person x

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JessyT in reply toLexie101

I wanted to be selfish I wanted people to tell me

“oh jess it’s bad ,oh jess I feel so sorry for you I want to help you” but most times it ended in arguments me crying and nothing changing but me feeling EVEN WORSE! I’ve got alittle better at talking without drinking and trying to enjoy my time with my family and friends without dragging all the negative shit that follows me!! Hope your feeling better Jess! Love the name!!

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Lexie101 in reply toJessyT

Our names our cool 🙊. Do you still drink alcohol or have you gave it up? Because am petrified now that iv been diagnosed with depression and anxiety ill turn into a loonatic again when i drink so iv been thinking of just giving it up all together

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JessyT in reply toLexie101

I still drink socially, and it depends on who am with sometimes it’s a few but when am with the gang it’s a 5am job!! You need to know your limit and who to be around not everyone has your best interest at heart and like to see you hit your low!! TEAM JESS👍🏼

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I do all the time, I feel i can barely look after myself let alone my family, luckily my kids are grown up but they worry about me so much as does my husband, its an awful way to be isnt it

Hope you get some releif

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RobertReny

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