WHO DO YOU HANG WITH ?

[sweetiepye]

I read an article about depression recently that suggested depressed people spend time with people who are not depressed and possibly their cheerfulness will change our out look. I do this because I don't actually know that many depressed people. They may be hiding their condition, but that's hard to do over the long term. My point though is that I feel I wear people out with my woes. I only want someone to listen and they think they have to fix me. What to do> On the other hand talking to another depressed person is hopeless as I find we sort of compete with the direness of our situations. I know you are not going to fix me , or I you. The need to talk is there. Maybe we need to talk to anyone who will listen. Pam

[Jaxs050783]

I find people who don’t suffer from any mental health issue are condescending.

They are very matter of fact and simply believe that its easily fixed!

Best to listen and talk to others that are in a similar position as they are more understanding.

Tony

[sweetiepye in reply to Jaxs050783]

I agree with you, I've been offered the snap out of it cure too. I don't have an answer . I read the article and wondered what others think.

[sweetiepye in reply to Jaxs050783]

I just hate being condescended to. Those people are so smug I want to smack them. Lucky for them I have a lot of self control.

[hypercat54]

Well if you do that Pam then most people will leave you I'm afraid. It's a sad fact of life. I agree with Jax that it's best to stick with those who have either been through it or are going through it now. x

[sweetiepye in reply to hypercat54]

I think the ideal person to talk to would be a recovered person , but that would probably put that person in a bad place.

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Pam

Over the last two months I have had to spend time out among Humans. We have spent several weekends in hotels etc and I found by just saying PLEASE and THANK YOU with even a wry smile seems to cheer people up, that in turn makes people, at least smile back in various ways. Depression makes us so very insular and on many occasions. If our face looks sad people pick up on that and in turn they can feel your low mood.

Over the next three weeks or more I am going through many health trails I try and thank the person and say hello when I enter the room, this seems to lift the mood in the room and a smile does seem to help get rid of any tension around

BOB

[sweetiepye in reply to Hidden]

I do think you're right and that means we have a certain amount of control. I don't know about with family and friends though, they hear our stories over and over and I think we wear them out sometimes.

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Pam, my family I do not know anymore so I cannot actually agree or disagree. All I know in the last four weeks I have been staying in various hotels and I have been trying to be more positive in my outlook.

Last Saturday, we were in one hotel and everyone was making a fuss, as usual with Pax. I tried to thank people and I was surprised to find I had a few very nice responses from the Staff of the hotel We even had people complementing us and saying we were fresh air to some of their other guests. That made me smile as generally I have problems if I receive a complement I am unable to take that for what it is worth, ulterior motive generally spring to mind, so please and thank you seems to go a long way

I am still very tentative when dealing with people and at this moment I am going through a rough time with my health at the moment and Hazel is making sure I see things and take advantage of my hobbies and experiences. My sight is getting bad and Hazel knows that

So She is making our time fruitful

BOB